With the growth of children and the expansion of social scope, children who gradually establish self-awareness will begin to examine themselves and adjust themselves in the evaluation of others. Moderately caring about other people's comments helps to stimulate children's self-motivation. But paying too much attention to other people's comments is easy to live in other people's world and get recognition. Once you can't meet the requirements of others, you will feel frustrated and even feel inferior, so you need to pay attention to it by parents, otherwise it may affect your child's mental health.

How to guide children? The most important thing is the evaluation from parents. If parents often compare their children with other children, children will pay special attention to other people's eyes and comments. Therefore, to get rid of the cage of evaluation, parents should start with unconditional love and acceptance, and let their children feel love and warmth.

As parents, our education for our children should be neutral, and we should not impose what we think is good or bad on our children. Many things are neither good nor bad. As parents, we can guide our children to look at the problem comprehensively, because different perspectives and environments will lead children to have different views on the same thing. This is normal, and it is acceptable to see that the results of different positions are inconsistent. At the same time, we can guide children to observe why others think so, if we do it with that person. Let children explore the problem from multiple angles, which is more conducive to children jumping out of the thing itself and easier to understand other people's comments, so it is easier to get rid of it.

When children pay too much attention to evaluation, parents should guide them in time, understand the child's key points, empathize with the child's current feelings and relieve the child's pressure. At the same time, it is suggested that parents can patiently listen to their children's voices, use heuristic questions to arouse their children's thinking about problems, help them establish correct cognitive concepts, encourage their children's every growth, and make their inner strength stronger and better get rid of the cage of evaluation.