1. Emphasize the importance of self-management: tell children that learning requires continuous efforts and self-discipline, and only by mastering the rhythm and direction of learning can better results be achieved.
2. Establish a goal and reward system: work out clear learning goals with children, and set appropriate rewards for children to achieve their goals, such as watching TV, playing games, traveling, etc. Encourage children to learn spontaneously.
3. Emphasize the importance of self-improvement: tell children that only by working hard can they make greater achievements in their studies and realize their own life value.
4. Advocate independent choice: let children give full play to their thinking and decision-making ability, let children participate in the planning, arrangement and choice of learning methods, and cultivate their autonomy and sense of responsibility.
5. Participate in children's learning: actively communicate, exchange and interact with children, share learning experiences and experiences with children, let children feel the atmosphere of family learning, and let children learn more actively.
In a word, telling a child that learning is his/her own business needs to be based on family education. Parents should strengthen the guidance and supervision of their children, fully develop their subjective consciousness and the right to choose independently, so that children can truly understand and appreciate the importance and value of learning.