What a cruel knockout, the success rate is only one in a few hundred million. Only the strongest and luckiest player can win and enter the "house", where it still needs to face many unknown risks and may give up all its efforts at any time. In this way, the chance of it really reaching the new world is only one in a billion.
Therefore, it is much harder for a "player" to come to this new world than yue longmen, a carp. ?
We said, isn't this a miracle? ?
In our world, one in a hundred is excellent, one in a thousand is excellent, and one in a thousand is excellent. What's one in a billion? And what about this billionth? Who is this miracle?
The appearance of each of us is a miracle in itself.
Thank you very much for the books recommended by my sister Deng Hui, which gave me more spiritual food and feasible ways and means to grow up with my children in such a vibrant spring.
Each of us is destined to be a miracle from the moment when sperm and eggs combine.
I felt a lot when I read this book yesterday. Although the protagonist in the book is rare in our real life, I am moved by every story and experience about children's growth shared by Teacher Jin.
I thank Sister Deng Hui again. Although I have never met her, I can really be influenced by her full of positive energy, wisdom and love.
In the past, although we couldn't control the time of birth and family environment, it is always possible that we can create a better growth space for our children as parents now.
Here, I want to talk about my feelings and hope to share them with you.
0 1 Every child has his own characteristics and personality. While respecting his personality, we should also learn to make him "self-disciplined".
It is undeniable that the child in the book 13 was admitted to an American university, which is incredible to think about. I think, in addition to the innate excellent genes, it is the joint efforts of individuals and families.
Some time ago, I heard a report that parents now love their children very much and pay special attention to their personality. In the dining room, adults eat around a table and let children play at will in the dining room. Children love to run, so they run back and forth in the aisle of the restaurant. At this time, he just bumped into the waiter who served the food, so the tragedy happened and the child's eyes were severely burned.
In fact, such tragedies can happen every day. It's too late to talk about whose responsibility it is, because it's the children who suffer. No matter how distressed we are, we can't take the place of children to suffer.
The word "self-discipline" is rarely mentioned in the report of this restaurant or the book that reminds me, but I will use the word "self-discipline" in my conclusion.
I feel the importance of "self-discipline" for the growth of children and adults from the subtle movements of mother Jin teaching children to clean up desks and shoe racks.
Laugh when you should, and cry when you should.
Just like when we are watching a movie, what we need is to watch it quietly. If we make a scene at this time and run at will, what does our behavior represent?
The so-called self-discipline is an important principle to solve the pain of life with a positive attitude, which mainly includes four aspects: delaying satisfaction, taking responsibility, respecting facts and maintaining balance.
Self-discipline does not mean being bound, but represents our attitude of doing things and being human.
It is always better to be competitive than angry.
Seeing that Kim's mother's son is so excellent makes me curious about the genes of this family member, which is really unusual.
My mother is an excellent woman who has been to dozens of countries and is proficient in Chinese, English, Korean and other languages. She grew up under the influence of an excellent father, and her knowledge and vision may far exceed most of us.
Although there is no space in the book to describe the roles of children's grandparents, fathers and other members, we can feel that everyone in their family is different in the family environment of peer-to-peer communication.
In the process of growing up with children, contradictions sometimes occur. When we want to get angry, we might as well learn to slow down for three minutes and find the answer in our hearts. Don't put the blame on children or teachers, think about whether other measures can be taken to solve it.
Mother Jin shared three particularly good methods with us. You might as well try them.
(1) Paper tearing method: Write your thoughts on paper, read aloud in a closed environment, and tear up the paper after resolving the depression and dissatisfaction in your heart.
(2) Pendulum adjustment method: the eyes swing left and right with the pendulum, which can quickly get rid of unpleasant emotions.
(3) Shake skills: Raise your hands and shake them quickly until your hands feel shaky, which can quickly change your mood and energy.
I have a deep understanding of being a learning parent.
Some time ago, when I was on maternity leave, my boss joked with me: my mother stayed in the baby's brain for three years and gave birth to two children for six years.
Joke is a joke, but it reminds me that I need more exquisite study. Because if you don't open your own vision and pattern, you will be blocked and you will not be able to catch up with your child's growth.
