Wenwen is a five-year-old girl. She usually listens to her grandmother rather than anyone in her family, so Wenwen's mother is curious about what method her grandmother used to make Wenwen obedient. Grandma Wenwen told her that when Wenwen was very disobedient, she would hit her with a small stick. Grandma Wenwen also said that "a stick makes a dutiful son", and this old saying has its truth.
So under what circumstances can this method be adopted?
1, arrogant and willful
If children are disobedient and willful no matter what they say, they should adopt stick education. Let the children know that if they don't listen to others with an open mind and just want to meet their own needs, they will get the consequences of being beaten.
Arrogant and willful personality will not be popular anywhere. Even if parents have patience, no one will tolerate him unconditionally in the future, and it will be themselves who suffer. Therefore, children must be made to realize that just because their families love him does not mean that they will always spoil him. Parents also have principles. Arrogance is wrong and must be changed.
2. Never change after repeated instruction
Xiong Haizi once made a mistake and was scolded this time. He should admit his mistake first and do what he should do next time. He was sincere when he admitted his mistake, but he just wouldn't change. At this time, parents should pay attention. He actually knows what is right and wrong, but he just doesn't want to change it. In this case, it is necessary to carry out stick education.
If you don't correct your mistakes, you are unconvinced and unwilling to do what your parents say. Parents can help build their dignity through stick education, such as telling their children to tolerate him for up to three times. Once this number is exceeded, what awaits him will be pain. In this way, let the child know that parents are correcting his mistakes and should not object. If he makes a mistake, he must correct it.
3. Issues of principle
There are many serious problems that children should never commit, such as fighting, playing with fire or doing other dangerous things. If a child makes such a mistake, he must remember it for a long time at one time and never be flexible. Stick education is the best choice at this time.
Many principled problems, if parents don't pay attention to them when they are young and don't teach them well, it's hard to say what more serious things children will do when they grow up in the future. How many parents on the Internet wait for their children to make a big mistake before they begin to regret that they were not strict enough when their children were young? Therefore, in the face of right and wrong, we must not be soft-hearted, and we must be ruthless in educating our children.
Another point must be noted that "stick education" is only an auxiliary means and must not be regarded as a panacea. When using this educational method, we must have our own principles, we must be a last resort, and we must not be too heavy. If it is used as a common means, it will do great harm to children's physiology and psychology, but it will be counterproductive.