Educating children is a systematic project, which must combine the education of society, school and family perfectly. Without family education, it is difficult for children to embark on the road to success. Suhomlinski said: "The effect of education depends on the consistency of the influence of school and family education. Without this consistency, the teaching and education process of the school will collapse like a paper-cast house. " Therefore, it is an important job for our teachers to play the educational role of parents. Only the mutual support and cooperation between schools and families can promote the healthy development of students. "Family education is the cell of society, and good family education is the foundation, supplement and continuation of school education. Do a good job in school education and family education, besides the big aspect, we should also consider some details, starting with the details: 1, unify our thinking and educate students together. Teachers should publicize the correct educational concept to parents and guide and help some parents in the ways and means of educating their children. Nowadays, most students are only children. On the one hand, many elders and parents spoil them too much. They reached for clothes to make ends meet. They don't like hardship and can't stand the test of setbacks. On the other hand, parents generally "look forward to their children's success" and "look forward to their women's success", and demand too much from their children. Once the goal is not achieved, compulsory and rude measures will be taken, which will lead to children's weariness of learning and even self-abandonment. These educational methods all violate the educational laws. Only by giving correct education and guidance according to the characteristics of children's physical and mental development can children grow up healthily. Therefore, in the process of contact with parents, teachers should publicize the correct educational concept to parents, let them establish a correct view of children, let them know that educating children should be strict, persuasive and personalized, and set an example while respecting and trusting children. Only by improving their self-cultivation can parents improve the family education environment and adjust the ways and means of educating their children, and family education and school education can be unified. 2, always grasp unremittingly, can't be thirsty to dig wells. The long-term nature of education determines that teachers should always communicate with students at school and at home. Only in this way, teachers can fully and carefully understand students' personality characteristics, hobbies and performances in all aspects, and can teach students in accordance with their aptitude. This also requires teachers to pay more attention to students' performance, observe their movements, find problems early in time, solve problems with parents, and let education appear before problems occur, not after them. In the process of educating students, teachers must not be ignorant of their parents and lack contact and communication. When there is a problem, I will get in touch with my parents and discuss countermeasures. This kind of education is lagging behind and very passive. Education cannot be put in place in time, and students cannot receive a good education. 3. Various forms and multiple contacts. In the process of contact between schools and families, schools should adopt various forms of contact and actively create opportunities for contact. Teachers can use the most common way-home visits. Through this form, teachers can learn more about students' family situation and students' performance at home, and fully exchange views with parents. In addition, schools and teachers can also hold some parent-teacher conferences, reports and symposiums regularly or irregularly, or report the work situation and work plan of school education and teaching to parents, put forward specific requirements for education, listen to parents' opinions, and exchange some educational issues with parents of individual students. At the same time, we should try to avoid simply asking parents to "visit the school" as the only way to solve the problem of students' education, rather than knowing the situation in many ways and in many ways. This form of contact is too one-way to thoroughly educate students. 4. Communicate comprehensively and don't criticize blindly. People often say that "no one is perfect without gold". When communicating with parents, teachers should also look at students in two ways, not only to see their shortcomings, but also to pay attention to their bright spots. In contact with parents, teachers should pay attention to the comprehensive exchange of students' study and life at school and at home, and objectively and truly tell each other their own advantages and disadvantages, study and life, ideology and morality. When reflecting problems to parents, we should not only grasp the shortcomings of students, but also criticize them. Instead, we should analyze students' situation comprehensively and objectively, affirm their advantages, treat their shortcomings correctly, and work with parents to find out the best way to educate students. Criticizing students blindly will only embarrass parents, and will only make parents see their children's shortcomings unilaterally, which will lead parents to go astray in the content and way of educating their children and have a negative impact on their growth. 5, timely feedback, do a good job in re-education, education is continuous, and students' physical and mental development is also staged and unstable. In a certain aspect of students' education, schools and families have made contact and taken actions, but it should also be noted that this is not the end of education, but to prepare for another contact. "How to correct students' mistakes? Whether students' interest in learning is still high; Are children still introverted? How to educate children in the next step? "And so on, all these can be contacted again. Teachers and parents timely feedback each other's students' situation, so that schools and families can grasp students' trends purposefully, planned, step by step and with emphasis, adjust educational methods and contents in time, and guide children correctly. The benign combination of school education and family education has many advantages. Generally speaking, dealing with the relationship between the two can not only give teachers the opportunity to fully understand students and adopt the best educational strategies, but also let parents often know the dynamics of their children's study and life and prepare for education. In the long run, schools and families can educate children together to make them grow up healthily and healthily.