Self-esteem and self-confidence are the basic signs of good psychological quality, and cultivating a high level of self-worth is the key to cultivating children's healthy personality. So, what aspects should we start from to cultivate children's sense of self-worth?
First of all, take advantage of various opportunities to help children acquire the abilities they may master. This requires parents to have an appropriate expectation for their children. What we demand must be achieved by children through hard work. In addition, let the children solve their own problems as much as possible. Design some situations that can promote children's success. Adults must be patient and let their children complete the activities within their power, and must not interfere or arrange, so that children will never feel the successful experience.
Secondly, put forward a moderate evaluation of children's words and deeds, affirm children's advantages and strengths in time, and accept children's various behaviors with a positive attitude. Parents should not be stingy with encouraging language, because the evaluation of adults greatly affects the self-evaluation of children. On this basis, we should teach children to learn correct self-evaluation, let them know their own advantages and disadvantages, and adjust and improve them.
Second, cultivate children's sense of self-reliance and autonomy.
Self-reliance and autonomy refer to the way people think, judge and seek solutions for themselves.
At present, for the only child who grew up in an excessively superior environment, the quality of self-reliance and autonomy is a difficult problem. The first thing parents should do is to consciously change their ideas, reduce their love and accommodation for their children, cultivate their independent living ability from an early age, give them more opportunities for self-exercise and self-service, reduce their attachment to their parents, and improve their adaptability to social life, which is conducive to the development of their independence. Secondly, establish a correct view of children and upbringing. Take a democratic attitude towards education, pay attention to giving children autonomy, often listen to their opinions, let children play a certain role in family decision-making, take certain responsibilities for their own actions and choices, and let children take the initiative to take responsibility suitable for their age.
Third, give children proper frustration education and exercise their psychological endurance and psychological balance from an early age.
A gradual emergence aimed at improving children's psychological endurance to setbacks. Western education and mental health experts generally believe that a good attitude towards discounts is learned from constant setbacks and difficulties in childhood. Parents should educate their children correctly about setbacks, exercise their strong will and character in the face of difficulties and setbacks, create a relaxed atmosphere in the family, let their children have their own methods and lifestyles, and let them form an objective, tolerant, patient and harmonious mentality. Only in this way can children face setbacks calmly and remain optimistic and confident.
Fourth, cultivate children's sense of equal competition and competition.
Equal competitive consciousness and competitive ability are important requirements for the quality of talents in the 2 1 century. Parents need to educate their children's awareness of equal competition from an early age, cultivate their children's spirit of catching up and striving for self-improvement, and educate their children to look at success or failure with a peaceful attitude, winning without arrogance and losing with grace. This requires parents to create as many opportunities for their children to participate in various competitions as possible, and pay attention to guiding their children's mentality in this process, so that children can strive for opportunities to show their abilities.
Fifth, cultivate children's good social skills and the quality of teamwork.
Interpersonal communication is the most basic way of communication between people. Many tasks in the future society need people's cooperation, which requires children to learn to communicate and cooperate with others from an early age. Parents can guide their children to freely express their views and deal with various contradictions in the process of interacting with others, so that children can learn how to live in harmony and cooperate with others in constant coordination and adaptation.