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Caption: "Villa Pin" turned out to be a scam. Educational vision: Can expelling bad students purify the school spirit? Campus Connection: Are University Student Village Officials National Cadres? Click to subscribe for free: [Student School] News Hotspot walks with you! One of the problems: since I stepped into the junior high school gate, I feel that my academic performance has a downward trend. What is the reason? Am I not working hard enough? Of course, there are factors in this regard. However, it is more contempt and irony from my side. Every time I walk into the ranks of top students and say a few words to them, they will feel disgusted, and then I am left with a silent look. Occasionally play a few jokes on them, and they will get angry and even ignore me for a few days. Is it so annoying that I don't study well? Just because of good grades, good students can bully in front of poor students? Xiaoling Huiyuan replied: Xiaoling: Hello! In today's school life, there is indeed a bad phenomenon of taking people by "points", and some excellent students despise and belittle the underachievers under the control of a strong sense of psychological superiority. I don't agree or support this either. But I don't agree with many viewpoints expressed in your letter, as follows: First of all, I don't agree that you blame your backwardness in learning on "more contempt and satire from my side". This is a wrong way to shift the responsibility that should be borne by yourself to others. There are many reasons for a person's poor study, such as poor study foundation, bad study habits, improper study methods, insufficient study efforts and so on. But no matter what the reason is, the internal cause is the key and fundamental. If you overemphasize external factors, always complain that there is no ideal environment outside, do not redouble your efforts and actively change your learning methods, then learning will never go on. Imagine, if others don't despise you and ridicule you, but pay attention to you and praise you, will your academic performance naturally improve? On the other hand, no matter whether the outside world is praised or criticized, you can keep working hard and constantly improve yourself, so I don't think anyone can stop you from achieving success and progress one after another. Secondly, I don't agree with you to raise the contempt of good students for poor students to a universal law. Here, I still suggest you find your own reasons. For example, what did you say to top students when you joined them? Are you kidding? Is this timely? Isn't this joke a little too much? A few days ago, a poor student wrote to me, saying that a top student had played a joke on him, saying that he looked like a snail, which made the poor student very angry. Isn't it ironic that I learn to crawl like a snail? You see, if a joke makes the person who is being teased feel uncomfortable and inappropriate, then no matter who makes it, no matter who makes it, the object of the joke is unhappy. I don't believe that if your words and jokes are appropriate, interesting, harmonious and friendly, you will be "disgusted", "silent" and "supercilious" by top students-some people may have this reaction, but I don't think most people will. What needs to be pointed out here is that many people who feel inferior because they are backward in learning are often psychologically sensitive and fragile. Because of lack of self-confidence, they like to be sensitive and doubt others' reactions and attitudes towards themselves. Because I look down on myself and worry that others will look down on me, I have formed a psychological set. Subjectively, I think that other people's words and deeds that do not belittle my meaning are belittling myself, thus causing psychological opposition with each other. Don't take contempt and irony too seriously, and don't take everything as irony and contempt. Remember these two points and start quickly!