Generally speaking, younger children are prone to make mistakes. There may be many reasons, such as: children don't like to brush their teeth, so they deliberately make trouble or make noise every time they brush their teeth; When you get to the store, you must buy the same toys as at home, or you will make a scene if you don't buy them.
Coping strategy: divert attention. Try to distract the child. It not only makes children feel fresh, but also does not violate the principles of parents.
Second, the type of failure
The child's heart is very simple, very simple, but it is also very fragile and can't stand a little blow. For example, I worked hard to build a building block house, and when it was built very high, the house suddenly collapsed. You will feel that you are not as capable as you think, and you will be depressed.
Coping strategies: sympathy and encouragement. Parents or teachers tell their children that similar situations may happen to other children, and they can't complete this task by themselves, so that children feel that many people have encountered this incident, so as to relieve their pressure and self-blame. Parents kissing or hugging their children are all good ways to get rid of their children's bad emotions.
Third, it is difficult to satisfy.
Because children are still young, they don't know how to control their desires and emotions. When he is in the street, he may cry in public or even lie on the ground because he can't get the toys he wants.
Coping strategies: stay calm and teach. Adults must calm themselves down first and don't yell at him, because the more you interfere, the stronger his temper may be. I suggest you take a deep breath at this time, count from one to ten, calm down and calm down before talking to your baby. This is also the time for the baby to adjust his mood.
The reasons for children's bad temper: first of all, the family's doting. Father, mother, grandfather and grandmother love children too much, and gradually breed a self-centered consciousness in children. Sometimes, parents feel that their children's demands are too unreasonable and don't want to agree, but it is the worst way to satisfy their children as soon as they lose their temper. Because children know from such things that losing their temper is the most effective means to satisfy their wishes and demands, they become more likely to lose their temper and cause a vicious circle. Secondly, family education lacks inertia and coherence. What is forbidden today will be encouraged to do tomorrow. Dad thinks it's a good thing, mom says it's a bad thing, and grandpa agrees, but grandma will stop it. This will increase the child's frustration, which will lead to irritability. Third, parents are too strict with their children. Parents severely reprimand or even severely beat their children if they make a slight mistake or fail to do as required or do badly. Have a negative effect on children.
Educating children is a science, and we must not be careless, especially for children with bad temper. As teachers or parents, we should be patient, caring and persuasive, so that every child can grow up healthily.
How to educate grumpy children? How to educate grumpy children is a problem that teachers often encounter. To educate such children well, we must first find out what kind of temper is grumpy; Secondly, education can be conducted in different ways according to the specific situation, which will get twice the result with half the effort. The following is my experience after learning topic three.
First, unreasonable type.
Generally speaking, younger children are prone to make mistakes. There may be many reasons, such as: children don't like to brush their teeth, so they deliberately make trouble or make noise every time they brush their teeth; When you get to the store, you must buy the same toys as at home, or you will make a scene if you don't buy them.
Coping strategy: divert attention. Try to distract the child. It not only makes children feel fresh, but also does not violate the principles of parents.
Second, the type of failure
The child's heart is very simple, very simple, but it is also very fragile and can't stand a little blow. For example, I worked hard to build a building block house, and when it was built very high, the house suddenly collapsed. You will feel that you are not as capable as you think, and you will be depressed.
Coping strategies: sympathy and encouragement. Parents or teachers tell their children that similar situations may happen to other children, and they can't complete this task by themselves, so that children feel that "this matter has been encountered by many people", so as to reduce their pressure and self-blame. Parents kissing or hugging their children are all good ways to get rid of their children's bad emotions.
Third, it is difficult to satisfy.
Because children are still young, they don't know how to control their desires and emotions. When he is in the street, he may cry in public or even lie on the ground because he can't get the toys he wants.
Coping strategies: stay calm and teach. Adults must calm themselves down first and don't yell at him, because the more you interfere, the stronger his temper may be. I suggest you take a deep breath at this time, count from one to ten, calm down and calm down before talking to your baby. This is also the time for the baby to adjust his mood.
