You can often see many questions about many children on the Internet. Many of them are naughty children, who have done something wrong, behaved rudely to passers-by, and criticized children for defending their parents. Why do you say he is still a child? This kind of wrong doting on children is really undesirable, and there are many problems compared with some parents' denial of children.
What are the bad effects of negative education on children?
self-contemptuous
Parents always deny their children, in essence, hoping that their children will become better and better, and encouraging them to become better through negation. From the parents' point of view, they are complacent if they are afraid of their children's achievements, but simple "negation" will not play a good role. Only negative incentives can make children tell whether they are right or not, and children will think that they are not doing well, so parents will have this attitude towards themselves. If you can't perceive the child's psychological changes and continue to "deny" the child blindly, the child will easily feel inferior.
Unwilling to get close to parents
At school, the sense of security at home becomes less dependent on parents. Strong children can easily make children rebellious, while relatively introverted children will feel inferior and afraid. Children's closest people are parents. When they encounter problems, their parents are their first thoughts. If they behave well and win the bonus, they want to share it with their parents. If they talk to their parents or share their joy, they will not be comforted by their parents. If they want to win the prize, they won't give their children a thumbs-up and get the recognition they want. When they encounter problems again, children will feel inner conflicts and don't want to share them with their parents. Over time, they don't want to be close to their parents.
Affect children's values
If parents always deny their children, the child's subconscious will naturally not think that home is a warm place. For today's children, there is no sense of belonging at home, and there is not enough security at home. Many children are sensible when they are teenagers. Some parents still think they are just children and don't know anything, but they still educate their children in the old way. This long-term denial has always existed in the growth stage of them and their children. If they don't adjust themselves well, they will get along with their lovers with this idea.
psychological problem
The child's inner world is very simple. They just understand things. Parents' repeated denials may express disapproval in their hearts and blame themselves or their parents for the mistakes. Neither of these results is good. Children will feel inferior if they understand this "negation" as their own mistakes for a long time, and will reject their parents if they regard their parents' "negation" as unreasonable. After a long time, they will lack the sense of security for their parents and family.
When educating children, you might as well encourage them more. Children are also eager to get support and encouragement from their parents, so that they can distinguish right from wrong. Encourage them when they should be encouraged, criticize them when they should be criticized, give them a good family atmosphere, let them have a correct view of right and wrong, and make them physically and mentally healthy. If you often criticize children, you should change your way.