This is a very common problem and a headache for parents. Why do children of this age have rebellious psychology? Adolescence is a special period, which is called storm period in psychology, and children's emotions will fluctuate greatly. During this period, teenagers have a very prominent psychological change, which is the second upsurge of self-awareness. At this time, children have a strong desire to become adults and some internal needs, and this desire is extremely strong. Because of his psychological age and physiological age, he can't become an adult. He is semi-independent and semi-dependent, so students have a strong rebellious mentality. Parents should not think about why my child has become like this. It turns out that he is fine, and there will be a panic and fear in his heart. When parents have such worries, fears and fears, this psychological state will be brought to his interaction with children. First, it is normal for parents to adjust their mentality and see that their children are rebellious and oppose their parents. Second, how to communicate with children of this age. Children usually lock up their things, and some of their inner feelings will not be told to you, and even have a strong emotional conflict with you. When children have strong emotional reactions, parents should listen and not be reasonable. This is an ineffective practice that has been proved by countless people. We need to hear why children have such a strong emotional reaction. Is it because children are eager to be adults and independence, but we have not met their needs? Third, because they have a very strong sense of independence, we should give them corresponding trust. Children often say that my parents don't trust me or understand me. In this case, we should give him some rights and trust, let him do something independently, and accept the side that they are not doing so well. Because they are in a semi-adult and naive state, trust is very important. A father once told me that his children were in Grade One. The child is often absent from school, and his mother is often ill for a period of time. His father often calls his children to say that his mother is ill. Please go to the hospital to see her. Sometimes children go to see their mothers, sometimes they don't. Once his mother was seriously ill, he went to the hospital to see his mother, and then asked his father why you didn't tell me in time and why you didn't call me. Father wanted to say: I called you, but you never came. But my father held back and said, I thought you knew about mom's illness and you would come. The child didn't say anything, but stayed with his mother and took care of her during her hospitalization. Therefore, at this time, it is very important for parents to trust and accept their children and give them tolerance where their children are not doing well enough. Meet their inner needs, become "independent people", and meet their needs of being trusted and recognized. How do teenagers keep a good mood? Apart from the specific psychological age of teenagers, there may be another problem, that is, how we view emotions. Emotion is a very important part of mental health. In the development of people's mental health, whether your mind is healthy or not is an important aspect. Whether you know how to manage your emotions well is an important life topic for primary and secondary school students and even many adults today. How can I manage my emotions well? First, know emotions. In the cultural tradition of China people, we often think that positive emotions are good and negative emotions are bad. What are negative emotions, such as anger, anger, sadness and fear? Many parents tell their children that you can't be angry and you are not allowed to be angry. Many families have such family rules, and children form an idea in their minds: it is not good to be angry. What should I do when I am angry? There are often two ways, one is to suppress anger, but it still exists in people's subconscious. When I suppress my anger once, twice and many times, it will accumulate to a certain extent. If it is suppressed to a certain extent, I can't suppress it any more, and it will explode one day. At this time, there was another huge explosion. The other is to avoid stress. There is actually positive significance behind negative emotions. Everyone has negative emotions. We can't treat these negative emotions across the board. Let me give you an example. A mother's child is over two years old. The common way is to hit her head against the wall and even bleed. What is behind such a strong emotional reaction? Children over two years old have self-awareness. Sometimes my mother asks her to brush her teeth, and if she doesn't, she forces her to go. Mom said that you put away your toys and our family would go out, but she didn't want to and had a good time. When she has unhappy negative emotions, the child doesn't know how to resolve them, and she wants to express her dissatisfaction. She finally hit her head against the wall to express my anger, dissatisfaction and anger. In this process, what we see is that when the child is angry and angry, the parents tell him that you are allowed to have such anger, and you tell the mother why she is angry. We change from knowing emotions to the second aspect: accepting emotions. Accept that our child has some negative emotions, instead of telling him that you are not allowed to have negative emotions. We see your negative emotions and allow you to have negative emotions. Let's see why you are so angry and how to accept these emotions. In the process of talking with children, children will learn slowly. When I have anger, how to express and vent it in a more reasonable way, instead of "groping" myself. The third aspect: transforming emotions. When I have negative emotions, I can adjust and transform them by relaxing, imagining and changing my cognition, so that the negative emotions gradually become positive. If I can't adjust my positive mood for a while, for example, I am still very anxious today, it doesn't matter. It reminds me that there are some things to deal with, just let it exist, nothing. Many times we worry about my anxiety. What should I do? The more I think about it, the more anxious I may be. On the contrary, anxiety is a part of my body. I allow it to exist. Probably my friend. When we look at these negative emotions in this way, the negative impact of negative emotions on us will be much reduced.