? June 6, 2022? Monday is fine.

Thoughts on Reading Teacher Wei Shusheng's Good Parents, Good Family Education (6)

Excerpt P 14

? These children are by no means completely denying their parents, but they just don't like some of their parents' educational methods. Students don't like the educational methods adopted by their parents, which are mainly as follows: ① giving orders to children, ② nagging, ③ complaining and accusing, ④ beating, scolding and corporal punishment, and ⑤ loving too much and loving too little.

Reflection:

? This kind of education is everywhere around me, and even I often commit it myself.

? In the morning, I am in a hurry to go to work. Children don't want to get up, brush their teeth and eat slowly. It's almost time for work. I was so anxious that I shouted and ordered the children to eat. To solve this problem, my solution is to let the children go to bed early at night and get up in the morning 10 minutes. If the children really can't eat, let them go to school hungry. Parents' orders will make children lose their autonomy and should be taken as a warning.

? Many mothers like to nag and say the same thing over and over again, and as a result, their children are getting worse and worse. Once, riding an electric car to work in the morning was chilly. I reminded my child to put on his coat many times, but he turned a deaf ear. I have no choice but to get off and help him put it on. Soon my sunscreen was screwed into the chain of the car. I dragged it out in a rage, and my clothes were torn and stained with a lot of oil. I couldn't help wringing the child's face. Actually, the responsibility lies with me. The child told me many times that he was not cold, so I asked him with my own feelings. The more nagging, the worse the effect, because it's just my parents' wishful thinking.

? "Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you." We don't want children to do something, but we find that adults often can't. Therefore, complaining and blaming are commonplace. If children accept negative information for a long time, they will feel no love and respect, no understanding from adults, no warmth from family, and gradually alienate their parents. Children need to be loved, understood, accepted, recognized, needed and cared for. Children need to gain a sense of importance, value and belonging. If parents can achieve six "feelings" and three "feelings", then the family will become a paradise for children and parents will become their friends. This fair and democratic family ecology is the cradle of children's healthy growth.

? Some parents' beating, scolding and corporal punishment is a nightmare given to them by their family background, and they continue this mistake to their children. Every beating, scolding and corporal punishment will plant the seeds of hatred in the child's young mind, and the child's imitation ability is so strong that these deep-rooted behaviors and thoughts will bite his parents when he is in adolescence or when he grows up. Dear family, in order that our old age will not be too miserable, please be kind to children and life.

? Do you know Ma Baonan? Mothers care too much about children, love children too much, and make children lose their self-care ability and become giant babies. Parents care too much. If children don't have hands, they will have no hands. If children don't have brains, they will be headless and brainless. Think about how terrible it is. We've only been with children for decades. In a hundred years, children will have to live independently. How could he live without self-reliance at that time? There was a "Ma Baonan" who starved to death because he couldn't live. It sounds ridiculous and annoying, but it's a true story. Another mother heard that she had cancer. She is afraid that her 5-year-old daughter will be abused by her stepmother after her death. Before her death, she worked hard to cultivate her children's governance ability. I didn't expect her child's ability to be even more amazing than we thought, as long as we dare to let go.

? Teacher Wei Shusheng's methods are as follows: ① Change compulsory education into democratic consultation. (2) Looking for new topics. When children encounter setbacks and exam mistakes, help them find ways to overcome difficulties and formulate measures to improve their grades. This is what children need most. Have the courage to admit your mistakes to your children. ⑤ Remove excess love.

? Family education is a huge subject. I have been wandering outside the door and have not reached the passing level. I'm ashamed, ashamed. For this reason, I have been listening to Dai Dong's art education, Wang Jinhai's wise parents and Wei Shusheng's good parents, hoping to change my wrong consciousness and find the true meaning of family education.

? Now, I haven't made much progress. I looked at my husband and looked at my children with appreciation. Their eyes are more happy and happy. Every day, I have endless happiness and endless satisfaction. As long as I change my mind, everything will be completely different.

One woman can influence three generations. As women, we are very important to the family and the family. Study hard, make yourself a role model for children, incite family style and change the fate of the family.