The reasons for children's bad temper: first of all, the family's doting. Father, mother, grandfather and grandmother love children too much, and gradually breed a self-centered consciousness in children. Sometimes, parents feel that their children's demands are too unreasonable and don't want to agree, but it is the worst way to satisfy their children as soon as they lose their temper. Because children know from such things that losing their temper is the most effective means to satisfy their wishes and demands, they become more likely to lose their temper and cause a vicious circle. Secondly, family education lacks inertia and coherence. What is forbidden today will be encouraged to do tomorrow. Dad thinks it's a good thing, mom says it's a bad thing, and grandpa agrees, but grandma will stop it. This will increase the child's frustration, which will lead to irritability. Third, parents are too strict with their children. Parents severely reprimand or even severely beat their children if they make a slight mistake or fail to do as required or do badly. Have a negative effect on children.
Educating children is a science, and we must not be careless, especially for children with bad temper. As teachers or parents, we should be patient, caring and persuasive, so that every child can grow up healthily.
How to educate a grumpy child When a child loses his temper, parents should adhere to two principles.
First: Never reprimand or punish children.
Second: Hold the child tightly, and don't let the child run wild and self-destruct or destroy things.
After the child loses his temper, he should have a heart-to-heart talk with the child, educate the child to know the harm of losing his temper, and learn to control his emotions rationally in the future. Usually, children should take the initiative to meet their reasonable requirements, unreasonable requirements can never be met, and no matter how they run wild, they should let the children understand that everything should be reasonable and unreasonable.
Finally, parents should be warned: for children with a big temper, the caliber of parental education must be consistent, and education must be adhered to.
When babies are born, they often cry loudly and move their hands and feet. This kind of child is apt to form a grumpy character. But most children have bad temper. There are many reasons for this situation, and doting is an important reason for bad temper. If parents spoil their children blindly, they will be obedient and responsive, which will make them more and more grumpy. If parents also refuse their children's reasonable demands, children's desires will always be unsatisfied, and children will become grumpy and sometimes hold grudges. Therefore, parents should try their best to meet their reasonable requirements; Persuade unreasonable demands patiently, and don't flatly refuse them when children don't know the reasons, especially when parents immediately deny them, which will make children confused about what is reasonable and what is unreasonable, thus affecting the improvement of children's understanding level and forming the idea of "parents don't agree anyway".
Method of correction:
First of all, parents should find out the reasons why children are good at losing their temper, that is, their self-emotional adjustment ability is low, they lack self-control ability and poor expression ability, and they lose their temper at a little thing; Or does the child lack the ability to judge whether his request is reasonable or not?
Parents should check whether adults' attitudes towards children are consistent, especially when children lose their temper, whether people around them blindly protect him or teach him. If you protect him blindly, it will make him taste the sweetness, which is actually a negative reinforcement and will make him more fierce. The correct way is for parents to let their children know and remember a truth: it is useless to be noisy and lose your temper. This can make children understand that "crying and losing your temper as a weapon" is not feasible. After several times of such education, children's habit of losing their temper will change.
Parents should communicate with their children more, understand their needs and pay attention to the interaction between them. Parents can learn more about what other children are playing, thinking, having any requirements and so on. When children put forward their own requirements, parents can better understand their children's feelings, and then enlighten and patiently explain, which can eliminate or alleviate their anger.
Never think that "children are born with a good temper", and even some parents will lose their temper with their children. This emotional approach will never change the child's habit of losing his temper. Some mothers think that children are prone to lose their temper, so they push them to their fathers to discipline them. This will make children have a feeling that "mothers can't help losing their temper with him", and then they will lose their temper in front of their mothers more and more.
