It is wrong to have no parents. We must be grateful to our parents and respect them. This is not what parents say with their eyes closed. No matter what and how wrong they are, there are no wrong parents. Many parents who are not, we still have to respect them; Not to respect and agree with their mistakes, but to respect him as a person. We can disagree with his mistakes, and we can talk to them about his mistakes to solve the problem. But we should respect his attitude. Without them, there would be no you. Always look at them with grateful eyes. Treat parents with care.
When it comes to filial piety, basically, the most important thing is not what you have done for your parents, but what is your relationship with your parents? Although many people have done a lot for their parents, their relationship with their parents is not good. Someone said, "Why am I not filial? I send him money every month, I am not filial? " I have a friend who goes to see his parents every Sunday and invites them to dinner. In today's Shenzhen, this is already very rare, where can ordinary people do it! A son who can do this already wants to give him a thumbs up. However, once at a dinner like theirs, I happened to be eating in that restaurant, so I went over and said hello. I have a deep feeling that what he did was right, but he didn't do it with his heart. Why? Because I saw his attitude towards his parents, he was just doing what he should do in business, and he didn't use this time to establish a close relationship with his parents at all-no intimate conversation, no relaxed atmosphere, no warmth of family gathering, which gave people an obvious feeling: Well, I did what I should do, and then we went our separate ways. See you next week. You will be the leading role.
Many people can't honor their parents because they are not independent. Each of us needs to leave our parents. Leaving your parents doesn't mean ignoring your parents, declaring independence and never listening to your parents again. Leaving parents, the most important concept is to live independently, be responsible for everything and be a mature person.
Many people get married and have children, but they never leave their parents. Why? Because he is not independent, economically independent, emotionally independent, and many things are not independent; As soon as he saw his mother, he became a three-year-old child. I am a parent myself, but I still can't be independent. How can you honor your parents without independence? It's hard! He thinks that many things are natural, and my parents still have to take care of me even when I am 70 or 80 years old, because they have taken care of me since I was a child.
If you don't know that you have grown up, you are an independent person, and it is difficult for you to honor your parents. It's hard for you to think that it's my turn now, so this is also a very important reason that often prevents us from honoring our parents. Parents are old.
Parents are no longer superman. I am getting old. Many people can't honor their parents because they have unrealistic expectations of their parents. When we were young, we all thought our parents were superman. When children quarrel, they often say, "My father is better than your father." But when we grow up, we will know that parents are not superhuman, and parents are very limited people. And if we still have a superhuman expectation, we will often have a lot of great dissatisfaction with our parents. No matter how much progress our parents have made, we feel that it is not enough.
I know some people who are cruel to their parents. I said, "How can you treat your parents like this?" He said to me, "Oh, you don't know!" He began to speak ill of his parents. There is something in what he said. However, many times, I found that he was too demanding of his parents, and it was impossible for them to meet his requirements. You know, parents are human. His energy is limited, his time is limited, his money is limited, and everything he has is limited. How can he satisfy you infinitely? However, there are also many children who are very angry because their parents have not satisfied him. From the beginning of "anger", the relationship with parents is not good, and it is getting worse. So we should know that our expectations of our parents are reasonable and unreasonable.
Nowadays, many people spend a lot of money for themselves every week, such as eating well, dressing well, going to the movies and shopping ... people in rural areas can live for a month by buying a pair of sneakers casually.
If we don't know how to be grateful, we won't be satisfied even if our parents do more for you. How can you be filial if you are not satisfied? If you think about it in your heart, you will get angry. If you simply ignore him, you will have a distance from him in your heart. So we live in today's world and should not have unrealistic expectations for our parents. Our parents are also a weak person. He can't do many things, and he can't help it. If you don't expect anything from them, then they will give you something. Be nice to you and you will be happy. When our parents are kind to us and we have a grateful heart, we will live happily and honor them easily. Be willing to give, never be selfish.
When I was a child, my parents were selfless, but are you willing to pay the price today? If we cannot honor our parents, we are selfish. To be filial to parents is not just a matter of saying a few words, but a price to pay. You need to spend time and energy on them, and sometimes even spend money; You can't honor your parents if you refuse to pay the price.
Many times we are really selfish. You see, many young people have become their own parents. Strangely, when the child was ill, she didn't bother to take him to see three doctors. If you can't see one, you can change it. What about when her mother told her, "Daughter, I'm not comfortable here"?
Children learn piano, swimming, taekwondo, this and that, and these parents are busy doing this and that. However, their parents sometimes want to go shopping in distant shopping malls. Is there a shuttle service? No, what is this? Selfish! Today, some people, whose parents want to see a doctor, have no time to arrange it, and he can't leave. He is really embarrassed. What is this? Selfish; Selfishness prevents us from honoring our parents. To know what parents really think.
If you are used to listening to your parents, it is definitely a blessing in your life; Because this is a very important beginning for you to honor your parents, you should learn to obey. And this "obedient" is not only listening to what he says, but also learning to listen to what he hasn't said yet; What he said has a meaning, and there is another meaning in his heart.
Many parents, you ask him: "Where shall I take you to play?" He will often answer you, "Not good." Actually, does he want to go? I wanted to go, but he didn't want to disturb you, so he turned you down. How are you going to listen at this time? You will be obedient, you will honor your parents, you will know what he really thinks, and you will know what will make him happy. Express your love to your parents openly.
As children, we should learn to express our love and gratitude to our parents in some public places instead of letting them know in private.
We in China are quite conservative and seldom thank our parents in some public places. In fact, this is our affirmation of parents, but also the honor of parents. This is very important, because life is really monotonous when people are old. There is nothing in their lives, and no one says anything about them anymore. Therefore, if you occasionally have such an opportunity to thank them, it will really give them great comfort.
But there is one thing that children should pay attention to. If your parents are young and you want to do this for them, he may not have time to talk to you. To tell the truth, middle-aged people don't need this. He still has a lot of things to do. He is as busy as a bee in his career. He is not very interested in it. If you do it for him, he may not be very grateful or feel particularly valuable. But when people get old, they really need these things. So young MM and DD don't have to worry too much, but they should take it to heart and remember to wait until their parents are older.