There used to be a saying in society that some people thought that boys were easier to feed than girls. The little boy is honest. If he doesn't listen, he will kick his ass, and there will be no problem. After the fight, he will cry for a while and play by himself. Unlike little girls, parents dare not beat and scold. They are exquisite, narrow-minded and preoccupied. If they can't accept a heavier sentence, they will cry.
Is that really the case?
In fact, this only represents the views of a small number of people. In fact, in the context of the rapid development of today's society, the cost of raising children is becoming more and more expensive. Behind it is that parents have devoted a lot of effort to their children and spent considerable energy, regardless of whether the children are boys or girls. This kind of personal experience, only when you are a parent, will you feel the same.
In real life, many parents are at a loss about how to raise their children, and sometimes they even look helpless and depressed. No wonder, everyone is a first-time parent. Someone once said that parents are the only people who are not certified. So everyone is a novice, and it is normal to have a series of problems.
In the process of raising children, parents will have a series of questions: "What is the child thinking?" "Should it be criticized?" "Why don't children always listen to me?" ... all the above problems are problems that parents have in understanding their children and communicating with them.
In the process of getting along with boys, many boys' parents often encounter the problem that they can't understand their children and communicate with them effectively.
Cui Yunjun, a Korean art teacher, has been engaged in "art education for boys" for seven years. At present, there are 17 research institutes in Korea that only teach children's art. In his own educational practice, he explained to parents how to interpret the emotional expression behind some boys' behaviors with examples. How to make children willing to communicate with their parents; It also tells the skills and methods to help parents and children grow together.
Unscramble the emotional expression behind the boy's behavior
Mom sometimes complains that her son is always playing with his mobile phone. Children with self-dominant personality are more inclined to play mobile phones, because it can give him a sense of accomplishment and satisfy his strong desire for power.
But not all boys are addicted to mobile phones. Children who often like being alone, children who are not recognized, are addicted to electronic products. Those children who spend more time with their families and can be understood have no obvious addiction characteristics.
Some mothers find that their sons can't accept that they didn't win the first place. In fact, what children pursue is not the title of first place, but the recognition from their parents.
They want to get their parents' approval by proving themselves first. Compared with his mother's teaching, boys need his father's guidance and help more. The father needs to explain to his son that it doesn't matter even if he doesn't get the first place. It is important to work hard in this process and have a clear conscience.
When a child is immersed in the atmosphere of failure, it is very important to feel his failure with him and share his own failures and setbacks with him.
Better communication and communication with my son.
To understand a son, you must be good at accepting him for what he is.
My son is not as good as my mother thinks. If the mother refuses to accept her son as he is, it will make him confused about his position and unable to grow up naturally according to his own nature. Because boys are more eager to get their mother's approval.
When children do some bad behaviors, sometimes mothers choose to turn a blind eye. Because the mother thinks that the child should know not to do this, but in fact the child doesn't know, so the parents will feel a little uncomfortable for a while.
Children will feel that they will not express their thoughts to their parents without their consent. It is very bad for children not to show their ideas to their parents. Therefore, parents should give their children more opportunities to communicate with themselves and don't turn a blind eye.
Put down your airs and squat down to grow up with your son.
Parents should understand that the standard for evaluating the quality of education is not the child's grades, but whether the child can do one thing to satisfy him. Help children achieve a state of full devotion when learning knowledge.
Don't teach children hard, but let go of the teaching mentality and keep a relaxed state. Understand children and grow up with them. Accept children's failure, sometimes children's failure will become the driving force for progress, so parents should be more patient with their children, experience the feeling of failure with their children, analyze the reasons for failure, give their children the courage and strength to move forward, and accept various challenges in study and life with their children.
In fact, every child's behavior is his expression, and there are real demands behind it. Cui Yunjun's "Raising Boys" is to find out this real appeal and then prescribe the right medicine, which can solve many problems in the process of children's growth. Parents should pay more attention to their children's original appearance and let them grow up naturally and freely.
Parents should be more patient and experience failure and success with their children. Parents should grow up with their children in the process of educating them.
So raising a boy is not easier than raising a girl. This is a fair and reasonable problem, and everyone can solve it by themselves.