First, family education plays a fundamental role in the formation of people's thoughts, morality and psychology.
China has a history of 5,000 years of civilization, and elegant education has been passed down from generation to generation. However, in reality, there will always be some "problem" students. Of course, in a big society, it is impossible for everyone to be a moral model, and it is normal to make some small mistakes. Which is the lack of "problem students", family education, school education or social education? Everyone has heard the saying "parents are the first teachers of children". What parents say and do will always affect their children's growth. Parents not only have the responsibility of raising, but also have the responsibility of education. Let's look at history. No matter in ancient times or in modern times, countless generals, countless sages and countless "great men" have become heroes, literary masters and knowledgeable ordinary people who died for their country, which fully shows that their growth cannot be separated from family education, and family moral education has laid the foundation for children's growth.
(A) to see the meaning of each move
Children are the future of the country. Children are also the future of the family, so it is unrealistic to improve people's quality only by school education and social education. I think family moral education is the foundation of school education. Let each of our parents relive these historical stories, such as "Kong Rong Li Rang", "Lamb Kneeling" and "Mother-in-law Tattoo", so as to moisten children's pure hearts and cultivate their good moral quality with ancient civilization. A person's words and deeds can reflect a good family education. I witnessed such a thing with my own eyes: one morning this summer, I went to a rice noodle shop for breakfast, and a table next to it was full of four people. One of them is a little girl of seven or eight years old, talking while eating. Suddenly a sneeze hit the opposite man in the face, but the girl did nothing. Her mother took out a tissue to wipe her mouth, and the man didn't make any noise. She put down her chopsticks, stood up angrily and left. I think this family lacks moral education. They don't even know the minimum etiquette. Therefore, family moral education is the basic moral education and the first step of quality education. "Life is young, spiritual patent. Think hard and relax when you grow up. You must teach early and don't miss the opportunity. " This sentence shows the connotation of family moral education, which lays the foundation for children's growth.
(2) Parents should insist on saying "no" to their children.
In the face of the current family model, children have already become "little emperors" in the family. Everything is child-centered, which really means that you are afraid of falling into your hand. In the face of children's growth, they don't want to say "no", indulge and spoil their children in every way. I think if the stars and the moon are within reach, there will be a phenomenon of breaking the head. Over time, it will be easy to achieve a child's arrogant, unreasonable, willful and self-centered personality. It is not difficult to see that today's problem children, problem of juvenile, love too much. This kind of love backfires, forming some bad habits and taking it with you everywhere. Some children are lying on the ground crying for money, and the situation is getting worse and worse, but his little hand covering his eyes has left a small crack. Without words, he knew that he was observing, fighting and fighting for it. Some onlookers said, "Isn't it just a few dollars?" Make the child cry? "I also heard another voice:" Don't be hard on children, no matter how hard it is. "This sentence is good, but it is used in the wrong place. Some children took their parents' money and secretly went to game halls and internet cafes. When are students addicted to playing? Parents have headaches, teachers have headaches, games are being developed, and toys are being developed. Parents should never let their children's unreasonable demands go unchecked, but dare to say "no" to their unreasonable demands. We should educate and guide them correctly.
(3) Parents should correctly evaluate their children.
Family is the cradle of children's growth, and there are various methods of education. The looseness and strictness of education are relative. Relaxation can't be indulgent, strict can't be violent, appreciation can't avoid mistakes, correctly evaluate children, and pay attention to their healthy physical and mental growth. Parents are full of expectations for their children's future, and some parents regard academic performance as the only criterion to measure whether their children have a future, which is unfair. In such a family environment, some children with outstanding achievements are self-righteous, supercilious and narrow-minded, and cannot tolerate others to surpass themselves. As an adult, once you encounter something unsatisfactory, you often can't get through and can't stand setbacks. Parents look angry when there are children with poor academic performance. "no! It's over! " Relaxed encouragement and appreciation education for children, resulting in children giving up on themselves. Therefore, it is necessary to comprehensively and correctly evaluate children, find their bright spots, and encourage them to embark on their own road to success.
Second, carry out staged family moral education.
(A) Thanksgiving education
Children get correct guidance from obscurity and know what is right and wrong. As they grow older, they know that gratitude is the foundation of being a man and loving and being kind to others. In reality, some children only know how to enjoy their parents' love infinitely, but they can't love their parents well. What's more, he abused his parents when he grew up. Gratitude needs education. Learning to be grateful is to let children feel the kindness of their parents, the education of their teachers and the help of their friends. Parents must educate their children to love their elders, thank all those who have paid for them, cherish the love of others, return the love of others, and have a sense of responsibility for family and society.
(B) the concept of honor and disgrace education
Every parent wants his son to be a dragon and his daughter to be a successful person? L, these are inseparable from the family's concept of honor and disgrace education. A ship depends on the rudder, and a man depends on virtue. Life is like sailing in the sea, morality is the steering wheel and ability is the fuel power. A ship without the right direction, no matter how powerful it is, can only drift around in the sea and never reach the other side of success. Teenagers are the most important period for the formation of morality, and it is the unshirkable responsibility of parents to educate their children to become people with noble morality and noble sentiments. Knowing honor and shame and distinguishing between good and evil are the basic virtues of being a man. The education of honor and disgrace concept is a process of dripping water and wearing away stones. Parents should inculcate the meanings of honor, kindness, beauty and kindness with examples, and also use negative teaching materials to let their children distinguish shame, evil, ugliness and badness, so as to consciously promote honor and avoid harm, distinguish right from wrong, get rid of evil and grow up healthily. We should educate them from an early age to establish a good outlook on life and values, and be useful to the motherland and society.
(3) Labor education
Before the 1970s, people felt deeply about labor, not to mention ample food and clothing, not to mention the modernization of agricultural machinery, so they pushed their shoulders with their hands and suffered a lot. Therefore, in terms of labor education, parents don't let their children do this and that out of love: "This is dirty! That is tired! " The word "labor" gradually disappears in children's minds and actions. Some children don't like work, especially the "little emperor" at home in recent years. Their parents don't let them participate in housework, and they gradually develop the idea that it's none of my business. Labor is also physical and mental exercise. Only through personal labor can we realize the hardships parents have paid for their families and realize that labor creates value. Cultivate a good attitude, establish good values, and repay the family and society. Then there will be fewer idle people and fewer criminals in society.
In short, every child's growth is inseparable from a good family education. Whether rich or poor, educating and guiding children is the greatest contribution to society. I have always believed that it is better to teach children how to behave than to teach them how to behave first. This is my understanding and experience in education and teaching for more than 30 years. I hope that the whole society will pay attention to education and combine family education, school education and social education to make children grow up healthily and pave a healthy life path for them.