Some children have procrastination and procrastination problems. Some people call this "procrastination", and parents are helpless, especially in their studies, which is really miserable. In fact, procrastination is only an external manifestation and the result of behavior. The deep-seated reason is the function of consciousness and cognitive ability.

Consciousness is an abstract thing. When it comes to consciousness, it is difficult for most children and parents to resonate. We might as well analyze the various manifestations of procrastination, trace back to the source, and understand the real reasons of procrastination.

Around procrastination, we make a decomposition cross-linking diagram:

In the above analysis, we can find an interesting phenomenon: all the manifestations of procrastination point to a common experience-satisfaction, which he can't get in the things that make him delay. This shows that when a child is faced with something that makes him "uncomfortable", human instinct (subconscious) is controlling him.

Therefore, it is often said that children who procrastinate have no sense of time and weak self-control. Obviously, for children with weak self-control, they need a strong constraint-time, so that time can recover control from the subconscious and use time to regulate and limit his behavior. Moreover, it is important that time is a third party, rational, objective and fair, and there is no emotion in it, which is easy for everyone to accept.

Do well is better than say well. When it comes to doing the best, how to do it is the key-time schedule needs to be completed by children and parents. It is easy to make a timetable, but it is not easy to make it work. Everyone has a primitive instinct, and a useful timetable is this: when a child does things strictly according to the plan, he will get a sense of satisfaction, and when he doesn't, he will get an uncomfortable experience. As long as you persist, you will get used to it.

When children procrastinate, parents need to reflect on themselves. They should not be simple and rude, nor should they look on coldly. They need to put themselves in their own shoes, treat their children equally, have a heart-to-heart relationship with them, resolve the unfavorable factors from the source, increase the favorable factors, and never form opposition, which will only make things worse. It should be noted that the three rebellious periods are the formative period of children's character. Parents don't have to be anxious, and stick to one principle: respect is not suppressed, care is not arranged, and communication is not allowed.