In 20 17, an animated film "Journey to the Dream Ring" became popular all over the world. It tells the story of the little hero MiG inadvertently entering a grotesque dead world. In this underground world that should be full of death, it is full of laughter.

The reason why Dream Ring Tour makes death beautiful is to "remind" all parents that we should not always avoid and avoid death, but guide our children to face death squarely, so as to understand and face death.

This is unimaginable under the current education system in China. The taboo of life and death makes death a taboo thing. The course of "Death Education" has also become the most evaded course for children in China.

White once unceremoniously "criticism" way:

"When people talk about death in China, they are like a primary school student, because China has never had a real death education."

In the process of recording the variety show "Where's Dad?", the little guest's dog Giruba left in summer. Xia's father did not hide the news of the dog's death, but confessed to Xia the cause of the dog's death. That conversation has been impressive so far.

Dad said to Xia that everyone will die, and mom and dad will leave you one day. After hearing her daughter crying and saying, "If you die, I will die", Xia Keli patted her on the head and comforted her, saying, "You don't need to leave too early, and I don't want to leave too early. When we are old, we will go to heaven together. "

Then, Xia Keli described the beauty of heaven to her daughter. It is not difficult to imagine that in the heart of the next summer, death gives people the impression that it is not only the sadness and darkness of parting, but also the beauty of reuniting with the old friends.

Unfortunately, not every parent dares to openly discuss the topic of death with their children like Xia Keli.

This is actually not difficult to understand.

Parents always think that children are still young and should not be exposed to death prematurely. What parents don't realize is that if there is no public explanation, children always have a little knowledge of death, and all children can do about this strange thing is lack of necessary awe except fear and fear.

These real cases that happen around us every day have actually uncovered the scars that plague countless people. It is precisely because of the lack of a correct understanding of death that many people are trapped in the maze of "unknown death" and cannot see their future direction clearly.

Compared with China's reticence about death, "death education" for children abroad began from the moment the child was born.

A picture book in Denmark, Grandpa Becomes a Ghost, tells the story of a grandfather who died of a heart attack. Because he can't bear to part with his little grandson Osborne, he shuttles home every day. After seeing my grandson, I played every night. Finally, with the help of my grandson, I found my last memory story.

And this memory is to say "goodbye" to my grandson.

At the end of this picture book, the little grandson Osborne's Goodbye Grandpa not only made the two people in the story burst into tears, but also made us feel sad.

As you can see, the fear of death has been greatly alleviated in death education. We prefer to believe that children who have received this kind of death education since childhood can have a deeper understanding of life and death.

As early as 1948, Hungarian psychologist Maria Nike noticed the important role of "death education" in children's growth. She pointed out that it is a good way to educate children according to their different cognitive stages.

1) According to the age of children, our understanding of death has different levels.

Hazy period: 0~4 years old

Babies at this stage don't know what "death" is. Their understanding of death is non-existence in reality, so they will show anxiety about this non-existence. At this time, parents had better not discuss death with their children, but focus on comforting their children's nervousness.

Perception period: 5~9 years old

Children are curious about death from this time, and parents should seize the opportunity to systematically guide and educate their babies at this stage. Remember not to tell children horror stories or watch horror movies to scare them, which will leave a psychological shadow on them.

Development-maturity: 9~ 18 years old

At this time, children have a more rational understanding of death, parents should emphasize the objective existence of death and what to do in the face of life and death. It is necessary to tell children that death is something that everyone has to experience. Since we are all going home, we should cherish every day of our lives. Emphasize the meaning and value of life to children.

2) Grasp the key stage of preschool and help children know death with the help of auxiliary tools.

Preschool (3~9 years old) is a critical period to help children understand death and carry out death education. At this stage, the baby has become confused and curious about death. Parents can use their children's curiosity to help them correctly establish their initial outlook on life and death and lay a good foundation for their children to face death calmly in the future.

Children who have received death education will have a deeper understanding of the meaning of death. They will understand that the dog they grew up with actually went to another place; Falling flowers are finally proud of this blooming. As children, they will cherish the opportunity of life and live hard.