In the era of material scarcity in the past, people had little demand for material things, and adults refused their children's material requirements more because they were busy with work and had to take care of many children at home. Now is the era of materialistic desires, and all kinds of commodities emerge one after another. It's really "you can't buy it without it, only you can't think of it".

When most parents think that they are not satisfied with their parents when they were young, they have grown up and grown up very well, and they should continue their previous habits for their children. The concept of "subsidizing poor children" came into being.

"Poor support" education believes that the most important thing in educating children is not money. Even if parents are rich, children should not receive special treatment brought by money. The children of many rich people in the United States began to work in their teens to earn money and live the same life as children of ordinary families. It's nothing special.

A psychologist abroad conducted a follow-up survey on the children of more than 30 families in 10, and the proportion of boys and girls in these 30 families was half. The final result shows that the life track of "impoverished" children is very different from that of children who have never experienced "impoverished", especially girls.

1, easy to feel inferior and insecure.

Girls who have been "poor" for a long time may have psychological distortions. Because their lives are too different from those of their peers or those around them, they will have envy, desire, jealousy and other emotions. When these feelings are squeezed in my heart for a long time.

Over time, these girls will have a psychological hint that they can't compare with others anyway. When this kind of psychological suggestion appears, it is difficult for children to get rid of it even when they grow up, and it is easy to deny themselves and fail to see their own value.

2. There is no correct view of money.

"Poor" girls subconsciously have the wrong idea that money is the most important, that money can bring everything they want, and that money is harmless. Such children are not generous to themselves and stingy to others when they grow up. I have the concept of "saving money" since I was a child. Even if the income after work is high, I am not willing to spend money for myself. Care about shopping, don't know how to enjoy life.

"Poor" girls are far more likely to be tempted by money than normal children. When they encounter a lot of money, they are likely to lose control of their desires and go astray easily.

On the contrary, if you are excessively "poor" from childhood, you will enlarge your desire for money when you grow up. It has caused a deformed consumption concept of having no money to spend when I was a child and spending money like water when I grow up.

3, relatively fragile

Girls are naturally sensitive and emotionally more delicate than boys. "Poor" children can't meet the needs of spiritual life and material life, so they will lose the sense of security brought by these things prematurely.

Children who grow up in this way of education are more eager for care and attention, afraid of being hurt and easy to satisfy. In terms of mate selection, it is realized as a lower standard of mate selection, and there is not much requirement for the other half. Maybe it's enough for the other person to show a little good.

In this way, once the other party is a little nicer to the woman, the girl will fall into it, and if it is a little wrong, it will be easily hurt.

4. Narrow vision and small pattern.

It is difficult for poor children to meet their material needs. When their needs are rejected again and again, their inner desires and emotions will be gradually erased, and over time they will gradually lose their curiosity about the outside world and their horizons will become narrower and narrower.

In the long run, under such a small pattern, children may not have big goals and miss opportunities because of some small interests. Seriously, even because of some small favors, they will embark on the road of crime.

Avoid crying too much in front of children, try your best to give them the best education, whether spiritual or material, and cultivate their correct values.

If a child grows up in an environment of "poor support" from an early age, this practice will continue in the future when cultivating his own children, causing a cycle and failing to give children the material and spiritual life they deserve.

It is not a bad thing for children to suffer properly. Parents should grasp the boundaries and principles of "hardship". It is wrong if parents have the conditions to meet their children's needs and give them the material and spiritual needs they want effortlessly, but deliberately fail to meet their children.

Not only do parents get no benefit from it, but even children will lose their excellent quality in school because of "poor upbringing", go astray on the road of growth and become defective when they grow up. Isn't this not worth the loss? (The pictures are all from the Internet and have been deleted. )