Because of the immaturity of sexual psychology, boys sometimes can't control their instincts. In this special period, it is especially necessary to strengthen guidance for boys who are troubled by sexual problems and have adventurous spirit.
1, especially sensitive to sex.
Boys have a fear of sex at the same time, but they can't stop. Even a small action and a sexy part are enough to make them have many associations with sex, accompanied by a strong desire to explore and try. In addition, boys will also compare with their peers in private. Some slow-growing boys, because they are younger than others, are often laughed at by their peers and are prone to a strong sense of inferiority.
Countermeasures: Negative psychological suggestion may have a bad influence on adult sexual psychology and easily cause sexual dysfunction. Many adults encounter sexual dysfunction, which is not unrelated to the confusion in the development process. Therefore, parents should be consciously guided during adolescence.
2, the pain and trouble of masturbation
Statistics show that more than 85% of boys have masturbated. The spread of obscene videos on the Internet has accelerated the precocity of teenagers to some extent, and masturbators are getting younger and younger. To make matters worse, boys are prone to excessive masturbation because of their weak self-control, and there are not a few teenagers who are addicted to online eroticism.
Countermeasures: Moderate masturbation is ok, but some weak-willed, unstable and sensitive teenagers will have a fearful psychological reaction after masturbation every time. This kind of situation will appear repeatedly, which will easily lead to contradictory psychological state, and finally may produce sexual psychological abnormal symptoms. This kind of situation often does not show any abnormal manifestations and symptoms from the outside, but it has a great influence on adult sexual behavior.
3. Strange ideas suddenly appeared.
Wang Tao (a pseudonym), a junior, is very uneasy about his sudden deterioration. The more she doesn't want sex, the more she wants sex. I was distracted in class, and I also had fantasies when I saw the female students who had studied together before. In frequent psychological struggles, their academic performance has also been affected.
Countermeasures: With the awakening of self-awareness and sexual awareness, boys entering this period will have some sexual problems more or less. It is not surprising that they have various ideas, but they need timely and correct psychological guidance.
How to conduct adolescent sex education for boys?
1, let children face sex frankly.
Children's curiosity about sex is understandable. The key is whether we can guide children to face curiosity in a scientific way. Sex education in China has always been in a closed or semi-closed state. Parents and teachers mostly adopt the methods of blocking but not dredging, preventing but not guiding, hiding but not teaching to deal with those sexual problems encountered by children. This situation often leads to juvenile sexual crimes, unhealthy sexual behaviors and many social problems.
Children are in adolescence, and their outlook on life and world has not been formed, and their ability to distinguish things is limited. At this time, it is necessary to let them know about sexual knowledge through normal channels, strengthen their own prevention and avoid sexual harm. If we are vague, evasive or even unable to face up to it, we can't talk about sex with our children calmly.
Therefore, through generous sex education, children can face sex with a very frank attitude from an early age and avoid detours and misinterpretations in the process of sexual psychological development. At home, if parents don't take the initiative to communicate with their children regularly, it will be more and more difficult for children to open their hearts to their parents and bring up sexual things after entering middle school.
It can be said that parents are the first teachers of children's sex education. But remember, parents should not only educate their children about sex, but also set an example and pay attention to their words and deeds.
2. How to talk about sex easily?
If you are embarrassed about this topic, read some related books and talk to your trusted friends. The more you know about sex, the more you will believe that you can talk about it. Even if you can't get rid of your embarrassment, or you don't have enough sexual knowledge, you should communicate honestly with your child. Don't expect yourself to answer all the questions raised by your child. Your answers to them are much more important than how many answers you know. If you make them feel that there is nothing they can't talk about in this family, then all communication will be smooth.
3, targeted, take the initiative to lead to the topic
If your child hasn't asked questions about sex, then you can find an appropriate time to raise related topics. Especially after the child enters adolescence, parents should talk about pregnancy with their children generously. If there is no chance, you might as well find an excuse, such as "Have you noticed that David's mother's belly is getting bigger and bigger?" She's going to have a baby. Do you know how the child got into her stomach? "So, the conversation between you can start from here.
4. Talk about emotional responsibilities related to sex.
Children not only need to understand sex from a physiological point of view, but also need to understand the sexual relationship closely related to care, care and responsibility. Discussing the emotional components in sexual relations with children can help her (him) make better decisions and bear the pressure from peers in her future life. If your children have reached puberty, you need to tell them that sexual behavior contains responsibilities and consequences. For example, conversations with children aged 1 1 and 12 should include unplanned pregnancy and how to protect themselves.
