The first is the change of leading activities: before entering school, children's leading activities are playing, often playing games, without any learning pressure; After entering school, the main activity is learning. This mutation undoubtedly cast a "blockbuster" in their hearts. Games can no longer fully meet their needs, but learning has become an activity more suitable for children's psychological growth characteristics. From the teaching point of view, the indoor teaching time is obviously prolonged and the outdoor activities are reduced; In terms of rest, the rest time is obviously reduced, and there is no longer a nap. These "time differences" require an adaptation process for young children. Secondly, the change of social role: preschool children are playful and always looked after by adults; They are full members of the collective. They must strictly abide by all the disciplines of the school and class, such as attending school on time and finishing their homework carefully. Students should not only be responsible for themselves, but also win glory for their schools and classes. Primary school students in grade one are often very happy and proud when they see their role change, so parents should pay attention to this psychological development. The third is the change of interpersonal relationship: children are closely related to their families before entering school, and every move is instructed by adults; After children enter school, they have to leave their parents to live independently in school every day, which will further promote the transformation of children from dependence to independent life. Their circle of communication is no longer limited to a few members of the family. As parents, it is particularly important to carry out educational guidance during this period. How can children adapt to school life smoothly? So how do you prepare for the young connection? I will talk about it from the perspective of life and study.
First, good living habits focus on cultivating self-care ability.
1, insist that children do their own things.
Children's abilities in all aspects are cultivated and improved in hands-on activities, and children should be given more practical opportunities. The development of children's self-care ability directly affects the development of learning ability. Every day from getting up to going to bed at night, we must let our children do what they can, instead of doing it by themselves, so as to improve their problem-solving ability. Don't think that your children can't do it before they can. Before letting children do it, we should teach them certain methods and let them find their own solutions when they encounter difficulties. Parents should give timely guidance.
For example, learn to pack your schoolbag. The biggest change in primary schools and kindergartens is that there are a lot more textbooks at once. In class, many children take books out of their schoolbags and prepare them early, but those who have not developed the habit of sorting are still looking for books in their schoolbags. When the teacher asked the students to turn to that page, those who still couldn't find the book couldn't keep up with the rhythm.
I can clean my desk, have a sense of responsibility for my things, be able to clean it up and not lose anything.
Exercise children's flexible hands and ingenuity. If children want to be smart, they should be allowed to operate more. The coordination ability of the body, in order to make children sit still, must have the ability of coordination and control, and the body should be under the command of the brain. Sit and sit, stand and stand, have requirements for children, and let children have rules.
2. Work and rest on time, cultivate children's concept of time, accelerate the pace of life appropriately, and avoid children from developing the habit of muddling along. The schedule after going home every day is reasonable, and parents don't have to remind you what to do. Go to bed at 9 o'clock and get up at 6: 30 every day. Early to bed and early to rise.
3. Cultivate children's sense of independence.
Cultivate children's desire to "solve their own problems" and serve others. Let the children have enthusiasm, care about the people around them, care about the class collective and take the initiative to serve the class collective. Don't let children rely too much on their parents. When they encounter difficulties and problems, they should first find a way to solve them themselves. When they can't solve it, they go to teachers and parents.
4. Teach children to socialize.
I can use polite language, solve conflicts with my classmates, don't complain, and know "ownership" to distinguish my own things from others'. Don't tamper with other people's things for any reason, you must get their permission first. I will get along well with my classmates, be humble to each other, not haggle over every ounce, be tolerant and generous, not play dangerous games, and know how to protect myself. Let the children know how to obey the rules. Distinguish between right and wrong, and know what you should and shouldn't do. Children go to school not only to learn books, but also to learn interpersonal communication. EQ is more important than IQ.
4. Let children develop the consciousness of listening to teachers at school and parents at home. Now they are all only children. Two generations of parents and grandparents surrounded the child. They always think that children are still young, blindly accommodate them, ask little of them, and even ask them not to listen. In the long run, the older the child, the more difficult it is to manage. The requirements for children should be clear and specific, and the requirements should be made in advance. First agree on how to punish those who fail to meet the requirements, and then strictly implement them without any discount.
