The enlightened parents of contemporary families in the 2 1 century can only be achieved through various forms of study and practice. This is not to take it for granted that you can do a good job as a parent, let alone act in line with the requirements of a good parent. Parents' educational methods are natural, spontaneous, reasonable and artistic. Only by establishing the belief of being an art parent can we become competent parents.
Parents should have good behavior in their studies.
The task of family education is Qian Qian's, but now the primary task of China family is nothing more than children's study. It is true that in the face of cruel competition for further studies and heavy employment pressure, it is the most realistic consideration for ordinary families to realize their children's happy future, pave the way for family construction, get a good school and find a good job. As a result, parents desperately asked their children to study hard anyway, but many parents' good wishes came to nothing. The most important reason is that our parents themselves don't like studying. What qualifications does a person have to ask his children to do well what they don't even like to do? ! Therefore, even children should ask their parents to pick up books and take the initiative to be a person who loves reading. Give it a try. Children can't go wrong at school.
3, parents should have a democratic style, can't engage in centralized.
"I am right, you must listen to me." This is the habitual thinking and practice of our parents. Fundamentally speaking, this is the inheritance of Jun Jun and his son's thought in China's feudal ethics for thousands of years, which emphasizes a kind of folly, loyalty and filial piety, and is a historical fetter that binds China to take off. Let alone the democracy of the country, the democracy of the family depends on each of our parents. Today's children are no longer ignorant urchins at the mercy of their fathers. They are children with flesh and blood, independent personality and open mind. Many times, they learn faster, have more knowledge and have more flexible thinking than us. Therefore, the best way to encounter parent-child conflicts is to negotiate on an equal footing and resolve them peacefully. Children are often more reasonable than adults. When your compulsion fails, you can turn corruption into magic in a democratic way. For example, you can ask your child to give you advice. If he is right, you sincerely correct it, and it goes without saying that he will certainly accept your criticism and suggestions to the children.
Parents should be considerate, open-minded and generous, and allow their children to make mistakes.
Children are children after all. If he wants to grow up, he will make mistakes. Imagine, is there anyone in the world who can't make mistakes? Didn't we also grow up with mistakes? With this awareness, parents may be more tolerant of their children's mistakes. Moreover, children will make all kinds of mistakes. For example, when they see the rice bowl on the table confiscated, it may be broken, which is a good intention to do bad things. Parents just need to tell him the rules of doing things. For small mistakes that persist in teaching, parents can change their education methods and agree with their children on punishment measures for mistakes, which will greatly reduce the "incidence rate".
Parents should cooperate with each other.
One of our shortcomings in China is the lack of consciousness of unity and cooperation. We don't say anything at work, and society doesn't care much. Then, in the family, both parents must cooperate sincerely and Qi Xin should make concerted efforts, which is the premise of educating children well. Otherwise, children's physical and mental development will be affected and the educational effect will be worrying. In case of different opinions, husband and wife and elders must communicate and negotiate, otherwise the child will either be at a loss or be duplicitous. Only when parents agree can they jointly shoulder the heavy responsibility of educating their children.
6. Parents should keep their word and don't take it lightly.
Once a word is kept-a word is kept. In the process of educating children, appropriate commitments and rewards are essential. A word spoken is a word that must be honored. If you want to train your child to be a man who keeps his word and dares to do things, start with your words, actions and actions. Don't break your word. Parents should be reminded that treating their children's good grades, especially their academic performance, is not a material reward, but a spiritual encouragement. Otherwise, children are likely to form a bad motivation to study hard for "bribery".
7. Parents should be far-sighted, and can't judge heroes only by their children's test scores.
What is the standard of a good boy? In my opinion, it is the "six educations" for the all-round development of morality, intelligence, physique and beauty. Parents must not fall into the strange circle of "anything can be done as long as their children study well". Usually such children don't study very well. Even if you really learn, you can't keep up with your psychological development, have no behavioral ability, and even have low moral character. So, are you trying to cultivate talents or wasting materials? Growth is more important than success. At the same time, parents should allow their children to be versatile. Blue-collar workers with excellent academic performance are also indispensable talents in society.
Parents should be strict with themselves and take the lead in setting an example.
Learning to be a teacher is a good example. This is the basic requirement for a teacher to be a model, and it also applies to family education. Parents are upright, and children do not give orders; Parents are dishonest and children are disobedient. Parents' actions are silent language. If I want to sum up the secret of my successful education of my daughter, it is: "Set an example and take the lead." Let your children do it first.
9. Parents' education for their children should be a combination of strict love.
As the saying goes, strictness is love, and looseness is harm. No matter whether you teach or not, it will get worse. This is only one aspect of family education. Indeed, families in cities are all only children now, and parents' doting and pampering are widespread, which should be taken as a warning. On the other hand, we should give children selfless love and broad love, regardless of whether their grades are excellent or not, regardless of whether they often make mistakes. As the saying goes, be strict and merciful, and abandon it as our shoes. However, at the same time, we should also tell our children that to accept their parents' love, they should pay their due obligations, that is, they should strive to grow up and not slack off. Children may not study well, but they should work hard; Children don't have to go to college, but they must succeed. Parents remember: children are allowed to choose different growth paths, but parents will never cultivate a mediocre person!