First of all, children and pre-adolescent children rebel:
Children's rebellion is generally at the age of 2-3, and they will shake their heads to express their refusal when they encounter unpleasant things. Before puberty, children's rebellious period is usually 8-9 years old. If their demands are not met, they will lose their temper at random. Parents should not take an indifferent attitude and yell at their children, which will do some harm to their hearts and may make them feel inferior and autistic. In this case, parents can meet their children's needs appropriately, communicate calmly and calm their children's emotions. After the child's mood is relatively stable, the rebellious performance can usually be calmed down to some extent.
Second, adolescent rebellion:
It is common to concentrate on 14 years old, showing the development of self-awareness, longing for independence and hoping to get rid of parental control.
1, establish a correct understanding: parents should realize that adolescent rebellion is a normal phenomenon, not deliberate right, and treat and deal with this matter with a peaceful attitude, which can avoid many unnecessary parent-child conflicts;
2. Let go appropriately: after the child enters adolescence, parents don't need to do everything for the child, but should let go appropriately, so that the child can get some tempering and gradually form an independent personality;
3. Understanding and respect: communicate with your child as a friend, talk on an equal footing, listen to your child's thoughts patiently, and let your emotions be reasonably vented. After children enter adolescence, their sense of independence is enhanced, and parents should give full respect to this, such as not reading diaries at will without permission and respecting privacy;
4, pay attention to emotional expression: adolescent children are usually sensitive, so pay attention to the relaxation of tone when communicating, avoid impatience and express dissatisfaction and disappointment with children at will, and be more tolerant and understanding to help children better spend this period;
5. Cultivate a good parent-child relationship: don't always preach or even fight from the perspective of adults, you can reason with your children in a gentler tone. Spend more time with children and care about them, such as playing games together, so as to form a good parent-child relationship;
6. Create a harmonious family environment: Husband-wife relationship is the core of family relationship, so parents should create a good family atmosphere, avoid quarreling in front of their children, generate negative emotions, and let children communicate more when they have rebellious problems. The following methods can be considered:
1, be sure to communicate more and understand your child's growth and your actual thoughts. In particular, there will be many rebellious and hostile problems during the child's growth, and there will even be many performances that challenge the authority of parents. At this time, we should be more tolerant.
2. Don't let children be too anxious and nervous, that is, let children show more positive emotions. When children have problems of rebellion, anxiety and irritability, they must communicate more and try to alleviate negative emotions. You can also take your children out shopping, chat with good friends and watch movies together. And increase the intimacy with children through activities, while diverting children's attention.
3. Children should also be actively guided to develop their hobbies, such as learning to play ball, piano and painting. Only when children have enough things they like to do and set very good goals in life can they actively work hard to reduce the influence of rebellion on themselves. Hobbies can make children happy and happy, such as playing ball, swimming and painting, which can make children full and independent, thus reducing the occurrence of rebellious behavior. Affect children's emotions and aggravate children's rebellious psychology.