Genius is not easy to appear, not because there are too few geniuses, but because genius is too easy to be killed.
Newton and Niu Guan here are not specific people or occupations, and there is no corresponding meaning of praise or criticism. They are just an image metaphor about high expectations and low harvest results.
Everyone is born with some special passwords given by nature. Nature gives you fresh life and will certainly inject some talents into your life. This kind of talent, like a seed, contains expression potential, but it also depends on whether the external environment provides suitable conditions. The success or failure of education often lies in the details of life. It's just some small moves by parents and teachers, which divide children's talent and destiny into different levels.
The wrong teaching and negative evaluation in school have greatly damaged children's intelligence, self-esteem and self-confidence. Parents don't think, improvise, and try to train their children's concentration with the crooked ways of making soybeans. It can be said that it is very possible to cultivate an intellectual and psychological fool. Cultivating concentration is a pseudo-knowledge. Concentration does not need to be cultivated. The more you practice, the more distracted you are. Not disturbing is the best practice. Psychology can explain the phenomenon of attention, but it doesn't say who can cultivate it.
Judge children at will and reform them at will, which is the embryonic form of education. In recent years, parents and teachers have joined hands and worked hard to harm their children. Although they have no subjective malice and goodwill, the consequences are destructive. Stop criticizing children. It is best to leave them alone.
The initial stage of everything is the most critical, especially education. At present, the education level of parents has generally improved, and their awareness of children's education has generally increased, but the education level does not necessarily increase at the same time. Parents with high academic qualifications are not clear about education, but they are self-righteous. They believe that everything they give their children needs to be completed under their own planning and control, and they continue to treat their children with wrong understanding. Then their education level is no different or even worse than those of their parents with low academic qualifications. Their strength makes it easier to train gifted children into idiots, depressed people and insane people. It's not that they don't love children, nor that big goals are inappropriate. Most parents actually have a reasonable training goal. They want to train Newton, but at least they have a decent job and a stable income. This goal could have been easily achieved, but they have many shortcomings in dealing with small educational problems, and a series of small mistakes are superimposed, which eventually form the basic harm to children.
Children are vulnerable and helpless, and their talents need to be activated and cared for. Parents should not only be boosters for children's progress, but also be umbrellas for children's growth, which puts higher demands on parents, but it is not difficult to do this, and the competition is in an instant. Use the method of trace education to achieve the effect of trace education. To understand this, sometimes it is the thickness of a piece of paper, sometimes it is the height of a distant mountain and how far it is. It depends on the degree of parents' willingness to learn, to reflect and review their own level, and to put this into concrete life, which is reflected in the management of children. In fact, it is very simple, but parents need to pay attention to the following aspects.
First of all, don't have the idea of raising the perfect child. Almost everyone has his own strengths and weaknesses, especially those who are gifted in one aspect, and often show more obvious deficiencies in other aspects. Genius and generalist are in conflict in a sense. Rousseau said: excellent geniuses have another language with each other, which ordinary people can never understand. Some people who are excellent in some aspects are giants in this field, but ordinary people can't reach his height and can only see his navel, so they become different, regarded as loners, eccentrics and even as diseases. The child is in the growth stage, and his energy is still in its infancy. To repair and forcibly correct is actually not education, but uninterrupted interference with his growth will destroy his potential, and perfect parents can cultivate a mediocre majority at most. And this also needs to be lucky enough. If you want to cultivate a child who is as happy as possible, you must learn to appreciate some unsatisfactory behaviors of children. If there is conflict, there will be harm. Only by opening up the idea of reform can we avoid turning Newton into a cow official.
Secondly, we should accept that children are different. The world is rich and colorful, and people's hobbies are also varied. What a person likes and indulges in will be influenced by various factors such as talent and environment. Subtle and unpredictable, but on the issue of hobbies, one thing will never change. Hobbies are geniuses. Parents want their children to be competent and have a bright future, and don't let them give up interest and obey their parents' arrangements. Educator A.S. Neil said: Those students who are not serious and enthusiastic about their homework will become unimaginative teachers, mediocre doctors and incompetent lawyers after finishing college with training. They may be first-class mechanics, first-class plasterers or first-class policemen. Emerson said: If a person is indomitable,
Thirdly, we should avoid being strict and bossy in family life. Strict family education always implies parents' superior control, which can make a child succeed in the secular sense, or may leave some room for a child's talent and make him stand out as hard as grass in a brick crack, but his repression of a life is certain. Compared with the strict requirements in family life, I think connivance is a more ideal mode of getting along with family members, especially for children who are at the bottom line of morality and safety. They can almost be agreed to do everything they want, so as not to spoil their children and hinder their lives. The less you grow up, the healthier you are, and the easier it is to show it. Children who are supervised and controlled everywhere can easily become mediocre or even degenerate. Behind strict discipline is psychological obstruction, and parents of judges are most likely to cultivate prisoner-type children. It is worth thinking about whether we want a healthy and happy cleaner or a psychopath who learns to get rich and struggle.
A child's potential is not fragile, he often has a tenacious strength. As long as one of the parents and teachers can guide the child in a benign way, the child's physique will not be erased, and may even be stimulated to be more nervous. Either his parents or his teachers understand him. As long as you get a kind of luck in life, Newton will not become a cow official.