Overindulgence: there is a phenomenon of doting on children in real families. My parents' reason is simple: "Now this child, all I earn is his, so let him do it." Parents unconsciously lift their children to the center of the family, making them "little emperors" and "little princesses", which eventually leads to children's rebellious attitude towards their parents, or even worse. Excessive attention to children, excessive accommodation, excessive satisfaction, and excessive arrangement will all cause problems for children. Parents should avoid doting on their children, especially the elderly at home. We should keep our love for science to protect their growth.

Repression and deprivation: With the continuous improvement of the material level of life at this stage, the form of deprivation of children is no longer material and educational dissatisfaction, but manifested in the deprivation of children's psychological needs, the deprivation of children's right to do things, and excessive repression and doting, so that children do not use their hands or brains. Parents should not pull their children's kite string too tightly, so that children will lose the freedom to soar in the sky.

Constantly urging: children in the past naturally grow up. With the development of society, the competition between people brought by market economy and the environment in which children grow up are all pressures. Every parent is worried about their children's competition for further education. Parents began to urge their children to complete their customized goals and future arrangements. In fact, many talented children fail because of their parents' constant urging.

If you don't respect your child, you always beat, scold, criticize and deny your child: "I'm disappointed in you" sounds normal, but it is a great blow to your child. In education, parents should learn to respect their children and not blindly attack their self-esteem. For example, always beating and cursing, making destructive criticism of children, and always denying children will cause irreparable harm to children's minds.

Discipline and interfere with children everywhere to make them obey: "Don't you listen to your mother?" Always talking about it. Are you a controlling parent? Children don't need to live like their parents, and parents can't make their children obey themselves everywhere to maintain their authority. In fact, in the long run, it will widen the emotional distance between parents and children, and also affect the communication between parents and children. It seems that the child's behavior obeys the arrangement of his parents, but his heart is rebellious and dissatisfied.

Always compare your children with other children: "You see how sensible people are in the morning, how good they study and how obedient they are. Look at you again ... "Comparing with others will only make children feel useless and seriously hurt their self-confidence. I think we can make comparisons, but we should compare our children with the past, not with others, so that children can be more aware of their progress and shortcomings and inspire them to move forward again.

I often yell at my children and communicate with them in an imperative way: "Have you finished your homework? Turn off the TV and do your homework quickly ... "It's ridiculous and pathetic for some parents to yell as soon as their children make mistakes. This is definitely not the right way to open education. It is the best way for parents and children to communicate peacefully to solve problems.