5. Provide accurate sexual knowledge in time.
When talking about sex with your child, you should pay attention to the content of the conversation to suit your child's age and growth stage. If you 12-year-old children ask, "Why do boys and girls have great physiological changes when they grow up?" You can say something like this: "Everyone has a special chemical component called hormone, but the hormones in boys and girls are different. So when the boy grows up, his voice will become deep and his hair will become more and more; When a girl grows up, her breasts will become bigger and her hips will become round. "
6. Conduct sexual moral education for boys.
Early sex education is related to the healthy growth of boys' body and mind, and also to the stability of family and society. Sex education includes many aspects such as sex physiology, sex psychology, sex morality and sex ethics, among which sex morality is a very important part. Sexual morality is the sum total of social norms for human beings to adjust sexual behavior of both sexes. It can maintain the stability of social order and ensure the normal progress of social life. Generally speaking, the content of sexual morality can be summarized as: sexual ethics; Correct views on love, chastity and fertility. Its core is love and respect.
Mothers should educate boys to respect the privacy of themselves and others. Boys should be instilled with the concept of privacy from the beginning of sex education. The mother should tell the boy that the genitals are private parts of people, and others have no right to see or touch this part without permission. Mothers should send positive messages to boys through nonverbal behaviors, such as the principles of mutual respect, loyalty, sharing housework, respecting the old and loving the young, helping others, being polite, being serious and responsible for their work, being honest and trustworthy, which is the best education for children.
Questions and answers on adolescent sex education; A
Question 1: Does the size of male genitalia affect sexual ability?
Boys are most likely to worry about the size of penis in adolescence. First of all, we must understand that penis size does not affect sexual ability. In addition to the size problem, it is the beginning problem. Some people's penises bend left or right, which is different from everyone's appearance. There is no need to make a fuss. There are even dozens of various sex organs in foreign sex education books, which shows that human sex organs do have their own advantages.
Young boys don't know what other people's genitals look like. Ignorance leads to anxiety, anxiety leads to inferiority, and self-doubt is too small, too short and too dark. This inferiority complex is often just much ado about nothing. Most men have a "dwarf complex" and always feel that their genitals are too small. If they know the actual situation, they won't worry. Many reports like to list the "standard length" of male penis, which is really inappropriate, especially the word "standard", which is easy to misunderstand and think that it is abnormal if it is below the standard. In fact, regardless of the size, the shape of sexual organs will not affect sexual life, which must be kept in mind.
Question 2: Does wet dream, a boy, have any influence on his health?
Wet dream in wet dream is a normal phenomenon. Although it will stain clothes, it can be avoided without exercise. It is quite common for boys to start wet dream in primary or secondary schools. Wet dream means that men ejaculate in their sleep because of dreaming. This is different from the "nocturnal emission" of dreamless ejaculation, but both are involuntary ejaculation.
Now many boys have wet dream phenomenon at the age of eight, which may be caused by excessive semen storage, sexual stimulation or penis rubbing by quilt. These are all normal phenomena. Some people are influenced by the incorrect idea that wet dream will make people stupid besides getting dirty clothes. This is groundless, don't believe it.
Question 3: Do parents need to stop their children from being curious about women in time?
Pay attention to women, boys are curious about female corpses, and parents don't have to make a fuss about pornographic photos. Children's concern about sex is concrete, because they begin to ask themselves where they come from. This question is the first step, and parents must answer it seriously. After attending primary school, little boys will be curious about little girls and show their concern for gender differences by imitating doctors and lifting skirts.
In middle school, this concern shifted to pornographic photos. In fact, he wanted to see a woman's real body, but he didn't have a chance. Pornographic photos are a kind of compensation, and there is no need to strictly prohibit them. The more you don't let your children see it, the more curious they may be. Some mothers will ask their husbands not to bring adult magazine home to their children. This behavior has become hypocritical in the eyes of children. If a mother finds that her son has pornographic photos, she must understand that her son has reached puberty, and photos can stimulate his sexual desire and help him vent his sexual desire. If it is banned blindly, it will only do more harm than good. Don't make a mountain out of a molehill unless children are interested in photos of sexual violence and abuse.