Say: Family education is a child's first teacher? Therefore, a large part of a child's character and conduct comes from parents or guardians. When I first saw PUA in Family Education, I was quite surprised. I believe you will be like me! What parents in this world don't love their children? As far as my current cognition and judgment are concerned, the answer to this question is no, yes, no one does not love, but it is because of too much love that everything is limited. Once it exceeds a certain standard, it will deteriorate. The water in the river will not dry up all year round, and people on both sides will benefit. But if there are too many, there will be floods and life will be ruined. The same is true of parents' love for their children. Because I love too much, I am afraid of losing, so I have a desire to control. I hope that children will listen to themselves and build one? Good boy? Some people assume that once the child does not continue, he will have extreme thoughts and practices, such as violence against the child. Children are in a fearful environment for a long time. When their psychological cognition is completely immature, children will imitate their parents' behavior and apply their own experiences and experiences to others in the same way, thus producing a very horrible mental illness.
Besides, have you compared with other children? This is probably what every child will experience! It's also what parents blurted out. But everyone's psychological endurance is different from the so-called desire to win or lose, and such a sentence will also lead to psychological problems. Eun-sung in the Korean drama "Top Floor" is that her mother is too eager for success and doesn't want her to be worse than anyone else. She tried her best to create an unparalleled image for herself, and eventually lost her self-awareness and became an emotionless game tool, leading to serious mental problems. So overemphasizing the gap will stifle children's confidence.
Throughout the ages, probably any parent will look forward to his son becoming a dragon and his daughter becoming a phoenix! I put my unfulfilled ideals and wishes on my children. I think children should be as good as I thought, so I have been giving them all kinds of extra-long classes, forcing them to study, ignoring their personal thoughts and hobbies. In the long run, it will inevitably produce PUA in family education, with incomplete understanding of things, lack of sympathy, extremism and serious self-harm. Therefore, love is moderate, and true love is to make children happy and become better, not to be the best. As for the good standard, it can also be that this year is a little higher than last year.