Family style is very important for family inheritance. Without an honest family style, it is impossible to keep a family from falling apart. A family with identity is cohesive. Obviously, this sense of identity cannot be family property, because property is often divided up and eventually exhausted. There is only one thing that all family members can share, which will not decrease but will increase-that is, the "family style" that all family members are proud of. Family style is an essential element of an influential and prestigious family and the core value of a family.
Family style is often reflected in the family rules and regulations that ancestors have high hopes for. These family rules have many names in China: "family rules", "family rules" and "family instructions". In a word, it is "family education". Invisible family style must rely on tangible family education to spread and carry forward.
Family instruction refers to the instructions for future generations to live in the world and manage their families.
Since the early Han Dynasty, family instruction works have gradually become rich and colorful with the evolution of dynasties. Genealogy records many famous sayings and aphorisms about being a parent, which has become a good strategy to manage the family and a model of "cultivating self-cultivation" and "keeping the family in order". For example, the idea of "a porridge and a meal, when thinking is hard-won" still has positive significance today. In the genealogy, there are many detailed family instructions and rules. For future generations to follow. Among them, the most famous family instructions, such as Yan's Family Instructions and Zhu's Family Instructions, are widely known so far.
The reason why family precepts are valued by the world is mainly to advocate loyalty, filial piety and righteousness, and to teach etiquette and ethics. In addition, what is advocated and what is forbidden is also an important content in family law, such as "frugality should be respected" and "evil witches should be banned".
In short, every family has different family rules and family instructions. Common genealogies generally include the following:
First, pay attention to family law and national law
2. Harmonious families and villages
Step 3 honor your elders
4. Conform to ethical norms and correct the name.
Verb (abbreviation of verb) Ancestor Sacrifice and Grave Sacrifice Procedure
Step 6 cultivate one's morality
Example:
Quoted from Zeng Guofan's family instructions
Eight characters: brothers, sons and nephews at home, but remember grandpa's eight words, saying: "test, treasure, morning, sweep, book, vegetable, fish, pig."
Eight books: There are still eight books in my diary, which say, "Reading is based on exegesis, writing poetry is based on tone, caring for relatives is based on gaining goodwill, keeping in good health is based on avoiding anger, keeping in good health is based on not talking nonsense, staying at home is based on not being able to do anything, being an official is based on not asking for money, and marching is based on not disturbing people." These eight books are all based on experience, and I will teach my sons and nephews to keep them in mind. No matter the chaos in the world or the wealth of the family, as long as they can keep the eight books of Xinggang and the other eight books, they will always be regarded as excellent families.
Twelve-style self-cultivation:
1, main aspects: neat and serious, always careless. When there is nothing, the heart is in the cavity; When doing things, be single-minded and not miscellaneous, such as rising day by day.
2. Sit-in: As long as you sit for half an hour every day, you will experience the kindness of being quiet and living in the sun, and you will be as quiet as a town.
3, get up early: wake up when you wake up, don't fall in love when you wake up.
4, reading is not the only thing: if you don't finish reading a book, don't read his book, read the east and the west, follow the outside world, and the daily rate is ten leaves.
5, reading history: C subscribes to twenty-three histories and reads ten leaves a day, although some things are uninterrupted.
6, be careful: attention is the first time.
7. Nourish qi: You can say something to the people in the gas storage.
8. Protect yourself: frugality and abstinence will always be a disease.
9. God knows his death: I will say one in every diary. It can be divided into virtue, knowledge, economy and art.
10, don't forget the month: write a few poems every month to test the accumulated amount and the prosperity of qi. You can't worry blindly, it's the easiest to drown your heart.
1 1. Writing: Write for half an hour after breakfast. The place where pen and ink entertain is your homework. If you don't leave it to tomorrow, the more you accumulate, the harder it will be.
12, staying at home at night: working hard and quitting.