When eating, the guests sit down where the host's children want to sit. The little guy started to make trouble: "that's my seat. I want to sit there." The hostess hurried over to persuade, but the little guy was still making trouble, and the man became serious: "If you don't obey, go back to your room!" " "The little guy was really stubborn and rushed upstairs in tears.

The guest quickly said, "Never mind, change your position!" The hostess said, "No, it will spoil the children." Ten minutes later, the little guy went downstairs, and the man asked, "Are you ready?" The little guy nodded heavily and bowed his head to apologize to the guests. At this time, the host and hostess put down the tableware, went over and kissed the little guy affectionately.

Second, the mother is the CEO of the child.

In China, the mother is the child's "amulet", and it is the mother's "patent" to protect the child's weakness and dote on the child. However, this is not the case in the United States.

In a supermarket, an American mother took a little boy about two years old. The little boy sat on the ground with a toy submachine gun and cried, "I want this!" I want this! " Mother coaxed him for a few minutes, as if it didn't work, so she grabbed the little boy's shoulder with both hands and picked him up. She said sternly, "little Peter, look into his mother's eyes and she said no!" " The little boy did not look up. American mother is more severe: "Peter, hold your head up!" " "The little boy slowly raised his head and looked at his mother. A few minutes later, the little boy seemed to read his mother's eyes and handed the toy gun to his mother.

American parents believe that in children's early education, mothers have a great influence on their children's life. In the United States, whether children can eat chocolate, play video games, and invite their children home all need to ask their mothers in advance to make a "budget".

Third, children are always the pride of parents.

An American baby often shows his friends a collection of childish pictures. To be honest, those pictures are just graffiti. Some of them can recognize a bird or a house, while others have no idea what it is. However, this father regards it as a treasure and introduces us one by one how old the children are, which makes people fully feel that the children will always be the pride of their parents.

On another trip, an American executive who led the team seemed preoccupied and kept talking on his cell phone. Friends all thought that something had happened to his family, but later they learned that his son took part in the football match in the community that day. Some people even said, "What's the matter? Isn't it the children playing? " Even so, the children finally reported their war situation to their father in frustration. After hearing this, the father smiled and comforted: "It's so intense! My baby! Unfortunately, I didn't see it. The opponent is too strong! Next time, if we work harder, we can beat them! "

China Child: I need this kind of education.

A way of education that babies need: to cultivate their love.

It is necessary for mothers to explain to their children that being friendly and polite to others is as important as doing well in school. Those children who are emotionally cultivated are often outstanding in emotional IQ, and they have a high ability to coordinate their own needs with those of others, so such people are more likely to be far ahead in life.

Tips: Mothers need to cultivate their children's friendship skills.

A friend said that it was difficult for him to make friends when he was a child. At that time, a teammate was injured, and my friend's mother insisted that he make a phone call and ask the boy how he felt. "Mom," he objected, "he doesn't even know who I am." "He will know." His mother replied. This phone call marks the beginning of close friendship. My mother taught me that friendship stems from your concern for others, not asking others to show concern for you.

The second kind of education that babies need: more praise and more encouragement.

We all know that praise can make people work miracles, and too much criticism will lead children to blame themselves and let them take some risks for success.

There are right and wrong ways to praise. Most parents can count carefully when criticizing their children, but they are vague when praising their children-"You are a great child" will make the temporary glory disappear in an instant. So Yang should be more specific and say "you are brave" instead of "I am proud that you climbed into the car after falling." This clearly explains why this behavior is commendable.

Everyone has a "key area", once praised, it will receive unexpected results. As a mother, you probably know better than anyone what is important to your children-perhaps music, sports or a certain course. If you don't know, there is nothing wrong with asking.

Secondly, because children can only absorb limited praise at a time, the number of giving some praise is small and the number of times is high. A hundred encouragements a minute is better than a hundred praises.

The third way of education that babies need: talking about "taboos"

We live in a dangerous world. In this world, children are exposed to drugs, alcohol and sex. Some mothers worry that talking about such taboo behaviors is encouraging them to do so.

But the opposite is true. The survey found that children who have talked frankly with their parents are less likely to take drugs and drink alcohol. Children need unconditional love, so that the seeds of self-esteem and self-love can grow. This unconditional love doesn't mean that you don't set any boundaries. Setting boundaries is to let children know that he is important to you. When children cross the line, explain to them that you are disappointed in this behavior, not in them.

The fourth way of education that babies need: pointing out the direction.

Children need a moral compass. This means instilling the concept of right and wrong not only on major issues, but also on daily trivia.

A mother saw her 4-year-old son riding his friend's 6-year-old neighbor's car. "Tom doesn't need this car," said his son. "He is at school." He thinks there is nothing wrong with doing so, because his friends won't mind. But the mother insisted that her son take the car back: "It is wrong to use other people's property without permission."

When a mother pays enough attention to the cultivation of her children's sense of responsibility, integrity and loyalty, the value system they have established for their children will become priceless. The best moral guidance is the mother's own behavior. If the mother shirks her responsibility, ignores the rights of others, or reneges, the child will lose the guidance of behavior.

You may not want to hear the words, "But, Mom, that's what you did."

The fifth educational method that babies need: playing with children.

In a short period of time, mothers usually pay attention to important things-catching up with their children and helping them with their homework. However, in our fast-paced society, children are eager for more than that. They want to spend good time with their mothers.

It doesn't take much time, as long as you have a playful attitude, an attitude that is willing to turn homework time into fun or turn housework into games.

A friend lets her children play with their friends in the kitchen. Toys, paints and dirt fly into the food from time to time. A few years later, her son who went to college took an old friend home for dinner. "I always thought it would be great to go to your house," said my friend. "We used to laugh here-the toy fell into the soup."

Being a mother is a responsible job, but it doesn't mean it is a burden. Sometimes you need less responsibility-never mind what you ask of yourself and play with your children.

American parents treat their children not only with love and tolerance, but also with great seriousness. However, in most families in China, mothers play a major role in helping their children solve their life difficulties. However, what children need is not equal, and mothers must consider what their children really need. Among them, children in China need five kinds of education most.