First, parents should create a good family atmosphere for their children.
A harmonious family atmosphere is the soil for cultivating good feelings. A family often quarrels, and the relationship is too tense, which will only make children unhappy and unable to concentrate on their studies, leading to loss of interest in learning, let alone success. If parents often drink and play mahjong, it will have the same effect. Family harmony, unity and friendship are the foundation of a family's existence, which is very important to cultivate children's emotions and emotions and help children form a good character. In a good family, parents should have certain pursuits, live a positive and optimistic life, tolerate others and set an example. This is the most basic requirement. Therefore, when children are studying at home, our parents should also make efforts to take time out to study, instead of just thinking about entertainment and relaxation, and jointly create an enterprising learning family environment. Only in such a family atmosphere can we set an example for children to learn, and children will be happy, lively and cheerful in such an environment.
Correct family education must first have a correct influence on children's manners and values of money. Parents should pay attention to educational methods, insist on reasoning, be good at guiding, and try not to educate their children with sticks. Parents should be very concerned about their children, but don't force them to study too much. They can chat with their children more and guide their children's bad psychology in learning in time. In dealing with interpersonal relationships, parents should respect their children's independence, let them fully express their opinions and opinions, and don't always engage in "one-word-for-one" to make family life have a harmonious, harmonious and democratic atmosphere. Parents should fully support their children materially, prepare enough stationery for their children, order suitable newspapers and books for their children and so on. We should mobilize all positive factors in the family and work together to create a clean, quiet and comfortable learning environment for children.
Second, parents should pay attention to developing good study habits.
Excellence is a habit. Habits may be more important than knowledge and ability, and good study habits can benefit them for life. Many children can't control their time scientifically, and some go home from school, playing first and then doing their homework; Some want their parents to do their homework with them; Some copy classmates' homework; Many children can't make good use of their study time, learn independently and concentrate on their studies. It can be seen that the cultivation of study habits is an important and long-term process, which should be given enough attention and patience.
The cultivation of good study habits should focus on learning and start from small things, such as getting up and sleeping on time, attending classes and doing homework, managing stationery, thinking and arranging time. Bad study habits can make people lazy. To cultivate good habits, we should start with behavior training, persist and do it again and again. Even bad habits can be corrected. We can make a "behavior agreement" or "daily life" with our children, focusing on their self-control, supplemented by parents' reminders and supervision, and appropriately cooperating to reward and punish (the punishment agreed by the children in the agreement). For example, I make such an agreement at home, watch TV for an hour after school every day, then finish my homework and do what I can, and so on, and summarize it once a week. For example, in short-term training, children can consciously learn English for 20 minutes every week, and there will be rewards on weekends (including eating McDonald's and giving some pocket money). ), strengthen the formation of good habits through rewards.
Let children consciously resist bad habits. Game machines, computers and televisions in modern society are quite attractive to children. Children should be taught to consciously resist and control themselves. Of course, moderate use of these modern devices in learning is good for children's growth, but children of this age have poor self-control. It can be said that there are too many temptations around children outside the campus. If you are too obsessed with these things, it is very unfavorable for your child's growth. It takes a lot of perseverance to resist these bad things. These things have a great influence on children. If they are not well guided, a good seedling will be wasted. Without excluding the influence of these unfavorable factors, it is difficult for children to calm down and read a good book and complete an exercise. The best way to overcome addiction is to divert attention and cultivate new interests, such as taking part in more group activities to have fun. I usually stipulate that children should not watch TV for more than one hour every day, except Saturday and Sunday. There is no time limit for playing games online for more than 1 hour every day. If you find that she is too addicted to a certain game, take her to the streets, participate in sports and other ways to divert her attention, pay attention to the combination of static and dynamic, and prevent addiction from being difficult to quit. (This should be based on the characteristics of each child to develop their own management methods, such as some suitable for performance, more artistic talent, we must watch more TV, can not generalize. )
Third, parents should pay attention to psychological guidance for their children.
1 Cultivation of self-confidence If children don't want to learn or learn passively, that is, the problem of insufficient learning motivation, this is not necessarily an intellectual reason, but may be caused by repeated failures or long-term unsuccessful feelings. Therefore, the cultivation of self-confidence is very important. Parents should pay attention to the following points:
First of all, we should cultivate children's positive attitude. Children who don't want to learn often exaggerate the difficulties in learning and underestimate their abilities, which requires parents to create more opportunities for success, so that children can experience and know their abilities through successfully completing learning tasks and solving difficulties, and realize the sweetness of success and a sense of accomplishment. For example, a big difficulty can be broken down into many small difficulties, and then one by one, every little makes a mickle. In the face of difficulties, we should encourage more and work harder. For example, "there are no words difficult in my learning dictionary", we must first overcome them in our will. In fact, every child has his own specialty and potential. Parents should be good at discovering and give their children a chance to fully display their special skills, which can greatly improve their self-confidence. For example, at home, arrange for children to do what they can. After doing it well, praise the children and say, "My daughter has grown up now and knows how to help her parents." Don't underestimate these little things, which will have a great impact on her life.
Second, we should cultivate self-confidence by observing and learning from good examples. The power of example is infinite. We should be good at educating and guiding children with examples, especially paying attention to quoting good typical examples in life and inspiring children with the successful behavior of others. For example, I talked about how Teacher Xie's children usually study in our school. After hard work, they were admitted to Peking University this year, which also greatly touched her study. Of course, to set a successful example, we should pay attention to similarity. When a person sees the success of someone with the same level as himself, he will strengthen his belief and think that he can accomplish the same task. If the standard of example is far higher than the reality of children, children will feel "out of reach", which will not achieve the purpose of motivation.
