But you said that family education is not important?
Dozens of students, the same teacher, the same teaching content, in the final analysis or family factors.
Which is more important?
In fact, there is nothing more important than this.
However, we can be sure of one thing. At present, the problem of school equity is a small problem compared with the gap between families.
Because, although it is impossible for teachers to treat every student at an absolute level, at least, they hope that every student can become a success.
What about family factors? This is out of control.
Some families pay special attention to their children's study. They can't open a pot at home and don't forget to buy one or two books for their children.
Some families are rich, but their parents are divorced, and their daily care is limited to giving money.
It is because the gap between families is too big, so the environment in the family is very different, so the learning effect is different.
This is the real reason why family education seems to be much more important than school education.
The most important thing in our life is that every family wants their future children to have knowledge, wisdom and a life of their own. More importantly, they expect their children to be better than themselves, which is what everyone often says, each generation is stronger than the next! Therefore, a lot of efforts have been made in educating children. Frankly speaking, family accounts for a large part of children's academic performance, or family should play a leading role. Why do you say that? Parents are children's first teachers. When their children know language skills, every parent will subtly guide them, or explicitly tell them that healthy growth and good study are the courses that children must go through!
At the moment when children step into the school gate, the school is also responsible for their academic performance, because the school is a full-time educational institution, which will educate children, starting with basic knowledge and deepening step by step. At this time, the school teacher will do his duty and instill all the knowledge into the students, which is not only dependent on the school. After students return home, parents should cooperate with the school, supervise their children to finish their homework well, and at the same time, check carefully. And regulate children to complete all off-campus studies, so it is the unshirkable responsibility of every parent to set a life goal for their children and accompany them to carry out the plan.
In the long years when children study hard in the cold window for ten years, parents should not think that it should be the responsibility of the school for their children to enter the school gate. Parents can sit back and relax as long as they care about their children's food, clothing, housing and transportation. It would be a big mistake to wait for the school to train a talented woman. Parents must accompany their children, complete their studies in rebellious period and adolescence, and need parents to cooperate with teachers to complete more ideological work when their academic performance is unstable. Therefore, if they want their children to become excellent, they should have more responsibilities, teachers and schools, and more intellectual development to enlighten students. Let China Education Leap Forward!
Some people say that there must be a great mother behind every excellent child.
Today we don't look at the families of students with good grades. Let's look at the families behind the students with poor grades.
I took an ordinary class this year. According to my investigation and statistics, there are 39 students in the class, with divorced families 19, 3 with family changes, 2 with cerebral palsy 1 person and mental retardation. In addition to these 22 students, there are 17 students, 10 left-behind children and 7 students' parents at home.
Jie, a seventh-grade student, called the female classmate to a dark place and forced a kiss on the way to the toilet during the recess of evening self-study. According to his classmates, he also tends to hurt himself and often cuts his hands with a knife. I looked at his wrist and it was really scarred.
After contact, his mother told me that he grew up with his parents, and now he is back, and he hardly communicates with his parents. Anyway, he didn't make any noise, and his parents were helpless. I can't mention my academic performance. I have been poor since I was a child, and it's too late to make up now. Parents say that as long as there is no trouble, junior high school can graduate smoothly. Now I have a little sister at home, less than one year old. Jay's father works outside. She takes care of two children by herself, and the younger one can't take care of them. Let the older people be natural. I hope teachers can educate more.
Joe is a left-behind child. He usually lives on campus and his parents are in Shanghai. On a phone call, I learned that Joe was adopted by his father before he got married. Later, when they got married, Joe followed his parents. Joe also knows that he is adopted and feels inferior psychologically. He has been away from his parents for a long time, only relying on telephone contact. He is far away from his parents and does not study hard. Parents don't have any requirements. Sometimes, parents only call to ask about the situation when the weekly living expenses are relatively high.
Juan is one of seven classmates whose parents are at home. Her parents have high hopes for her and often call to find out about her study, but only after the monthly exam. Juan said that after every monthly exam or mid-term final exam, it is a disaster, either being approved, being beaten or even playing doubles. At ordinary times, she doesn't ask about her study, and she doesn't care if she has finished her homework, and she won't meet any difficulties. They only look at the results, not the process.
Behind every Xiong Haizi, there may be a helpless family.
I hope you can care more about your child, really care about it, not only stay in expectation, but also care about his growth from ordinary details, care about his study, provide a good atmosphere for his growth, and escort his healthy study and growth.
Because children are the future of our family!
The influence of family is very important to children's academic performance. Let's analyze the influence of family environment on students' academic performance.
