Whether a child is filial or not has a lot to do with his parents' education. Parents themselves are not filial people, and children will not become filial people under the influence of their parents.
When children who are forced to study grow up. Will you be particularly grateful to your parents? Children have poor self-discipline when they are young. Relatively speaking, many things can't be done by yourself. At this time, they need parental supervision. The social competition is really fierce now. Whether the educational methods are correct or not, their starting point must be for us.
Will the children given to others grow up to be biological parents? Your good friend.
It's not too much to say this.
Most adoptive parents won't tell him.
If you accidentally let him know the story.
He will definitely go and see what his biological parents are like.
But it's hard to say whether you recognize it or not.
Most of them hate being abandoned.
I sincerely hope I can help you.
If you are satisfied, please adopt it, thank you!
Children who compete with their parents will have a good life when they grow up. This child has a strong personality, and he will suffer when he goes into society in the future. This kind of character is not desirable.
When children grow up, why are they alienated from their parents? If there is less communication with children, the gap will be even greater. Therefore, no matter how old children are, they should understand their inner thoughts and start from their perspective.
If you are not filial to your parents, will your children be filial to you when they grow up? Children have a strong learning ability. Parents should set a good example. The consciousness of filial piety to elders should start with dolls.
Why do parents always worry that their children will not be filial when they grow up? 1. Love and affection are in a dilemma.
This year's Lunar New Year's Day coincides with Valentine's Day in the West, which led to an online debate about whether to accompany your family or your girlfriend during the Lunar New Year. This choice is as difficult as a girlfriend asking who to save first if she and her mother fall into the river at the same time. Perhaps, they may kill the budding emotional seedlings in infancy.
To paraphrase the lyrics of a song "Dilemma" a long time ago: one side is affection, the other side is love, and the left and right are not difficult for themselves. Which is more important, love or affection? Who can give a standard answer?
Some people will say that a man who doesn't even pay attention to his parents can't expect to take care of his family and love his wife after marriage. Some people will say that now that he doesn't pay attention to me, isn't it even worse after marriage? It is hard to say whether the public is right or not, and it is impossible to catch up with a savage girlfriend. There was a big discussion on similar issues in one year. Nowadays, only-child couples go to their mother-in-law's house or mother-in-law's house for the Spring Festival. Love and affection are put on the scales again and again, and it is often men who make decisions and bear the consequences.
In most people's minds, I think family ties are important. By kinship, I mean parents, seven aunts and eight aunts, and cousins are not considered for the time being. What parenting lessons, the pain of pregnancy, have been boasting for thousands of years. And the beauty of love has never stopped praising since ancient times. It is also the most beautiful feeling of human beings. How to choose?
Second, true love is greater than family affection and is worth cherishing.
Here, the author only admits his own views, and does not think that he is necessarily right, but he does not think that he is completely wrong. I believe that no one can give a correct measure, only from a personal point of view. Everyone experiences different things and grows up in different environments, so naturally they have different opinions. In my opinion, love and affection are both important, but love is greater than affection. By love, I mean true love. Two people care about each other from the heart, think for each other, and have no false feelings, including money, beauty and power.
Perhaps because of the author's childhood situation in cool thin, I have my own experience on family ties. Call me cold-blooded or unfilial and laugh it off. To think that love is greater than affection is not to ignore affection, but an attitude.
First of all, kinship is linked by blood, and love, before it came into being, has nothing to do with each other.
▲ It is a normal physiological and psychological need for parents to raise children. As long as it is an animal, it will basically do this. This is an instinct. For human beings, this is a responsibility. When a couple decides to have children, it is not only the need to reproduce, but also their inner need.
Because it is their own blood, parents love their children, and because it is every parent's duty to raise their children's healthy growth, it is their right for every child to enjoy their parents' meticulous care. In my opinion, at this stage, children don't owe their parents. On the contrary, if their parents neglect to take care of them, they will cause any psychological and physical harm to their children, which is the negligence of their parents.
Because of this, the author despises those parents who constantly emphasize "how hard it is to raise children by themselves and bring you up with a handful of urine" during their children's growth. These are your responsibilities. Now that you have decided to give birth to your child, you should expect that this is a very difficult task. Since you love children, you should have no regrets. What's the point of always emphasizing your own efforts? In my opinion, parents who emphasize these things must not be good parents. If you don't want to be responsible, you can have no children. Since you gave birth to him, you should be responsible for him.
This is the so-called nurturing grace. Everyone knows that. But who won't be parents in the future? What parents do for us, we will do for our children. To say that a mother is great, I think it is compared with her father, because men can't understand the pain that women suffer in order to have children. But having a baby is something that every woman with normal physiology will do, and almost will do. Who is greater than who?
