Yingying is a five-year-old girl. She has a good relationship with her father. She falls asleep in his arms every night, but the child is getting bigger and bigger. The mother thought that the child should sleep in separate rooms, so she proposed to let the child sleep alone, but the child resolutely opposed it and said to her mother, "I will sleep with my father in the future, and you will sleep with my father!" " Although the child's words are childish, they make the mother nervous. Children are too careless to know the gender differences, and children may have problems getting along with others in the future.
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Gender education embarrasses many parents. Parents feel embarrassed, but bad people don't. Children's gender awareness is not clear, and it is easy to put themselves in danger. In recent years, there have been more and more cases of children being violated. Parents must be vigilant and protect their children, so that children have the awareness and ability to protect themselves.
Gender education should start at an early age. As parents, they have the responsibility to cultivate their children's gender awareness.
Today, we want to talk to you about gender education, mainly from three points to talk about the importance of gender education.
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The difference between men and women is the first step of gender education.
There is a talk show in Korea to solve the troubles of viewers and star guests. A sophomore girl once went to the scene for help, and she spit on her father. She said that her father's excessive physical contact with her often scared her from going home.
According to her, at home, as long as she looks into her father's eyes, his father will come and kiss her, and it's not that simple touch, but licking her face with his tongue;
If I sit with my father to watch a movie, my father will stick to her face and occasionally touch her belly to blow;
When washing dishes in the kitchen, my father even reached out and touched her ass. ......
What's even more ridiculous is that because my daughter won't let her father bathe her, she is also scolded by her father for not being sensible.
In my father's mind, my daughter's body is my body, and as the mother of three girls, I even think this is a normal behavior.
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Coincidentally, this happened in China last year:
A man "kissed and stroked" a girl on the high-speed rail, and kept lifting her clothes, touching and kissing her back, face and neck, and reaching into her pants.
During the process, the girl also said, "Dad, I am in great pain, please stop touching my ass ..." The girl's mother and grandmother sat next to each other, but kept playing with their mobile phones, which did not stop her father's behavior. Or maybe they think it's no big deal.
This is the father's mistake in front of his daughter, and the mother often makes mistakes in front of boys.
A boy from Changchun once went to the bathhouse with his mother and grandmother. Because he was over 90 cm tall, he was stopped outside bathroom door. As for the management's statement about the gender of children, they insist that boys are too young to have gender awareness at all, but those ideas of adults are too nasty.
In fact, it is good for adults, and the most important thing is the psychological impact on boys. I used to watch women naked in the bathhouse since I was a child, which had an important influence on his gender psychology.
There are also many mothers who are not ashamed to change clothes or be naked in front of their children in order to save trouble. Some people don't even like to close the door when they go to the bathroom.
Some deliberately dress boys with bare genitals, or simply don't wear pants, and they don't shy away from the opposite sex, which is euphemistically called not suppressing boys' nature.
These parents made the same mistake, thinking that the child was born by themselves, and there was no need for gender boundaries between relatives, but the child was the most injured.
There is an old saying in China: the eldest son avoids his mother and the eldest daughter avoids his father.
No matter how intimate the relationship is, we should also maintain a certain sense of boundaries in front of gender.
If parents take the lead in breaking this boundary, it is easy to confuse children's cognition of gender. It may even mislead her into thinking that such intimate behavior between the opposite sex is normal.
If children feel that adults are normal to themselves, or they don't shy away from getting along with them, giving the bad guys an opportunity, children are prone to sexual assault and obscenity.
There is such a set of data in the report of 20 18 Child Sexual Abuse Case Statistics and Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Education Survey in the Protection of Girls:
In 20 18, there were 3 cases of sexual abuse of children, with more than 750 victims, of whom girls accounted for more than 90%.
Among more than 750 victims, 80% of the children are under 14 years old, and the youngest child is only 3 years old. In this report, the proportion of acquaintances committing crimes is as high as 70%!
When these children are violated, they don't have much consciousness, and their self-protection consciousness is weak, and they don't even know that they have been violated.