Nowadays, parents feel that their living conditions are good, they can give their children some pocket money appropriately, and they can also give their children better treatment in material life, but they really ignore that people's desires are endless, just like the old saying that desire is an abyss. Any desire grows with your own troubles and habits. Adults sometimes can't control their temptation to money and external desires. Not to mention a child. Sichuan 13-year-old children actually poisoned their parents with rat poison and bought a mobile phone. The insurance premium was 10000 yuan. His parents didn't satisfy his desire and even killed his parents. Through this case, I am alert that the education of children must be cultivated from an early age, and children should know thrift and contentment from an early age. That's all that matters.
I will correct my mistake soon. The living conditions of my family are well-off in the local area. Besides, my parents are very kind to me. When my children study well, my parents reward them with money, hoping that their children can study better. But ignoring this will make children misunderstand, increase greed and increase their desire for material enjoyment. I think they study not for themselves, but for their parents. My mother told my daughter before that he would give 50 yuan RMB bonus before 10, and 100 if he entered the top three. Because my parents have good conditions at home and want the next generation to be outstanding, I didn't stop my parents from doing so until I saw the happy life lecture explained by Teacher Cai.
Because the child has begun to have bad changes, as soon as the child's grades come out, he immediately goes to his grandmother's house to ask for a bonus. When he comes back, he tells my wife that both grandparents give her a bonus, and so will our parents. My answer is: "What do you want so much money for?" The child said, "I earned this money myself, and I decided how to spend it." I also said, "My parents will prepare everything you usually want." Why don't I deposit a passbook in the bank for you and spend it when you grow up? "Children are children after all. At that time, he thought it was good to do so and agreed. In fact, I began to realize the disadvantages of giving bonuses to children in this way, but I didn't realize the seriousness. After watching the lecture on Happy Life, I began to change myself.
When my children want to go to grandma's house for a bonus after their grades come out, I will say to my daughter, "doll, you see that your grandmother is frugal in clothes and food, but why is he willing to spend money on your children?" In fact, the purpose is to hope that you will become an adult in the future. When you grow up, don't ask grandma for money, because we are just children and our family conditions are no worse than others. Knowing that it is not easy to take care of the elderly and knowing that it is not easy for the elderly to save money. " In fact, my parents have been frugal all their lives, and children have known it since childhood. Take their meals as an example. Parents seldom cook in the evening. Even a piece of tofu does not exceed three dishes at noon. My sister-in-law and her parents have said that there are five in their family, but this living habit has been formed and it is difficult for them to change. Although we are a family of three, we are all better than our parents.
And I will try to take my children to their parents to see their living habits and eat there. The children were very moved when they came back. Tell me why grandma is so frugal. My answer is, I hope to save more money for my children, and I hope that the next generation will be happier, but they can eat enough. The children began to understand their grandparents' intentions, and I began to change myself from small things and learn to be frugal. It took less than half a year.
And this case proves that I received a very good educational effect without money. That is, I started to do it myself, and then I sincerely communicated with my children. Children can naturally understand and appreciate the hearts of adults. What my child often says to me is: "She doesn't need me to save her much money, as long as it is enough for her to go to school. I asked the child why he thought so. The child replied, "She doesn't want my wife and I to have the same hardships as his grandparents, but wants us to be happier than them. "This also proves that sincere communication can promote the relationship between mother and child, so that both sides can feel that they both want each other to be happy.
"Don't do it with small goodness, and don't do it with small evil." I used to feel that I was a working-class person with little income, so I felt that doing good deeds was far away from me. When I had money, I was doing great things. But at that time, I didn't feel far, but I felt very realistic, because now people are very selfish and think for themselves. In other words, if you spend enough, it will be difficult to find someone who can give alms to others. But I was deeply moved by the lecture on a happy life, that is, we should start from the small things around us quickly, even if we give alms to a beggar, as long as we help others within our own ability, it will be the happiest, because after all, we are richer than them, and alms can make more people happy, for our own happiness in a concrete and selfish way. Because everything our parents do is the shadow of their children. In fact, I was selfish when I started doing good deeds. I hope my children can learn from me. Now I really think that when you help a person solve a problem, happiness at this time can't be bought with money. This also proves that money is not everything.
In today's society, especially in China, many young people feel that foreign countries are good, and even go abroad for gold plating, but when they come back, they feel worse than themselves. The reason is that the people of the motherland have "human feelings", "filial piety", "family ties" and "friends". This proves the importance of China culture. Although the education of sages in China has been destroyed, the roots of filial piety in China are still there. At least now people in their forties know how to be filial to their parents. It's not too late to correct their mistakes at once. As a descendant of Chinese culture, everyone has the responsibility and obligation to make this ancient culture brilliant again. In fact, the reason why China's culture was abolished was not that China's culture was bad, but that the sages who were studying at that time said that they did not do it, which led people to think that China's culture was backward.
Now, Yang Shufen, an outstanding descendant of Cai Lixu and China who has awakened, has set a good example for those who want to restore China culture. In a word, I have a lot of feelings and confidence by studying the lecture on happy life. Although my foundation in ancient Chinese and literature is not good, I am confident that I can start from scratch and try to be a good example for my children and people around me. I believe that "faith is the mother of Daoyuan's merits."
Finally, wake up parents who still want to use money to encourage their children to learn. Many facts have proved that this can only increase their greed and desire, and will not have a good result. Please remember that money is not everything. Only by cultivating children from an early age to form a good habit of cultivating, accumulating and cherishing blessings will the future be happier. May the world be full of love and the people in this world be happy.