Third, we should experience success from our own progress. To enhance self-confidence and sense of accomplishment, you can set yourself as a reference goal. To guide children to compare with their own past, they will find that they are actually making progress every day and realize their abilities from their own changes. Personal progress can give children a successful experience and increase their self-confidence. Sometimes I often say that when I was her age, many things could not compare with her. In fact, children now know many times more knowledge than before.
2 Stimulation of good learning motivation If the learning motivation is well stimulated, there will be endless power and learning will be very positive. Parents should learn to find every little progress or bright spot of their children with appreciation, praise them in time, and create various opportunities for their children to be rewarded. Parents should consciously praise or seduce their success and strengthen their good behavior and performance in time. Parents should also pay attention to their children's psychological factors, such as clarifying the meaning of learning and knowing that learning is the need of everyone's growth, because only by establishing a clear learning purpose can we have a firm will and confidence to study hard. For example, some children have the view that reading is useless, telling them that reading is the best weapon to change their destiny, no matter in the past, present or future.
(3) The cultivation of learning perseverance. Nowadays, most children are only children, not to say that only children are spoiled, but generally not as many setbacks and hardships as our generation has experienced. In the face of difficulties, we often have wavering thoughts, lack confidence in overcoming difficulties, and sometimes cry bitterness and fatigue for trivial matters. So we should pay attention to the cultivation of learning perseverance. Some educators in ancient China emphasized the role of will in the learning process. Mozi said, "Without a strong will, there will be no wisdom." Zhu said, "If you want to study, you must make up your mind first. If you have a strong will, you can make a second effort in your study. " Learning is a heavy mental work, but also a certain intensity of physical labor. Without tenacious willpower and hard work, you can't achieve excellent results. For children, there are bound to be many difficulties and setbacks. If they face difficulties, they will be able to enter a new realm. If you flinch in the face of difficulties, you will lose confidence and even lose your will. Parents should help their children build up the courage to overcome difficulties. One can't succeed casually. Man's will is not innate, but developed by overcoming difficulties in practice. Difficulties are not terrible, and difficulties are also grindstones to cultivate children's perseverance. Usually, we should consciously educate our children about setbacks. Although failure is a bad thing, it can enhance their tolerance and turn bad things into good things. Everyone knows that flowers and plants growing in greenhouses can't stand the wind and rain.
Cultivating interest in learning is the best teacher. When they have a strong interest, they will greatly improve their enthusiasm and initiative in learning, greatly stimulate their desire for knowledge, and lead to more and more benign development of learning.
To cultivate children's interest in learning, we should pay attention to a wide range of interests like jade carving, and develop central interests according to children's abilities and specialties. Only according to the texture and shape can we make fine products. Some parents, regardless of their children's physical fitness and wishes, blindly force their children to learn many things, such as dance classes, painting classes and Olympic math classes. Everyone has different abilities and interests, but fitness is the best. We can't force them to study indiscriminately, resulting in distraction and nothing. There was once a child who broke the piano because his parents asked him to practice. This not only failed to cultivate children's hobbies, but also cultivated boredom and disgust.
⑤ Overcoming bad emotions in learning has a great influence on children's learning. When you study in a happy mood, you will often have a whim; In an agitated mood, even simple content may not be listened to. We should guide children to adjust their emotions. A good learning attitude is to be tolerant of others, to see the advantages of teachers and classmates, to be optimistic, to fill your heart with sunshine, and to devote yourself to daily learning with a happy mood.
About children being tired of learning. It may be that parents are afraid that their children will be tired and spoiled and unwilling to learn. Over time, these children are lazy in their studies and flinch when they encounter difficulties. Secondly, most children are only children, and they are particularly eager to "be determined to succeed". They think that only by studying harder can they get high marks, and they take unrealistic measures and requirements. They were accused of not meeting their parents' requirements and being tired of learning. If children lose interest in learning and are tired of learning, they will have fear of learning, lack confidence in the face of difficulties, and have the psychology of avoiding difficulties.
We should educate and guide them according to different situations. For example, the amount of homework, for children with strong ability, may be not enough to eat, for children with poor ability, may be overburdened. Be flexible according to the situation. For the latter kind of children, we must liberate them from their homework, start with general observation and reading, cultivate their interest in learning and increase their basic knowledge. When children's observation is improved, their basic knowledge is solid and their intelligence is developed, their academic performance will be gradually improved and their weariness of learning will be overcome.
In the usual educational work, we should pay attention to the analysis of children's psychological dynamics, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, grasp the word "degree", combine leniency with severity, combine rigidity with softness, and let things drift, so as to make the educational work more in line with students' cognitive level and psychological characteristics. Children's psychological adjustment is good and their growth is guaranteed. Parents should cooperate with teachers, contact teachers more at ordinary times, carefully observe children's changes, and take corresponding educational measures in time to eliminate the influence of non-intellectual factors and jointly serve children's intellectual development.
In a word, family education is an important topic for us. The quality of children's education not only directly affects the happiness of families, but also affects the children's tomorrow and the future of the motherland. The content and space of family education are very large. As long as we work hard, we will find many effective measures and methods.