Pay attention to cultivating children's broad interests and flexibility in doing things. There is a "critical period" for children's ability development, and it is more appropriate to learn painting at the age of 3-4; Learning music should be between the ages of 5 and 7. Therefore, the cultivation of interest should not be too early or too late. Children's interests are particularly easy to transfer. Don't just decide according to the opinions of parents, but listen to the opinions of professionals and children themselves.
Cultivate children's flexibility in doing things. When children play with toys, eat or dress, they should not just "fix" a way, method and appearance, but try to "diversify" from an early age to give them a choice. Especially when a thing, food or toy no longer exists, children should be guided to move to other things, food or toys in time. The better this adjustment ability, the better its flexibility. When children's interest increases, their attitude towards difficulties and problems will be flexible, and the habit of losing their temper will be reduced.
Grumpy is a character problem, not a moral problem, so first remind children not to blame themselves too much for it. The so-called grumpy, refers to a little unhappy will lose his temper, and even fight.
There are roughly the following reasons for children's bad temper, which are listed here for comparison.
First, since childhood, I have been in poor health and often get sick, and I have been taken care of by my family in all aspects, so that my children have developed their own psychology and others should obey. Once you don't listen, you can't control yourself psychologically.
Second, when parents are not around at ordinary times, they can't wait to give all compensation to their children when they meet for a short time, even if they blindly meet their excessive demands. Therefore, when children's desires are not satisfied, they often lose their temper.
Third, children are usually spoiled, rarely frustrated and have poor psychological endurance. When they encounter criticism or opposition, they can't stand it.
Some children have had the experience that their parents gave in when they lost their temper and cried loudly. Since then, they have discovered the wonderful use of losing their temper and used it as a means to blackmail their parents.
5. Because parents are in a bad mood or grumpy, children are often scolded inexplicably, or things promised by parents are broken and children can't understand. Long-term depression or dissatisfaction will let children vent their anger. The best way to overcome your temper tantrums is to strengthen psychological self-suggestion training. When you want to lose your temper, immediately ask yourself: Why did you lose your temper? What problem can losing your temper solve? Is it better to tell others what you think or do calmly?
If you want to get rid of your bad temper, you must do the following:
First of all, we should encourage ourselves to express our feelings and needs in words. When our legitimate needs are not met, we should patiently listen to others' explanations and constantly improve our self-control ability.
Second, when classmates and partners have words and deeds that do not conform to the code of conduct, they should be patiently persuaded and stopped. If it doesn't work, don't get angry. Tell the teacher or his parents the truth.
Third, we should pay attention to emotional communication with others in peacetime. When other people's words and deeds hurt themselves or the collective, don't answer blows with blows.
How should a four-year-old child with a bad temper educate his children to be patient and guide them well? Even docile children have a rebellious side!
First, I lost my temper because my needs were not met. Due to the doting of parents, some children cry and make a scene when they are slightly dissatisfied. Parents must not accommodate, accommodate, otherwise it will fuel their temper. The easiest way is to shut him up in his room for a short time, give him time to calm down and reconsider what to do next. Even outside. Repeatedly, children will feel that it is meaningless to lose their temper and cry. They will not get the attention of their parents and what they want, and they will gradually stop losing their temper. After each episode subsides, parents should remember to reason with their children and conduct follow-up education in time. Telling children what they have just done is not good, and threatening parents to meet their own needs by losing their temper can't achieve their goals. Let children know that their parents still love them, but they don't love their splashing behavior. This can not only educate children not to make trouble in the future, but also prevent children from alienating their parents' affection.
Second, I lost my temper because I was ignored. For such children, we should appease them and divert their attention. The younger the child, the more unstable the mood, and the easier it is to divert attention. When unhappiness occurs, we should use the activity transfer method to let them vent their inner tension in game activities or sports activities. For example, the child misses his mother and her mother hasn't come home after working overtime. The child is extremely wronged and litters, no matter how to persuade him. At this time, the family can consciously mention something that children are most interested in to divert their attention. For example, tell children a favorite and funny story, or take them to play their favorite swing game, and so on. We should start from love, comfort him emotionally and persuade the child not to cry; Be patient, don't scold, and don't get angry and beat and scold. Otherwise, the child's temper will only get worse.
