Causes of junior high school students' rebellious psychology: reflection on parents' educational methods
Parents' words and deeds affect their children. Many junior high school students' language behaviors begin with imitation, so if some adults do something inappropriate, it will easily be reflected in their children's behaviors. I usually lose my temper when I encounter bad things, and couples often quarrel.
Junior high school students feel unreasonable when they lose their temper. If parents blindly deny, even belittle, attack or even scold their children, and think that this is the only way to solve such problems for a long time, they will learn.
Parents often make their children dissatisfied and disappointed.
Now some parents often make some promises in front of junior high school students, such as: where do they promise their children to play on weekends and holidays? Children promised to buy delicious food for others when they were sad or during some festivals, but in the end, adults failed to fulfill their promises for various reasons, which made children very disappointed.
When negative emotions accumulate, they will get angry and express their dissatisfaction. Other parents ignore their children's feelings, say some of their mistakes in front of others, or endlessly educate themselves about their current mistakes in front of their children, making them feel that they are all wrong, leading to emotional impulses.
How should junior high school parents educate their children to combine rewards and punishments?
Only reward children without punishment, junior high school students will not know what rules are, and when they grow up, they will have no legal awareness, which will easily lead to crime. If children are punished without rewards, they will lack motivation and easily lose themselves and the meaning of life when they grow up. They often ask themselves what is the meaning of living.
The combination of rewards and punishments is the best way of education, and more attention should be paid to rewards on the basis of the combination of rewards and punishments. Because punishment can't make bad behavior disappear, it just temporarily suppresses bad behavior. Rewards and punishments should be timely. If it is not timely, rewards and punishments are invalid.
Have confidence in junior high school students
Especially in learning, junior high school students should be encouraged to complete their learning tasks independently-don't act as crutches for children and don't let children rely too much on their parents and elders. Parents should educate junior high school students at home and create a more relaxed environment for their children.
Let the children develop freely. Praise and affirm children's advantages and strengths in time, stimulate children's internal motivation, cultivate children's self-confidence, and make children form good habits of conscious learning.