1, the influence of educational methods. Children's performance in school mainly depends on the family environment. If children misbehave at home, their parents will take punitive measures to intimidate or kick their children. A child who grows up in such an environment may help him live in a dangerous environment, but it can't help him adapt to the requirements of the classroom situation. If you go the other way. Children will be punished when they do something wrong, but in a completely different way. Parents use reasonable methods to let their children know the nature of mistakes, make them feel guilty and ashamed, instill values, and make them more creative or independent in their studies.
2. The influence of incentive mode. Although most parents value their children's academic performance, parents have different ways to motivate their children. Some parents want their children to listen to their teachers in an appropriate way at school, emphasizing obedience to authority. And some families emphasize independence from themselves and go their own way. Under the current educational evaluation system, we all attach great importance to children's academic performance. Children with good academic performance can get more encouragement and appreciation from their parents, while children with poor academic performance get more complaints and censures.
3. The influence of parents' cultural quality. The cultural quality of parents directly affects the family education environment. The high quality of parents provides favorable conditions for children's learning progress and moral level improvement. Children's parents have a strong interest in learning. If they can set an example for their children, they can achieve the effect of moistening things silently and quietly. Therefore, good family education plays an important role in children's study.
4. The influence of family environment. The harmony between parents and family members and the relationship between the whole family members will form a family psychological atmosphere, which has a more direct and obvious influence on children than other factors in the family environment. If parents quarrel at home in the morning, as long as the children are reasonable, they will be depressed at school that day, and even if they sit in the classroom, their thoughts will be easily distracted. Although some parents don't like to talk, they are indifferent to each other and become strangers. Children who grow up in such an environment are psychologically difficult to develop healthily, thus affecting their studies and achievements.
Therefore, every family member should be a role model and demonstration for children, so that children can live in a pleasant, warm, relaxed and harmonious environment, learn to learn from it and learn to be a man.
How to treat "it is not the school but the family that affects children's grades"?
I think the factors that affect children's grades come from many aspects. School, family, society, life circle and family all have influences.
1, the school's study, life, teaching and school reputation are important environments for students' growth. It is an important factor to cultivate students' morality, intelligence, physique, beauty and labor. The school has done a solid job in these areas. Teachers love education, are willing to "preach and dispel doubts", are loyal to their duties, take cultivating students as their lofty responsibility and concept, lead by example, take teaching and educating people as their bounden duty, and spare no effort to cultivate students.
2. Family is the key that cannot be ignored. As the saying goes, parents are children's first teachers, and parents' words and deeds are most likely to be imitated by children and produce qualitative changes. Therefore, parents are children's first teachers, and the image of truth, goodness and beauty in children's young minds is nothing more than the transmission of parents. For example, the first child of a family is admitted to college, and the second and third children are more likely to enter the college threshold. It is not surprising that a family produces four or five graduate students and doctoral students. This is the result of parents' education and children's competitive consciousness. Environmental education is the truth.
3. Society and life circle also directly affect children's growth. If the atmosphere in a certain part of society is not so good and the children's life circle (between children) is not very approachable, it will affect children. As the saying goes, near Zhu Zhechi, near Zhu Zhechi. Therefore, the healthy growth of a child is influenced by many environments.
From this point of view, it is particularly important to create a beautiful environment for children.
It can't be said that it is the family rather than the school that affects children's grades. Whether a child's grades are good or not is determined by many factors, not just one. School and family are the two most important factors, because children's living environment, regardless of time, is not at home or at school. These two aspects have a great influence on children, including grades, and even play a decisive role in their growth. However, family and school play different roles and bear different responsibilities.
Early childhood education (from birth to school) is mainly undertaken by families, including teaching children all life skills, cultivating children's good habits, children's sense of responsibility, children's love, children's moral heart, children's "three views" ... Generally speaking, it is the most basic education, just like the foundation of a high-rise building. Whether the foundation is well played or not is very important to the growth of children (including their grades). Of course, if these foundations are laid, children will naturally learn well, because children are very self-disciplined at this time.
The school is mainly responsible for the teaching tasks after children enter school. Children's knowledge at every stage comes from the teacher's teaching. Although children have been in school for more than ten years, they have to master a lot of knowledge all their lives. Moreover, this knowledge cannot be instilled in children at once, and it should be taught in stages according to the different stages of children's growth. On average, it takes very little time to master each knowledge point. If the child's previous basic education is not done well, and good living habits and study habits are not developed, the academic performance is not good enough. Teachers should share time and energy to regulate children's behavior habits while imparting knowledge, so there is less time to teach knowledge points. In addition, children at this time have missed the best age to cultivate self-discipline, and they spend more energy, which will definitely affect teaching and naturally affect their grades.
Therefore, families should do a good job in children's early basic education, and schools should do a good job in children's teaching after entering school, which are two major guarantees for children's good academic performance. The two have their own division of labor, but they should complement each other and cannot be separated, nor can they be held accountable separately. Only by doing both well can children grow up healthily and happily.
