You can set some reward and punishment rules.
1. Encourage: such as verbal praise; Physical hugs and kisses; Material illness or candy?
2. Punishment: Let him sit in the chair in the corner, and don't let him out for ten minutes, but you can communicate with him, encourage him to persist and let him know that some bad things can't be done.
It is most important to educate children to think of ways from themselves. Children are very young, so parents should not be stricter than themselves.
Parents are role models for their children.
In fact, if children are kind, healthy and smart, adults should learn to guide them, not just take responsibility for them.
Twelve-year-old children are particularly lazy and ignorant. How to educate them is very important. We can educate him by rewarding him. good luck
The child is particularly rebellious. What should I do? Children of this age are relatively independent and want to be recognized by their families and friends around them. At this time, if you want to communicate well with your children and make them obedient and sensible, parents should listen to their children's voices more, instead of criticizing and blaming them when they encounter problems. The more rebellious the child, the more parents can relax the discipline of their children's behavior and communicate with their children ideologically. If you have any questions, you can join the 1289857 1qq group, which is a communication platform specially provided for parents of students to share experiences and methods.
What if the child is particularly rebellious? What if he doesn't understand? In fact, what you describe is not a child's rebellion, but a way for children to stand on their own feet in adolescence; Maybe you can't accept the child's way, but the more you ask him not to, the opposite effect will be obtained; For this kind of child, we should not criticize his incorrect way, but guide him to develop in the right direction.
In fact, your mood is also very anxious. You don't want your children to play like this, but concentrate on their studies. You will have a better development space in the future. Your mood is understandable!
Let me give you a suggestion. If you are really worried about your children, adjust your ways. Instead of directly suppressing the child's thoughts, it is better to discuss with him how to better plan his future and seize the present opportunity! In addition, try to treat the child as an accessory, but treat him as a person, a complete person and a thoughtful person, respect some of his opinions and solve problems together.
As we all know, it is most reliable to take away the burning things when putting out the fire, instead of pouring the fire on them directly. This way is unacceptable to most people, let alone teenagers in this physiological rebellious period! Everyone has shortcomings and shortcomings, we are all the same, we are not perfect, so try not to ask others to be perfect!
The child went home and asked him if he was happy today. He will be surprised and wonder why you suddenly ask this question, and then he can slowly think about why you ask. He will take the initiative to talk to you! At this time, you should seize the opportunity to discuss life with him, how to grasp the present and tell him some basic truths and ethics. You should communicate together, not as parents, but as friends! If he has such a friend, it would be better if his friend told him!
Finally, he brought his girlfriend home. Don't look very dissatisfied. You can praise her girlfriend for being beautiful, polite and reasonable, and you can also praise your son for having such a beautiful girlfriend! If you say this, they will do what you mean, because with your approval, children will actively communicate with you! This requires a lot of patience, especially when you can't get angry. Be sure to remember that a child will be independent one day. Don't shut him out, it will make him farther and farther away from you!
I suggest you try my method first, and if it works, I'll tell you the next step!
I wish your family happiness! I wish you husband and wife love! I wish children more and more sensible!
8-year-old boys don't know what to do. Boys of this age are active and curious. They are naughty and super energetic. When you say he is not sensible, it depends on what kind of person he is, whether you don't like the normal behavior of boys of his age, or whether he is really not sensible.
My sister-in-law and I are the same age, only 18 years old, especially 18 years old, and have no marriage certificate. Maybe she will be separated in a few years.
Why do some parents treat their children well, but the children just don't understand? This is the generation gap between two generations. What parents feel is love, which may be bondage and depression. If the child resists a little, it will appear that he is not sensible. Therefore, we should fully communicate with our children by making friends to eliminate the generation gap!
My son is two years old and eight months old. Can he hit the child? First of all, this kind of behavior is definitely discouraged. Children also need respect and should get along with each other as equals. Just like you treat adults, you won't ask if you can hit people, because you know that hitting people is definitely wrong. Similarly, hitting children is definitely wrong.
However, children must not fight? It doesn't have to be like this. If the child does something wrong, repeated education will not change it, and it is useless to persuade. At this time, a meal may make him remember the lesson and play a very good role. However, it must be noted that hitting children is not your emotional vent. You must clearly tell him the reason for hitting people, calm the child's emotions in time and eliminate negative effects.
In short, whether you can fight or not is not the key. The key is when and how to fight. You can grasp this degree well. I believe whether you can hit the child is not a problem.
Babies who are only two or three years old are not sensible. All babies should learn to adapt slowly. As long as you guide them well, the baby will understand that at any time, you should not beat and scold the baby, look at the problem from another angle or treat yourself as a baby, and what will happen.
What should my boyfriend do if he is particularly ignorant? Tell him what you think and feel. It might be useful (if he cares about you). At his age, there is no way! Can make him eat more bitter and exercise more! He will know how to cherish everything around him! In short, his parents are rich! The rich man's son is the emperor!