So we made our annual vision board together, and we started reading, exercising, making more changes and so on every day. Because of this behavior, I found myself interacting with my children.
That day, I asked her what she wanted to be when she grew up. She said that she hopes to continue painting and then teach more children to learn painting and become art teachers.
Although he is not the entrepreneur, educator, scientist and the like I hope, I think this child has developed an idea that more people need to learn from his current hobby-painting, and I will fully support it.
So, I told my daughter that I would fully support her to realize her dream.
You see, if I felt belittled or angry at what my child said at that time, I might have changed little, let alone acted, let alone grew up with my child.
Whether we are angry or not depends entirely on our control.
Therefore, it is better to be competitive than angry!
You should firmly believe that good methods come from good questions.
Mother Jin reads hundreds of books every year, and her children read dozens of books every year, sharing them with each other, increasing geometrically, and the amount of knowledge gained is instantly enlarged. How do people do it by reading so much? You can look up books or Baidu, and I can teach you.
I especially like the contents of this "diamond education law": first, every child is a kind diamond, but it may need patience and skill to polish it; Secondly, the beauty of diamond lies in its perfect versatility, just like the diversity of education.
In order to get all the ideas and methods more intuitively, I will share some contents with you:
1. Parents are children's life planners, and family education has three levels.
(A) survival education
(2) Life education
(3) Life education
At what level do you educate your children?
2. Three stages of children's future life: adulthood, success and success.
(a) Adults: by virtue
(b) success: by leadership.
(3) Perfection: Through insight, synergy and creativity.
Where do you want your children to go?
3. There are three channels for the growth of genius:
(a) Parents are geniuses, and so are children.
(2) Teachers are geniuses, and children have mentors in life.
(3) Friends are geniuses, and children have growing circles.
As parents, we don't need genius genes and teachers don't need geniuses, but we should give our children a circle of geniuses who can grow up happily.
4. How to guide children at different stages of growth?
(A) Kindergarten: cultivate good habits
(b) Primary school: making children willing to go to school.
(c) Junior high school: teaching children their own learning methods.
(d) High school: teaching children the skills of competition.
(e) University: guide children to find their own life value and mission as soon as possible.
5. What about parents' educational mistakes?
(A) from "wrong" to "wrong", timely and effective understanding and adjustment is more important.
(2) Control your emotions When you make a mistake, the most important thing is to realize the truth and gain something from this mistake.
(3) Children need to make mistakes in order to turn knowledge into skills. Like learning to ride a bike.
Children don't need "education", what needs to be changed is our parents themselves.
6. Change yourself for your children.
(1) When parents change, children can receive more love.
If you can't influence others, you will be influenced by others.
(3) Happy China begins with happy families, and happy families begin with happy parents' universities.
(4) Parents should not work harder, be smarter and keep a modest learning attitude.
7. The secret of success
(1) Self-confidence: I am confident that I will succeed in anything.
(2) Times: Practice makes perfect, and God can't help you with this problem.
(3) Opponent: Who is your opponent determines the speed of your progress.
(4) Mentor: Who is your mentor determines how far you can go.
If you had shined Hu Shi's shoes and poured Lu Xun's tea a hundred years ago, you might be a master now!
Regarding the sharing of the above content, those who are interested can read it by themselves. There are many wonderful cases, good methods and worth learning.
In fact, I still feel a lot, but the length of the article is limited, and there are more than 3,400 words unconsciously. Haha, my typing speed is really much faster
You see, some methods have been internalized into my actions. In fact, when I was studying, my children and I were practicing some methods in depth, such as reading together, sharing together and making dream boards together. Now, if you feel the contents of the book, you will have more experiences.
I want to say that every child has the characteristics of every child. Maybe our children can't be geniuses and we can't be such excellent parents, but we can stand on the shoulders of giants, learn scientific methods and put them into practice. I think the problem we originally imagined may be solved in our mind.
O(∩_∩)O Haha ~, I don't want to say that I will work harder in the future. In other words, I want to be smarter.
Finally, I strongly recommend the book "Children, Your Real Mother Understand" to everyone! Whether you are a child's mother, mother-to-be or teacher, I hope you can slow down and read and learn more nutrition from it.
Again: no matter how busy you are, don't forget to grow.
Three-dimensional Wu Shu, grow up with you!