1. 1, cultivate children's self-confidence.

When you help your child determine his learning goals, you should first look at his current situation and potential. Especially for those children whose grades are not ideal at present, the more practical way is that you can help them set a learning goal in stages. This goal should be based on his current achievements.

1.2, follow the trend.

The psychological weaning period is a turning point for children from naivety to maturity. Generally speaking, various psychological phenomena in psychological weaning period reflect children's psychological progress. From psychological attachment to parents to independent intention, this is a major change. Parents should cherish their children during this period and adopt a welcoming attitude. Parents should educate the negative side of children's rebellious psychology according to their psychological characteristics.

1.3, spend more time with your children.

Now the only child is lonely and lacks playmates. Therefore, parents still have a task, to play with their children, often choose books suitable for her, accompany her to surf the Internet, play cards with her, and accompany her to exercise. In this process, parents can understand her likes and dislikes and guide her in time.

1.4, find out the psychological reasons of resistance.

Understanding doesn't mean not making rules, but when making rules for my baby, I won't "enforce" those rules that he has been resisting, but find out the reasons why my baby resists and try to solve them.

1.5, looking for the baby's good performance

Praise can indirectly let the baby understand right and wrong, so I pay more attention to some good performances of fruits and praise them in time.

1.6, respect children's self-esteem.

Establish close and equal friendship with them and let children participate in family management. I believe that children have the ability to handle things independently, support them as much as possible, encourage and comfort them when they encounter difficulties and failures, and praise them immediately when they succeed.

2. What are the reasons for children's rebellion?

Before puberty, children have no self-awareness and independent thinking ability, so everything depends on adults' thinking and suggestions. After entering adolescence, with the development of the brain, children begin to have the initial ability of independent thinking and judgment. Because children find that they can find out the logical relationship between things like adults, they feel that they are equal to adults. They no longer blindly listen to other people's opinions, but try to think independently. The external performance is stubbornness, resisting the opinions of adults and willfulness. In fact, this is a process in which a child is learning to think independently.

As children grow up, the more contact with the outside world, the more "unexpected" situations, and the more diverse children's emotions. But emotion is an abstract concept, and it is difficult for children who are good at thinking in images to understand abstract things. They will be confused, afraid and resistant to these psychological changes, and because of their age, they will only vent through the single channel of crying. In the eyes of adults, children's behavior is like hysterical and unreasonable.

3. When is the child's rebellious period?

3. 1, 2-3 years old, rebellious behavior is the performance of the first rebellious period in life, called "baby rebellious period".

3.2.6-8 years old, you will come to the second rebellious period of your life, which is called "children's rebellious period".

3.3. 12- 18 years old is the third rebellious period of life, which is the most common and famous "rebellious period of youth".

How did the child behave during the rebellious period?

1, violation of discipline

They like to argue with others, but they often have insufficient arguments; Likes to doubt, but lacks scientific basis; Like to find opinions, but not sure; Like to criticize others, but easy to be one-sided. Parents know these characteristics of "psychologically weaned" children, so they should avoid being simple and rude and should not treat them as "coaxing".

2. Sing against your parents.

Don't do what your parents ask, the more you are forbidden to do, the more you have to do; Ignoring parents, I prefer to play by myself rather than with my parents.

3. Challenge rules and authority

Deliberately breaking the rules set before; Put forward new requirements in an endless stream; Make a deal with your parents and do nothing until you meet the requirements.

4. Conflict with other children

When playing with other children, they will compete for the same toy and order. They don't want to share toys with others, but they like to grab other people's toys, and even hit people in serious cases.

5. Destructive

Littering, unpacking toys, scribbling, tearing books, deliberately throwing toys all over the floor.

What should we pay attention to when educating children in rebellious period?

1, set an example

Be a good role model for children. Parents' behavior will directly affect children's thoughts and behaviors. Therefore, parents should control their own behavior, and don't let resistance control themselves, especially in front of children.

Step 2 respect each other

Let go of the authority of parents and communicate with children in an equal tone. Even if you don't agree with their children at first, you should listen patiently, fully understand their views, and then put forward your ideas through exchange of views. Don't preach blindly regardless of their feelings. Appropriate forms should be taken for things that need intervention, so as to avoid the deeper estrangement caused by simplicity and rudeness.

Step 3 learn to listen

Don't neglect children's dialogue needs because of busy work and social activities. In this particular physiological period, parents should be diligent in talking with their children. Guide them to understand parents' verbosity and teachers' criticism in a positive sense. These teachings are well-intentioned to help them grow up healthily.

Step 4 swap roles

It is very important to have an empathy when getting along with others. Understand each other's difficulties, and naturally there will be no resentment. Parents should understand their children's rebellious psychology, and naturally there will be a harmonious relationship in communication.