Children like to talk back and argue. How can they be educated if they don't admit their mistakes?
First, stabilize the child's mood.
When children and parents are arguing, their emotions are the most exciting. At this time, reasoning with children or strict discipline will only make children disgusted and make them more excited. Therefore, parents should first calm their children down and divert their attention. You can take your children to the park and go out for fun. This is a very good way to deal with it, which can alleviate the bad emotions of both sides and then discipline them so that the children will not be too rebellious.
Second, calm down before communicating.
Quarrel is easy to cause bad feelings, and it is common for rebellious children to talk back to their parents. When you are in a bad mood, any communication will only increase contradictions, but if you don't educate your child, you are afraid that your child will not learn well. Therefore, after the children and their emotions have calmed down, it will be better to communicate and solve the problem, and the children will be easier to understand. In this process, parents can properly guide their children and teach them how to properly argue with others and what attitude they should adopt to solve the problem.
Third, teach children to vent their emotions reasonably.
In the process of arguing, parents and children may say something hurtful, which will seriously affect the feelings between parents and children. But when the child is rebellious and in a bad mood, parents will not allow the child to lose his temper, which will only make the child in a bad mood. Therefore, parents should let their children vent their emotions reasonably and look at the problem from the child's point of view, so as to prevent children from keeping their emotions in their hearts and causing a series of psychological problems.
Fourth, attach importance to children's peer interaction.
Don't underestimate the influence of children's peers on his life and behavior. It is often said that people near Zhu Zhechi and Mexico are black. That's what I'm saying.
So parents need to know and identify their children's friends. When children are found to be rebellious under the influence of the surrounding environment and begin to love unreasonable contradiction, they should intervene in time.
In fact, some children contradict their parents, not because they really think that what their parents say is' nothing', but because they want to express themselves and give themselves more room for free development. Therefore, in the face of his performance, parents need to learn to communicate with their children in a targeted manner, sublimate the behavior of talking back, and help him develop his self-awareness and interpersonal skills better.
What are the reasons why children like to talk back and not admit their mistakes?
First, although the child is wrong, it is boring for parents to preach aimlessly.
Everyone makes mistakes. If parents keep nagging their children and bring up the past when there is nothing to do, it will easily upset and annoy them, and finally they will talk back and end their endless accusations!
Second, children are blamed by their parents for everything.
Some parents are impatient and only look at their children's "wrong" behavior, but don't think about the reasons behind their children's behavior. When they encounter something, they don't ask questions indiscriminately and directly blame their children for their mistakes. At this time, the child will feel wronged and easy to talk back!
Third, parents' bad demonstration.
Sometimes, parents usually make some bad demonstrations, which will make their children follow suit! When parents get along with their children, they are used to shirking their responsibilities or being grumpy. They don't have the idea of admitting mistakes and the ability of self-management, which exerts a subtle influence on children in their lives and gradually creates their current character.
Fourth, when children have not realized their mistakes, they will immediately force them to apologize.
Please put yourself in the other's shoes, and do something you think is right, so that you can immediately admit your mistake and apologize! This is not an easy thing, let alone for a child. Therefore, parents should first calm their children's emotions, then reason with him, let him realize his mistakes, and finally let him apologize!
Fifth, the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious.
If the family atmosphere is depressed and indifferent, without any warmth, children can easily become impatient and indifferent. When children encounter things they can't accept, they will break out and talk back to their parents.
Sixth, expectations for children are too high.
Many parents want their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed. Will place a lot of expectations on their children. As a result, the education of children is too strict and the children are under great pressure. At children's age, the pressure exerted by adults will make them breathless. When children can't stand the pressure you exert in an invisible or tangible way, their temper will become impatient. Over time, they began to rebel against their parents.