I remember chatting with a friend whose child is in the first grade of primary school. I said: now I am a psychological counselor, and my main direction is teenagers, marriage and gerontology. I have a group of parents here who can come in if it is convenient. My friend refused at that time, saying: My child is fine, no problem, our family is fine, we are all fine! The implication of my friend is that only people with problems join the group, which makes me speechless. There are many people who have this idea. They think that children have problems before they go to psychological counselors for help.

Although people have become more and more aware of the importance of mental health, many people do not have a correct and full understanding of mental health and solving psychological problems, and there are still many misunderstandings about mental health and solving psychological problems.

Myth 1, mental health is not abnormal.

What is mental health first? Mental health means that all aspects of psychology and activities are in a good or normal state. Its manifestations are: individuals can adapt to the development environment and have perfect personality characteristics; Moreover, its cognition, emotional reaction and will behavior are in a positive state, and it can maintain normal control ability. In life practice, it is the basic feature of mental health to know oneself correctly, control oneself consciously and treat external influences correctly, so as to maintain psychological balance and coordination.

There are many forms of mental health, and psychopathy is only its extreme form. According to the state, people's psychology can be expressed in three areas: white area, gray area and black area. Being in the psychological white area is mental health, being in the black area is psychopathy, and being in the gray area is a sub-health state between the above two. And they can be converted to each other. Grey psychology will return to white if it is properly adjusted, and it will develop into black psychology if it is not properly adjusted. Therefore, people who are not mentally abnormal may not be psychologically healthy.

The second misunderstanding: having psychological problems means having psychological diseases.

Many people are very sensitive and dismissive of psychological problems, and think that people with psychological problems are ridiculous and shameful. It is a big misunderstanding that people with psychological problems are mentally ill. We all often have psychological confusion. Improper adjustment will form psychological problems or psychological obstacles. If it is not solved for a long time, it will develop into a mental illness. Almost everyone will have general psychological problems, but not all of them will develop into mental diseases.

I remember one time, a visitor came to me because of her child, and I made an appointment with the mother to consult at a certain time. As a result, the child said that she was not sick and did not need counseling. This is a misunderstanding of psychological counseling.

The third misunderstanding: psychological problems can be solved at one time.

Psychological problems often cannot be solved through self-psychological adjustment or psychological consultation, because the process leading to psychological problems does not happen overnight. So we can't expect to solve psychological problems through a psychological adjustment. For example, the change of cognitive misconceptions, the elimination of unhealthy behavior patterns, and the trauma of childhood misfortune can not be solved overnight. Therefore, it takes patience to solve psychological problems.

The time needed to solve psychological problems. Generally speaking, it depends on two factors. The first factor is our willingness to solve psychological problems ourselves. If we don't have the will to solve problems, we will have conflicts with psychological adjustment, thus delaying the time to solve psychological problems. The second factor is the seriousness and universality of psychological problems. The longer the psychological problems are formed, the longer the psychological debugging time is needed. The greater the influence of psychological problems on work, study, life and family, the longer it takes to solve them.

There was a visitor because of her daughter's depression. When she left, I told them that the child's condition needed to be consulted for some time. As a result, she consulted once and never came back. Later, my mother said to me: teacher, it doesn't matter if the child consults. This idea is also recognized by many people.

The fourth misunderstanding, psychological problems need to be solved urgently.

The influence of psychological problems is often not as direct and realistic as physical diseases, so many people think that it is not urgent to solve psychological problems. Because the symptoms of physical diseases are obvious, patients are unable or unwilling to endure the pain, which leads to a strong motivation to seek medical treatment, while psychological problems often delay treatment because the symptoms are not obvious and urgent.

In fact, psychological problems have far more influence on our life, work and family than physical diseases. Psychological problems will seriously reduce our quality of life. For example, a person with psychological problems of depression may lead to disharmony between husband and wife, bad relationship with colleagues at work and decreased work efficiency. Anyone related to him may be affected by his psychological problems. Obviously, psychological problems should be taken as seriously as physical diseases.

There are still many people who think that psychological problems are nothing, and they will be fine in a few days.

Myth 5: Many people are ashamed to talk about it after discovering that they have mental disorders or mental illness. They think that others will laugh at themselves when they know, so they dare not tell their colleagues, relatives and friends. Some people come to me for advice, and they will tell me, teacher. Don't tell anyone!

The external temperament of each of us is determined by genetic factors and acquired environment. So there are different talents around, so there will be different races, nationalities, looks, skin colors and so on. Genetic factors are not only genetic inheritance, but also emotional inheritance, which is often said to be the influence of family background on us. Our parents are not experts in education. In the process of our growth, there will be various problems. Because of their limited understanding of education and educational methods and means, it will do us such harm. Of course, their parents' behavior is unconscious.

There is also the acquired environment, and everyone's is very different. One hundred people will have one hundred living environments. So each of us decided to be different from others from birth, plus the influence of the acquired environment. Therefore, more or less, we all have psychological problems, but everyone's problems are different and the degree is different.

Therefore, everyone may have mental disorder or mental illness at some time, but we must face it correctly and cannot avoid it when encountering problems.

In order to avoid misunderstanding of mental health in cognition, we should update our concepts and let ourselves know more about mental health and psychological debugging. Many people will let themselves know some medical knowledge about physical health in their daily life. In fact, we should take the same attitude towards mental health.

Mental health is as important as physical health. When we correct our misconceptions about health again and again, don't forget to get rid of them. Only when we maintain physical and mental health can we get a better life experience in our work and life.