After reading such a news, people today are filled with emotion.
A 9-year-old boy in Nanjing accidentally smashed the glass on the school fire hydrant. He was afraid to tell his parents for fear of their criticism.
The child, after three days of long ideological struggle, chose to leave a suicide note and jumped down from the upstairs, ending his young life.
Just breaking a piece of glass made this young child live in constant fear and even paid the price of his life!
While feeling distressed and sorry, people can't help wondering why some children would rather give up their lives than ask their parents for help.
Parents' scolding, reprimanding and indifference are quietly destroying this trust, leaving children to bear the pressure alone at the age when they should be looking for comfort and protection, and forcefully living themselves into an island.
Remember the girl who committed suicide in Jinan?
She condemned her father in a 1000-word suicide note.
The letter was filled with fear of my father.
I don't want everyone to save her, because if she doesn't die, dad will scold him again.
When I was a child, I didn't want to wash my hair. My father slapped me. I couldn't read the Chinese dictionary, so I asked my father. Because I still didn't understand it, my father directly smashed the thick dictionary and peed his pants on the spot.
I want to play with my friends in winter and summer vacation, but I dare not say, for fear that my father will not let me go and that my father will be angry.
The girl lived in fear of her father all her life, and even dared not let her father know about her suicide. How scared I am.
The best family education: children dare to speak, parents will listen.
1, accept the child's emotions
When a child cries, what he needs is not "I told you not to run, it serves you right!" " But "this must hurt. Be careful next time. "
When a child is bullied and wronged, he will not say, "Why don't you hit others?" But hug him and say, "Let's talk."
When a child is anxious about a problem he can't solve, he won't say, "I told you not to listen in class, but now I won't." But to find a solution with him.
2. Listen to your child's heart.
Voltaire said: the ear is the road to the soul, and facing up to the child's voice is the greatest support for the child.
Listen to your child's heart and feel his every feeling, and the child will open his heart to you.
3, believe in children, children will believe you.
Educator Tao Xingzhi once said: "The whole secret of educating children is to trust them."
No matter what the child has done, please stand beside the child. A "I believe you" is a good medicine to cure all emotions.
The relationship between parents and children should be friends and should respect each other. Don't be a parent who scares children.