Third, lose your temper because you are not understood. Children over the age of 3 already have their own ideas and opinions about something, so parents must provide their children with opportunities to fully express their inner thoughts. Sometimes, when a child tells his parents an interesting story endlessly, parents often nod or hum inadvertently because they are busy with their own affairs, so that the child will be very angry. Therefore, parents might as well put aside their own affairs for a while, listen to their children with focused eyes, understand their children's words with appreciation, and have a chat with their children with great interest, which will be a great support and encouragement for their children.
Fourthly, I lost my temper because I couldn't delay my satisfaction. Most preschool children simply have no patience to wait a little longer for what they want to eat or play, especially in the face of temptation. There was a psychological experiment that asked children to wait 15 minutes as a condition for getting delicious candy, otherwise they would only get bad candy. Therefore, children behave differently according to different experimental conditions. When candy is not in sight, children insist on waiting for the longest time; When there is a kind of candy in front of you (delicious or not), the time that children can wait is halved; When two kinds of candy are placed in front of you, the child has the shortest waiting time. It shows that children are not easy to resist the temptation in front of them and have weak self-control. Therefore, as parents, we must consciously cultivate children's ability to delay satisfaction on weekdays, start from small things, and don't let children learn. As long as it is what I want, my parents will be satisfied immediately, forming a feeling of hardship. In this way, when children occasionally can't get what they want, it is easy to get angry.
In addition to the above specific treatment of children, parents should also pay attention to their words and deeds. Parents' words and deeds are a mirror of children's behavior.
First, parents' educational attitudes should be consistent. When a child loses his temper, don't form several factions among adults. Some people ignore it, some coax it, some leave the children, and some run to please them, let alone argue in front of them. Adults must communicate well, and once the child has an attack, the whole family will adopt a consistent attitude. Otherwise, he will cry even harder.
Second, parents should remember not to lose their temper often. I once saw a thrilling scene in the toy department of a shopping mall. A mother suddenly raised her voice and said, "I just bought it last week and want to buy it again." It seems to tell everyone that my children are unreasonable. The reason why I don't buy it for him is that I just bought it, not that I don't buy it for him. I think this mother is a little guilty. What's the shame of not buying toys for her children? Don't buy it, don't buy it. Just explain it to the children. But her method was a bit out of shape, and the child insisted, so she dragged the child out and the child dragged it in noisily. The mother lost her temper and slapped the child twice, and the child began to cry. As a result, the mother didn't say anything, dragging the crying child slowly into the crowd. With such a grumpy mother, it's hard not to let the child lose his temper.
Therefore, in order to cultivate children's good character and not lose their temper, parents must set an example and create a good one for their children; The atmosphere of family environment can keep children in positive mood and control the outbreak of bad mood.
How to educate children with bad temper? See why you are grumpy and under what circumstances you can not be grumpy or grumpy.
How do parents educate grumpy children? First, don't lose your temper with children, focus on actual cases, preferably real people and stories that happen around you; Second: let the children clearly understand what will happen in the process of losing their temper (such as breaking their beloved toys, and then there is no play; For example, I accidentally hurt my parents, so my parents can't take care of him and so on. ); Third: analyze the seriousness of the consequences after the child calms down and tell the child the truth.
How to educate grumpy children? Man evolved from monkeys. Please don't forget this.
Although people are advanced animals. But it is still an animal.
If you are divorced from society. Don't rely on the collective strength and wisdom.
Man has become the lowest and most incompetent animal.
Not some so-called advanced animal. Especially the so-called modern people. The so-called senior people.
Suppress human nature. Adult will lead to many serious mental diseases.
Many patients with severe mental illness, most of the causes. All because of childhood and childhood. Nature is caused by too much external repression.