Nowadays, many people are lamenting that they have no time to spend with their parents, can't wait on their parents, and want to support their children without relatives. Filial piety is necessary and necessary, and it is our obligation to our parents when we are adults. However, it is absolutely not advisable to raise this responsibility to an unprecedented height. Similarly, I think that if parents give up everything for their children, they are not qualified to complain about "how can I do it for you" in front of their children, because you don't respect yourself from the beginning, and you regard yourself as an accessory of your children. Similarly, if as children, we regard ourselves as the product of parents' kindness, desperate filial piety and even our own happiness, that is foolish filial piety.
Everyone is an independent individual, and we must first live for ourselves. You are not a sequel to your parents. Your life has its own meaning. What's the point of wasting all your good years and opportunities in order to be filial to your parents and be afraid that your children will miss their adoptive parents? This is not the way to report parenting. The grace of nurturing is actually inheritance, which is the fundamental reason for human reproduction from generation to generation. It is meaningless to regard parenting as how much your parents have done for you. You can never repay everything your parents have done for you.
Family relations are not that good. Its premise is to fulfill mutual responsibilities. As for how deep the feelings with parents are, this varies from person to person. A responsible parent and a filial child owe each other nothing. If you think it is not easy for parents to bring up their children with a handful of excrement and urine, please watch their children bring up their grandchildren with a handful of excrement and urine. This is how family ties are passed on.
▲ Love is totally different. Two people who love each other are not responsible until they know each other. Your boyfriend/girlfriend is kind to you, so you should cherish and thank him/her. Because he/she loves you, it is entirely because he/she loves you, not because you have a certain relationship. He/she can give this love and care to another person without loving you. He/she has no obligation to love you, but he/she loves you, hurts you, endures your shortcomings and makes sacrifices for you. Isn't it great?
This is an emotion for no reason, but it can make people live and die for it, and it is not easy to find it. Affection belongs to everyone, because no one jumps out of the cracks in the stone, and affection can only be divided into warmth and alienation. (Orphans are not mentioned for the time being, because those who raise children who have nothing to do with themselves without regrets are the most respectable people in the world. ) But love can last a lifetime, and it is difficult for some people to realize the feeling of true love. Some are because they can't love, don't understand love, and some are because the other party doesn't cherish it. This is a feeling much more difficult than family. If you have it now, you must cherish it and cherish it again.
Secondly. Your parents only take care of you for the first twenty or twenty-five years, and your lover will accompany you for the next thirty to fifty years or even longer.
▲ As a normal person, even if he has been studying until he is twenty-five, and then he is a doctor or postdoctoral fellow, he rarely relies entirely on the supply of his parents. He can at least work and help professors with projects in exchange for some income. Some/kloc-go out to work at the age of 0/8, rely on their parents for a long time, and even subsidize their families. It's just that in the first ten years of your life, your parents put a lot of effort into you. When you grow up, take care of yourself and become more sensible, your parents won't bother so much. They can't help you with what you have learned. There is a generation gap in your mentality. In life, they only need to provide three meals a day and necessary pocket money, tuition and fees and so on. Although raising a child is 100 years old, he is often worried about 99. But with reference to the above discussion, you will do the same thing for your children, which is human inheritance.
▲ The wife and husband in true love are different. When they fall in love with you, they have already begun to pay for you. In the next three to five decades, he/she will take care of you and accompany you all the way. Don't emphasize what sacrifices and efforts you have made for them, because true love is mutual. You can't compare who gives more to whom. Once you start to care about these things, it is not true love.
After marriage, the two supported each other. Men have the pressure of career and survival, and women also have the pressure of their own career and taking care of their children. In fact, it is difficult to distinguish between men and women who pay more and who pay less in a family. Every family is different. But we have to admit that it is not easy.
In this way, two people bear each other's stumbling all the way. If something happens to you, he's worried about you. If something happens to him, you are anxious to get angry. Children raised together, through ups and downs, don't expect to enjoy happiness with you, but seek life safety. In old age, children grow up, get married, work hard for their own future, or stay with their wives. It is best that both of them are healthy, but in case one of them is ill, the other one has to take care of the other, and it is useless to expect children.
So we often see such a touching scene, an old couple with gray hair walking hand in hand in the park, or one of them is hemiplegic and the other is pushing a wheelchair. Young couples have been together, and there is no change in the middle. It is a rare pursuit that they can grow old together.
▲ Your parents raised you, and when you grow up, you will repay them with care or better living conditions. However, your wife or husband has accompanied you on a hard journey all your life, and you have no pain at all. How can you repay him/her when you are old and sick? In fact, true love doesn't need to be returned, and you can't return it. What you can give is your own wholehearted love, the same care and cherish.