In short, the cultivation of good habits should be reflected in all aspects, and it is more important to see the big picture from the small. The cultivation of non-intellectual factors is often more important than teaching children some knowledge in advance.
Second, the cultivation of study habits.
1, the habit of listening carefully
Let children learn to listen, which is what children lack now. Most of the time in class is thinking and listening, listening to the speeches of teachers and classmates, so take the initiative to think and listen carefully in class. When chatting with children, we consciously let them talk to adults. Nowadays, chatting is based on children's ideas, so we should consciously change the way of chatting. In addition, training can also be carried out when cultivating children's self-care ability. First of all, tell children how to do things in an orderly way, let them repeat after listening, and then think about how to do it before doing it. This can also overcome the child's impatience.
2. Focus
Methods 1: Parents and children do puzzles together, and the difficulty of puzzles will gradually increase. Puzzles can exercise children's observation ability. When children are doing puzzles, they are easily involved. Unconsciously, they can sit still for a long time and concentrate for a long time. When parents and children do puzzles together, they should actively encourage their children to complete the picture. Parents can also hang their children's assembled picture frames at home to let them experience a sense of accomplishment.
Method 2: Before telling stories to their children, parents can ask their children questions and let them listen with questions. After listening to the story, the children can answer questions. Listening to stories with questions will make children more focused and listen to stories more seriously.
Method 3: In life, parents can often ask their children to help with all kinds of small things, ranging from one to several, and ask them to complete them at one time. For example, "please bring me a pear, a fruit knife, paper towels and some toothpicks." You can also often ask your children to send messages to other elders, "Tell mom to remember to pick up the newspaper when you go upstairs." Statements can be changed from short to long.
Method 4: prepare some books for children that match the contents of CDs and books. This kind of books mainly listen to tapes and use pictures to deepen understanding. This learning method based on listening and watching is of great significance to children's future primary school study.
Getting children to concentrate on their work is not a one-off event, but a task that requires parents' long-term efforts. Parents should be patient with their children, see their progress bit by bit and encourage them. At the same time, when parents improve their children's attention, there are also several points to pay attention to:
★ Encourage children to focus on one thing for a period of time.
★ When children finish their homework, they should have a sense of time and don't give them too much time.
★ Give children a fixed and quiet study place, a fixed study time, and try not to disturb the study time.
★ Help children gain self-control ability and avoid all kinds of interference. For example, try to avoid putting snacks and toys on children's desks.
★ Avoid talking to children repeatedly. Talking to a child only once is a good way to cultivate his attention.
A good reading habit is 20 to 30 minutes every day. As a parent-child reading time, guide children to concentrate on reading, writing and drawing, cultivate children's ability to learn independently, and choose books suitable for children to read. Stories should be short, and it is best not to read comic books. Don't watch cartoons, watch less TV, and let children listen more and watch less.
4. Some necessary knowledge
Know the numbers; Addition and subtraction within 20; Know more words after five and a half years old; Chinese Pinyin can be recognized and read. Don't tell your child other knowledge in advance, so as not to make your child tired of learning after school, which will lead to not listening carefully in class. However, if children's abilities are not well developed, they may not be able to keep up with school.
In addition, parents should change the way of educating their children, and don't always treat their babies in the same way when talking to their children. Educate children to cooperate with teachers and treat children's problems objectively. Teachers always hope that your children can develop smoothly and comprehensively, and look at each child from a holistic perspective. You should cooperate with the teacher to educate the children, and don't always report the mentality that the children are still young.
In short, children are a mirror of parents, and their performance in school directly reflects your cultivation and education at home. Children's learning situation not only reflects their learning ability, but also reflects their abilities in all aspects. We can't just pay attention to children's learning. The improvement of learning ability is based on the improvement of other abilities.