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In recent years, we began to talk more about education.
Because we found that the economy has gone up, the pockets are bulging, but the education has not gone up, and all kinds of scandals of China tourists abroad.
In China, I don't need to say that everyone knows what it is.
Yu said, "What is education? Education means that when you walk among a group of people, you behave appropriately and make people feel polite and happy. "
I didn't care much about education myself before. My own principle is not to disturb others as much as possible and not to cause trouble to others. After having children, I began to pay more attention to this problem, especially the child's support.
Because I don't want my child to be a nuisance, I want him to be an educated person.
Why pay attention when you have children? Because children are like a mirror, showing many shortcomings of parents. In fact, children often don't understand etiquette requirements. What parents need is to manage themselves and teach their children well.
For example, when I took my children out for dinner a few days ago and was with some playmates, I immediately started yelling. When a child is excited, he shouts loudly.
I'll bring him back right away and tell him that this is where everyone eats, and we can't shout. But after a while, several people climbed behind the sofa seats at the next table. At this time, I'll call them back and tell them not to disturb other guests for dinner, but to sit on their own stools, otherwise I'll use the ultimate punishment (standing outside the door to reflect, I can accompany you if necessary, because I didn't educate you well).
It is difficult for children over three years old to control their emotions and behaviors, but parents should also discipline them well, not to say that they beat and scold their children in public. That will only make parents uneducated and uneducated. Parents should set an example for their children and then gently tell him what to do.
Of course, some mothers will say that children are too naughty to listen to discipline. Then we should reflect on what is wrong with our education.
In the process of children's growth, parents must tell their children rules and self-discipline.
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You know: children will grow up no matter how young they are.
When a child makes a mistake or gets into trouble, the most common excuse I have ever seen is "the child is still young, nothing!" " "So there are two or three-year-old children urinating on the wall next to my warehouse. I can't blame them! Because the child's mother said that the child is still young and not sensible!
So the news said that the child scratched the car parked on the side of the road with a stone, and the mother turned a blind eye, so that the angry car owner kicked the child away directly, which finally triggered a lawsuit.
The reason why the wrong child insists is: why do you want to do this when the child is still young?
This reason really has its own aura and is impeccable.
Is it appropriate to kick a blind mother away?
When the child is in trouble, he will immediately respond that the child is still young. This is irresponsible behavior for children's growth. You know, if you don't educate your child, someone will teach him a lesson.
I saw a mother posting on the Internet that because her son was a little naughty, he was slapped in the face when eating in a restaurant! She is still trembling with anger. It turned out that the mother took her son to a nearby restaurant for dinner. Her son likes to run around the neighboring table and harass the neighboring table that eats crabs several times. Finally, because I ran to the next table to catch crabs, the person who hit this table was thrown away by others, and the result was beaten back. ...
One thing that my mother dislikes is that my children are small and naughty. How can you be as knowledgeable as him?
But ask, is the child still young and the mother still young? Why not control the children in time?
I remember when my child was more than two years old, he took the high-speed train once. He is very excited and wants to play games with me. Every time he wins, he laughs.
A little brother in the front row couldn't stand sleeping, so he said to me, "Take care of your children! This is not your home. "
At that time, my mother and I looked at each other and apologized quickly. Take out the picture book, help the child change a quiet mode and tell him a story.
After that, I paid more attention to taking the children out. Never let your children disturb others. I am the one who needs the most attention.
Never indulge a child just because he is young. Because no matter how young a child is, he always grows up.
If parents don't teach their children some manners and rules now, because children are more indulgent when they are young, they will expect forgiveness when they make mistakes.
Then one day, when he walked out of school, went out into the society and acted like a bear, no one would tolerate him anymore, and then the children couldn't stand it. Because no one follows him like that anymore.
If you don't educate your child, others will educate him instead of you. I hope you won't regret it then
And this Xiong Haizi grew up, can become a qualified parent? Can you take up the responsibility of educating the next generation?
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Take care of yourself first, then take care of the children.
A mother said that once, a relative came to her home, and her son generously shared all his toys. Finally, when we left, a 4-year-old boy from a relative's family took a fancy to a dinosaur toy, which was the child's favorite dinosaur baby. Of course not, but the children of relatives are crying and crying to come back.
The scene at that time was very embarrassing, and two children were fighting for it. At this time, the child looked at his mother and hoped that her mother could save the dinosaur for herself. Relatives also looked at her with a smile, waiting for her to open her mouth and give the toys to the children.
You know, in our usual impression, this dinosaur should be given to guests, because guests are distinguished and can be willful.
But she knows the importance of this dinosaur to children. So I squatted down and said to my relatives' children, "I'll buy you a new one next time, okay?" Leave this with my brother, because he won't be able to sleep. "
The child refused. At this time, the relative made a move, grabbed the toy directly, stuffed it into her hand, and then left with the child.
Not even a basic farewell. In fact, she wanted to ask the address the next day to buy one for her child. But the other party won't even answer the phone. In the end, everyone said her family was stingy. This hardly made her angry, but she didn't regret it, because such relatives didn't pay.
In the face of such an uneducated bear, can children get a good upbringing? It's hard.
Therefore, to educate children well, parents should first take care of themselves.
Know that the world is not your own, and don't think that the whole world will revolve around your children like you.
You know, children are independent individuals with dignity. They need respect and good upbringing.
Many times, it is because of the parents of the bear at home that the child becomes Xiong Haizi, which is also a tragedy for the child, because his childhood personality and behavior habits are influenced by his parents step by step.
Isn't Xiong Haizi's problem that parents are responsible for themselves?
I always want my children to understand that the world is not up to you, and you will not give way automatically because of your willfulness. Growth is something that needs to be taken seriously. You must be responsible for yourself and respect everyone around you.
Remember, mom and dad will always love you, but the outside world is cruel.
You must be an educated person and make others feel comfortable and happy. Not annoying.