Therefore, love is greater than affection. Don't say that your parents gave you life. So what? You didn't ask them to give you life. Besides, you will also give your children life. Affection can be passed down from generation to generation, but love, true love, died at the moment when two people died.
Third, hard-to-find true love.
▲ The author is a love supremacist. After grandma's hemiplegia, grandpa took care of her in every possible way for more than ten years, which has continued until now. After a while, I made several nannies give up. My grandfather always took care of her personally, until after my lung cancer operation, the child retired and shared it, so he was not so tired. Because of hemiplegia and incontinence, grandma has to go to the toilet regularly. I was really moved to see the old man wearing reading glasses to adjust the alarm clock. Whether his temper is perfect or not, he has been the best companion in life for more than ten years.
The other is my colleagues' grandparents. After grandma died, grandpa was overwhelmed by grief and even committed suicide by lying on the track. How can such a strong-willed old man, such a flesh-and-blood love, not move people?
▲ But this kind of love, up to now, is getting less and less. Our love, tortured by money and the future, cannot breathe. How many people, who have struggled for money and less for ten years, have left a person who really loves themselves and devoted themselves to the arms of another person? Love is not the whole of life? That's because their understanding of love is too narrow. Love is not only a short family affection for half a year, but also romance, your determination to share weal and woe with you, and your dedication without regrets.
Again, when I say love, I mean that you really love each other. No matter whether you are poor or rich, healthy or sick, you will never stop feeling. As for the so-called "one love, one marriage", it is definitely not true love. In order to covet each other's beauty and money, this is not love, this is a deal.
▲ Get married when you are in love. Don't excuse yourself with any excuse. Think you can't give her happiness? Actually, being with you is her happiness. Don't take happiness too materialistically. Parents disagree? You must take control of your life. You didn't marry for your family, but for yourself. That's your own life. You should respect your feelings first.
And those who don't talk about love, just to find a partner, think it's almost time, just pick a few suitable marriages, and never get the happiness of true love. I have no right to say that they won't be happy, they just can't feel the happiness with people who really love each other. Now, how many people still value love? Can't find anyone who has the courage to live alone? In the face of difficulties and setbacks in life, everyone doesn't want to fight alone, but lucky people can find a congenial person, unfortunate people get married and leave, and what's worse, there is a child from a single-parent family who lives a miserable life in the world for no reason.
Fourth, true love and affection never contradict each other.
Love is still much greater and more precious than family. In fact, this conclusion of the author has no meaning for how to spend Valentine's Day this year. Because people who really love you won't embarrass you. Before you get married, he/she will understand any difficulties you have. If it's just a Valentine's Day, I'll yell at you and find fault with you, and such a lover is not a real lover. The author just said what he had always wanted to say through this topic. Everyone lives his own life, not to pay off his parents' debts. As long as he is filial and dedicated, it is enough. Of course, if you repay your lover with the same enthusiasm and care, you don't owe him/her.
I hope that everyone will not owe others, walk the road of life with confidence, and hope that it is good to have lovers all over the world. I hope there are fewer unloved, transactional and arbitrary marriages, and I hope everyone can find true love. If you have it now, please cherish it.
See for yourself.
The children's parents were convicted of theft. Can children become policemen when they grow up? Yes
It's just that the review process is more troublesome.
For example, when checking the family composition
Do children with divorced parents have the right to choose again when they grow up? /kloc-A minor child over 0/0 years of age who wishes to live with the other party and has the ability to support him/her may bring a lawsuit to the court and request to change the relationship of support.
According to the relevant provisions of the Supreme People's Court's "Several Specific Opinions on People's Courts Handling Children's Support in Divorce Cases":
When trying a divorce case, the people's court shall, in accordance with Articles 29 and 30 of the Marriage Law of the People's Republic of China and other relevant laws, proceed from the interests of children's physical and mental health, safeguard their legitimate rights and interests, and properly solve the problem of raising their children in combination with the specific circumstances of parents' raising ability and raising conditions. According to the above principles, combined with trial practice, the following specific opinions are put forward:
15. After the divorce, if one party requests to change the maintenance relationship, or if the children request to increase the maintenance fee, they will be prosecuted separately.
16. In any of the following circumstances, if one party requests to change the child support relationship, it shall be supported.
(1) Living with children, and one party is unable to continue to raise children due to serious illness or disability;
(2) The party who lives with the child fails to perform the obligation of raising or maltreats the child, or living with the child does have a negative impact on the physical and mental health of the child;
(3) The minor children who have reached the age of 10 are willing to live with each other, and the other party has the ability to support them;
(4) There are other legitimate reasons for the change.
Parents often say that children are stupid. Even if they are not stupid, will they say that they are stupid when they grow up? Children also have self-esteem. Don't always call them stupid. Otherwise, he will really be stupid enough to show you.