Many educators, including presidents and professors of famous universities such as Harvard and Yale, also agree with this statement.
Richard levin, the 22nd president of Yale University, once said: "Real education is not to impart any knowledge and skills, but to enable people to be competent in any subject and occupation. This is the real education. "
Professor Carol Dwek of Stanford University believes that education should help children learn to grow.
Growth thinking is a concept put forward by Professor Carol Dwek in his book Lifelong Growth.
Professor Carol Dwek believes that people's thinking modes can be roughly divided into two types: fixed thinking and growth thinking.
The so-called growth thinking means that children's thinking mode is positive, thinking that "man can conquer nature" and can do one thing through hard work.
It is conceivable that in the face of an opportunity, children with growth thinking will not hesitate to seize it and go all out to participate. Even if you encounter the worst result-failure, children can accumulate gains in this process.
Children who don't grow up will hesitate when they encounter setbacks, doubt themselves, and probably miss opportunities because they don't try their best.
Therefore, children with growth thinking often have stronger competitiveness and learning ability!
Parents should set an example.
Dr Carol Dwek believes that a child's thinking mode will be influenced by his parents and teachers, especially his early parents.
A simple example:
The result is obvious. Under the subtle influence of parents, of course, the children of parents A are more likely to have growth thinking.
Therefore, parents should pay attention to their daily words and deeds and set a good example for their children.
2. Cultivate children's ability to resist setbacks.
Anti-frustration ability is the core ability in growth thinking.
Cultivating children's ability to resist setbacks requires parents to teach their children how to face setbacks.
First of all, parents should guide their children to look at failure with a more positive attitude, such as:
Secondly, parents should not just watch their children experience setbacks. Appropriate help can improve children's ability to resist setbacks more quickly.
Of course, the help here is not to help children clear obstacles directly, but to help children find ways, such as teaching children how to solve problems and reminding them where they need to improve. ...
Step 3 praise children correctly
Finally, when children finish something, parents should make them realize that success is due to their efforts, attempts and not giving up. ...
Share a parenting list to cultivate children's ability to resist setbacks and communicate with children;
How to cultivate children's key social skills (6 volumes in total)
Theme: children's psychology, communication skills, self-esteem, self-discipline, emotional ability, initiative and prosocial behavior.
Reason for selection:
Most of the parenting books written to parents are pure words, and many treasure moms respond "It's so boring!" "I don't understand", so I specially found this set of comic parenting books.
The book illustrates children's psychological development in an illustrated way, and puts forward 360 "flexible" suggestions for parents. It is short, practical and interesting.
Playful growth
Theme: parenting methods, learning ability, good personality, self-control, good habits.
Reason for selection:
This set of books is based on Dr. Fu Xiaoping's own parenting experience and professional and scientific parenting ideas, with the theme of "How to play with children" to help parents solve common parenting problems and give practical suggestions (including parent-child reading, parent-child games, parent-child movies and other activities).
Fairy tales of crooked rabbits growing up independently (total 10)
Subject: Encountering difficulties is like emotional intelligence problems such as giving up, carelessness, carelessness, procrastination, shirking responsibility, uncertainty, inferiority, and inability to express.
Reason for listing:
Being both "crooked rabbits" series, this set of books is more readable.
It is another masterpiece of children's literature writer Chen following several sets of "Dangdang five-star children's books for life". Its beautiful language, wonderful story and strange imagination can not only help children improve their adaptability to school, but also be a good choice for basic reading and literary enlightenment.
Among them, the book "Xiao Nuan Tinghua Fairy" guides children to learn to face up to setbacks and work hard through the difficulties, setbacks and choices Xiao Nuan encountered in the process of realizing his dreams.
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