Agreed. To give two examples around us, parents failed to catch their children studying and frequently transferred to other schools. As a result, their children have achieved excellent results everywhere. See how parents have a positive influence on their children.
One is my own sister who never cares about my niece's homework. In the middle, because of moving, my children transferred from urban schools to almost all ordinary schools in urban villages, but they achieved excellent results everywhere. Last year, they were admitted to the second key middle school in Guangzhou.
One is my niece's classmate, which is more exaggerated. I went to four primary schools! Public, private, international, migrant children's schools have all been there! Now, as a freshman, she is not only admitted to the second key middle school in Guangzhou like her niece, but also among the best in her class. I am still teaching myself Japanese (which has reached the first level of a very high level), French and German. I have also signed up for a provincial speech contest, taught myself the TOEFL test, and kept practicing my handwriting, so that I can write well. I can write lyrics and compose music, and I can plan school concerts. .....
The parents of the above two schoolmasters are not particularly concerned about their children's schools, but they will all have a positive impact on their children's family life. Including giving children enough love and security, fully respecting their wishes, guiding them to think independently, and setting an example to give them a family atmosphere for learning knowledge, telling them from an early age that everyone should be responsible for their own lives, and so on.
In the corner of my sister's study, my niece's on the left and my brother-in-law's on the right. My sister also has a study, and the whole family reads. )
So the curiosity and positive motivation of these two children are not affected in any school. However, in today's society, learning resources are available all over the Internet. As long as children are curious, motivated and self-disciplined, they can learn what they want to learn no matter where they are.
Therefore, the most critical influence on children must be parents. Instead of admiring "other people's children", it is better to learn how "other people's parents" affect children.
Finally, the following picture is for everyone. Parents, what floor do you think you are on?
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I think this sentence is really right. Indeed, "it is not the school that affects children's grades, but the family." At present, basic education is mainly an organic combination of school education and family education. School education is carried out under the general education policy of the state, and teachers conscientiously complete the teaching tasks. Family education, such a family, will really have a great influence on children.
Share a case. Many years ago, there was a girl in the class who had a good IQ and a strong ability to accept knowledge. But then the family changed, my father went to prison because of something, and my mother left her and her sister in kindergarten, leaving only her grandmother to take care of her. After such a blow, the child is like a different person, mixing with some social youths, learning to smoke, drink and fight, playing truant, pretending to be the boss at school and causing trouble everywhere. Teachers also try their best to do their work every day and work at home. There is only grandma at home, and there is nothing they can do. Later, I entered the society early, and later I heard that I entered because of my guilty conscience. It's a pity that everyone is talking about it now.
Family education is too important. Of course, only the organic combination of school education and family education can better promote the healthy growth of children.
It should be said that under the premise of school education and teaching management in place, the key factor affecting children's performance lies in family education.
1. Parents consciously exert certain educational influence on their children through their own words and deeds and family life practice. Including children's learning concept, the interaction between family members and education. Family education is one of the components of big education and the foundation of school education and social education.
2. School education is the most important part of one's lifelong education. In school, individuals receive planned guidance and systematically study cultural knowledge, social norms, moral standards and values. In a word, school education lies in correction and cultivation.
Family education and school education should be well combined and complement each other. Dealing with the relationship between the two can not only give teachers a chance to fully understand students, but also let parents know their children's learning and living conditions and prepare for education. In the long run, families and schools can jointly educate children and make them grow up healthily and healthily.
In short, the foundation of family education should be laid well, and the cultivation education of schools should be in place. Only when the two cooperate with each other can children become talents.
[1] This view is biased. There are many factors that affect children's grades, including family factors, school factors, personality, psychology, habits, attitudes, study style, social interaction and so on. Generally speaking, it can be summarized into two major factors, namely, external factors and internal factors.
[2] Family and school are external factors, which are very important, and interact with internal factors to jointly affect children's performance. Family is the first place for children to study in their lives, and parents are their first teachers, which affect their personality formation, mental health, habit formation and interest orientation from the source. We should cultivate children with good family rules, family training and family style, not only caring, nurturing, but also educating. This is very important. The school teaches and educates people, and preaches and teaches to solve doubts. When children are not yet stereotyped, we should promptly correct the bad psychological and behavioral habits that children have developed in the family, strengthen the thinking education on products, establish a correct "three views", give children faith, confidence, encouragement, care, knowledge and methods, and guide them to grow up healthily and happily on the right road. This is also very important.
[3] Both families and schools have their own responsibilities and obligations. Usually communication, cooperation and complementarity are the right way. Families must never leave their children at school; Schools should not blindly blame their children's poor grades on their families. The influence of family and school on children is enormous, almost with children all their lives. Therefore, the two should not stand on opposite sides, but should make concerted efforts with Qi Xin to educate children into adults and achieve excellent results!