1: Too much maintenance Sometimes, because parents pay too much attention to their children's superficial requirements and ignore their intangible psychological needs, even if their children have excellent natural standards, they lose their due development trend. When children want to run and play, some parents will ban them for fear that their children will get hurt. In this way, children will develop less active habits, the human body will become late-maturing, weak and sick, the rapid development of thinking will be hindered, and the temperament will become timid, unconfident and unable to face difficulties. Parents must understand that caring is inner communication, not interference of personal behavior. Too much interference not only makes children resistant, but also hinders the development trend of children's potential.

2. Overwhelming parents abide by their children's rules and achieve everything for their children. Children don't need hands-on ability to do anything, so it is very easy for them to become self-centered, arrogant, dependent, late-maturing, not modest and not knowing how to take care of themselves. Even if it looks smooth and soft on the surface, when children grow up and have to deal with difficulties, there may be temperament gene mutations.

3. Promote the growth of seedlings. Some parents force their children to learn to stand, walk and write in advance regardless of their children's growth and development ... which leads to a serious imbalance between children's body and mind, causing children's bad temper, anxiety, indifference, timidity and other problems, and may even refuse to study and train, and do not know how to get along with others.

4. Being too dictatorial often regulates children's behavior in an authoritative tone, restricts his arbitrariness and denies his thoughts, which will make children in anxiety for a long time, unable to express themselves, and can only be timid, making them lose confidence and courage to try new things. In addition, children will bully their younger children in order to vent their dissatisfaction better. When children grow up, they are more likely to bear a grudge against their parents and vent their dissatisfaction with the past inventory backlog back to their parents.

5. Strict-faced children can't feel their parents' love in earnest. Putting on a stern face can only make children flinch from their parents. Parents should avoid blaming their children with harsh keywords, and even if their children don't do well, they should give them gentle suggestions to make them easy to accept. Many parents have high expectations for their children, but they are stingy and praise them. They often put on an elderly face and blame their children, thinking that it is cultural education, but actually ignoring the wonderful teaching effect provided by praise.

6. Ignore the advantages of children and feel that children have no advantages. Even if they do, parents take it for granted. China people are modest, so some parents are not used to praising their children on others, and sometimes they will continue to blame their children unintentionally. In fact, parents' evaluation of children is the basis for children to build their own brand image. If you often talk about his shortcomings, children will doubt their own abilities, which will not only directly affect their self-confidence, but even think that they are useless and will not work hard to make progress.

7. Restrict children from talking. Children like to ask questions. Some parents will feel annoyed, cut off their children's words, or want their children to be quiet. Some parents often speak for their children when others ask them questions. Doing so will take away the opportunity for children to practice speaking, lead to poor self-expression ability, and gradually stop talking to their parents, which will seriously affect parent-child communication.

8. Talk to children often. Some parents mistakenly think that they need to know how to do it after talking to their children a few more times. Even when comforting children, they talk about their mistakes, advise them what to do and ignore their difficulties. This practice of parents will make children feel numb and become lifeless and unconfident.

9. Be grumpy with children. Parents' violent and disorderly temper will distort children's temperament and extreme personal behavior. Children may become rebellious, regardless of right and wrong, and lack a sense of mission; Or become autistic and insecure; It is also possible that you are always angry.

10: look down on children's abilities. Parents doubt their children's potential and require them to follow their own intentions everywhere. So that children can't learn and train from mistakes, get used to relying on and being instructed, and become lack of thinking ability. Some people have outstanding intelligence, but they are negative and pessimistic, and their interest is not high; Some people have average intelligence, but firm beliefs, ambitious overall goals and perseverance. All normal children always have such advantages or uncertain advantages. Therefore, as parents, we should objectively and calmly analyze the characteristics of children, be good at detecting their advantages and let them feel the joy of success.