# The second issue of the theme essay of "Flash Moment" # # The early autumn creation happened to win the subsidy with pictures and texts at that time #

Wen's qualified parents

The word "educating mothers" doesn't have to be understood in a derogatory sense. Being called a mother who is enthusiastic about education is a well-deserved honor for being a mother, but it is unfair not to call it educating a mother.

But in fact, the word "educating mothers" used in Japanese newspapers and periodicals is mostly half-true. It refers to a mother who is not only keen on education, but also keen to go beyond the limit, deviate from the normal track and go astray. To put it bluntly, it refers to those mothers who interfere excessively with their children's lives in the name of education. Such mothers are called "educational mothers".

Comparing the past with the present, housewives in the past didn't have much time to ask about education because of housework. In principle, major plans and policies in education are in the hands of the father, and there is not much room for the mother to interrupt. However, after World War II, the principle of equality between men and women was implemented, and housewives were liberated from housework to some extent by participating in the "kitchen revolution".

Not only that, after the collapse of the feudal family system, in principle, the family has become a living unit centered on the couple and their children, and the husband has a social career, and the responsibility for children's education completely falls on the mother's shoulders. But these conditions can only lead to mothers who are enthusiastic about education, and may not necessarily lead to "educating mothers."

I used to teach parent-teacher conferences. Even if my mother attended, I could only attend as my father's agent, and my status was not high. But when it comes to PTA, the situation is reversed. Although the president was mostly held by his father, PTA was mostly attended by his mother, so it became a social place for liberating women after the war. This seems to be a good thing, but the original intention of the parent-teacher conference is not to carry out social activities, but to do a good job in education. But what exactly is the content of teaching' education' that mothers learned in PTA Show ii? I just listened to the headmaster's speech on education policy.

I heard some introductions about children's learning attitude from the class teacher, but even this little thing has become the least important thing for most mothers. In PTA social arena, mothers are most interested in appreciating each other's clothes and costumes. Speaking of the most practical problem of children's education, it is a kind of competition whether one's own children will fall behind other children or not.

I heard that other children want to learn the piano, so I thought: my children have to learn ... This competitive psychology is mostly based on vanity. Since other children did that thing there, their own children have to do it. This is not an educational behavior based on their own children's reality, but a compulsion imposed on them regardless of their interests and acceptance. As a result, children began to participate in their mother's education with difficulty. Whose children go to cram schools, so do their own children, and whose children go to English classes, so do their own children.

So coercion is getting stronger and stronger, and too much interference has become a feature of "educating mothers". There are often things here that people who specialize in pedagogy can't understand. People who are called "educational mothers" always think that as long as children are restricted from the outside, there will always be changes.

If this external restriction really works, then nothing is simpler than education, and educators should be unemployed. Philosophers in Europe18th century, such as Kant and Herbart, all thought that what kind of characters should be created by imposing external restrictions on children.

But in the end, they all changed their minds and advocated that education should be based on careful observation of children. In particular, Herbart and others have also established a self-contained educational theory for this purpose. It can be seen that we must not impose external restrictions on children at will, not to mention the interference of "educating mothers" on children, which is mostly based on vanity and competitive psychology. The growth of a child has never been imagined by an "educational mother". He does whatever he wants to teach him, and he grows up according to the idea of educating his mother. However, the situation is often the opposite, and unexpected results often appear.

The environment of "educating mothers" is different from that of mothers who care too much about their children. "Educating mothers" appears when children reach a certain age and can surround their mothers.