Chatting with a neighbor's mother that day, she said that she was so angry with her mother-in-law these two days. I said, what's going on? She said that the child is only two years old and teaches him to read every day. Every time I go out, I will teach my children to recognize the house number and license plate number, which makes me very angry!

I said, isn't that good? She said no, the parenting book was not written. Don't teach your child to read early, otherwise it will destroy his imagination and creativity. Besides, I am such a child, hoping to give him a happy education. Those rules will constrain his behavior prematurely. I don't think it's appropriate. I hope he has a happy childhood.

Coincidentally, I once heard a treasure mother express this feeling. She said that many parents choose to let their children have a happy childhood, play more and study less, and have no burden. But while we are still proud of our concept of parenting, the children in our neighbors are quietly changing.

Second, what is the original intention of parents to advocate happy education?

Why do many parents advocate happy education? In addition to caring for children and wanting them to live a carefree childhood, they also misinterpreted the essence of happy education. Such parents usually have the following understanding of happy education.

1, learning is very hard

Many mothers don't like studying themselves, so what about this? Study? Just a headache, think about it? Forced? Children's study will lead to their unhappiness. In fact, this may be due to parents' own reasons, which lead them to project their feelings on their children and think that learning must be unhappy. So draw a conclusion: learning can't be happy!

When parents think that learning must be very hard, they subconsciously put this kind of? Feeling and anxiety? Pass it on to children, and even often educate children that learning is very hard. If you want to succeed, you must suffer a lot? . Therefore, when children receive such information, when it comes to learning, they will immediately associate with pain and show extreme panic and reluctance. As the saying goes: there is a road in the mountain of books, but there is no limit to learning the sea. Learning equals suffering,

I remember Dong Qing once said that if she didn't read a book for a day, she would feel uncomfortable all over, just like not taking a bath. It can be seen that learning is not just pain. When you regard learning as fun, you will find that learning can not only bring people a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction, but also broaden their horizons, increase their knowledge and improve their personal quality. When all this comes unconsciously, you will find that learning is actually a very happy thing.

We should cultivate our children into people who enjoy learning, not people who study for the sake of learning. Once they have another level of learning consciousness, their learning process will become happy and beautiful.

2. Indulgence is happiness

Many parents think that once children are bound, they will lose their self and personality. Therefore, in the process of education, they will unconditionally meet the requirements of children, so that children can release their nature to the maximum extent no matter what situation or occasion. They believe that once the rules are set for children, it will destroy their creativity and imagination. Only by letting them? Do whatever you want. In order to play the role of education.

Once parents have the wrong idea, they will not make rules for their children. Once a child has no sense of rules, there will be no standard and bottom line for doing anything. Over time, children have developed the habit of being alone. When children are integrated into the collective, they will not be able to adapt to the collective life and get along with other children, thus going to the other extreme.

Therefore, happiness education is not indulgence, but the integration of happiness factors into the education process, interaction with children in the form of games, so that children can experience the rules in happiness and let them know the boundaries of freedom. When they know how to obey the rules, they will be more easily integrated into the group, more popular, and thus get more happiness.

3, blindly follow the trend and fall into a black-and-white thinking mode.

Excessive attention and neglect are unfavorable to children's growth. Many parents read many parenting books in order to let their children have a high-quality childhood. As long as it is about children's education, their eyes immediately light up and they go to study.

Although these parents have made a lot of efforts, they usually have little effect, because they have not taught their children in accordance with their aptitude, paid no attention to their children, and have not entered their hearts. They just blindly learn other people's successful methods, but ignore each child's different personality, family and environment. Copying will only make them fall into deeper confusion and make children at a loss.

What have you heard most about education in recent years? Reduce the burden? 、? Happy education? 、? Quality education? The topic of reducing children's learning burden makes parents believe that giving their children a happy education is the real demand of the times.