First of all, I want to say that your education method is wrong and biased.
Why are other people's children not as headstrong as your children? Although your education method may be better than others, the specific situation of each child is different. Some children are not very rebellious by nature, so it is not difficult to bring up such children. And your child's rebellious nature is the kind of older children-that is, smarter and more assertive children! Such children are destined to inject very demanding heart and energy, otherwise it will be difficult to see the effect. ......
In fact, you should be happy to have such a child. Congratulations, I'm glad to have such a smart child!
Your child is so headstrong, there is a big reason that his excess energy has not been effectively released. If you can guide your child to some hobbies, greatly improve his creativity and imagination, and stimulate his interest in exploring science, then he won't have so much energy to compete with you. ......
Guys, why are you upset about this? If you are so negative, it will definitely have a greater negative impact on your children. In kindergarten, the child is obedient, which means that your son is a very sensible child, while at home, he is willful, so it means that it is your problem. You should reflect, deeply reflect.
Think about it, in fact, your children are very talented people. In school, in order to get the teacher's love and everyone's attention, he performed well, and he could control his desires and his rationality well, and of course he achieved his goal. This is a very good side of benign development. It shows that his mind has a super ability to distinguish things. And at home, why is he so capricious? That means you didn't give him something he wanted, because at school, he tried to restrain himself from being a good person. Home is a place where his young mind is very dependent and he can play freely and happily. Parents love themselves is the ultimate destination. No matter how much "sin" he has suffered outside, no matter how hard he works, he hopes to go home, and his parents can give him more compensatory love-sometimes even a little beyond the rational requirements, which is also for him. ! ! ! !
For such a gifted child, you don't understand his desires and needs, but you always reason with him, and reasoning repeatedly will only aggravate his rebellious heart. Such a super smart boy, in fact, he already understood what you said. What he doesn't understand is, why don't you love him more and respect him more? Imagine, for the truth you have already understood, there is always someone who lets you take care of it every day, buzzing in your ear like a mosquito all day, and you are bored? If it were you, I think you would resist and refuse to listen to what you said, leaving you something for him to demonstrate. This is a child demonstrating to you! ! ! Strictly speaking, he's not kidding! ! ! Look at the problem depends on the essence! Think about it. In kindergarten, your child is trying to listen to the teacher's guidance, but human nature is unorganized and undisciplined. This is acquired intensive education. Here, the child has withstood-restrained his natural wildness, and when you get home, you will annihilate his nature-and ask him to obey according to your wishes. Isn't this killing a child's freedom and boldness? This is his own human nature-he must fight back against your demonstration! ! ! Such a clever child should have such a reaction. If not, it is not normal, haha. So here, as long as you leave a little wild space for your child and accurately grasp the scale, your child will return to the normal track, be a studious, obedient and sensible child, and be a very promising person in the future.
Your child is super smart. If you don't change your mind and treat his demonstration so negatively, then an excellent child will soon be strangled in the cradle of growth by your ignorant parents. The child's thinking is ahead of time. You should think of him as an adult, at least when he is a boy of fifteen or sixteen. Communicate with him well and give him the highest ideological respect. Don't get angry when he doesn't listen to advice. Let him be the first. You should write down his irrationality this time, and then find an opportunity to guide him when he is in a good mood. At that time, if he doesn't understand, there will be obstacles in his heart. Never impose your parents' own emotional thoughts on him "who didn't accept him". Otherwise, in addition to showing your impatience and resisting the missile because of anger, the child's heart is developing in a bad direction ... because his language ability to express his inner thoughts is still limited, you should think carefully about his behavior and ideological needs like observing a teenager; In taking care of his life, treat him as a child of the same age and guide him well every day.
Once a child is disappointed in his parents-his wish was originally like this, but after you let him down, it will take him a long time to recover from the psychological trauma. Especially for children around the age of three, this is the fastest developing stage of his life center wisdom, and more protection is the best policy! ! ! ! ! Such a young mind needs the constant care of its parents, so that it will not be traumatized and its personality growth will not be distorted ... As a qualified parent, shouldn't it take full responsibility?
By the way, your children were not around when they were young, but they stayed with you later. Didn't they behave well when they were two? It shows that his childhood experience in his hometown has no negative influence on him. You should thank your parents for helping you bring this clever child to you. The problem now is not that your parents spoil him again, but that as a parent, you should enter a good role. This has no effect, so don't get me wrong. It is natural for grandparents to spoil their children. Don't make a fuss. Does not affect your education for your children. Just like in school, why can the kindergarten teacher teach him well and you can't? Being willful at home does not affect children's obedience in kindergarten! ! ! This is because people's emotions are complex emotions, and you can't ask everything to be the same. If you do your duty and play your role well, then the children will not mess around. What does it matter if you just sprinkle some jiao on grandma occasionally? This is human nature, inalienable! That's what my children do. Pet when it is time to pet. They are more delicate in front of grandma, because children know there are more limits to coquetry here. Haha, in front of us, in school, they are more rational, and their academic performance is very good, and they are often among the best. They are also very close to my mother and me, and they can be regarded as our bosom friends. When my child was a child, she was as talented and smart as your child. When one day I observed that the child's thought was so "adult", we stopped treating her as a child, tried to communicate with her with adult's thoughts and eyes, and respected her, and then the child grew up happily! The child's self-study ability is also very strong, and he has skipped several times. ......
Here, I don't want to show off anything, just want you to understand that your son is so smart, you should be happy, and you should always be secretly happy. Not everyone can give birth to such an excellent and intelligent child. Yes, it depends on how you educate him. Now your child has shown such extraordinary ability. As long as the guidance is proper, you can give full play to your potential! ! ! ! !