I really thought that almost all the children of our generation grew up beating and scolding, until we were at least not as simple and rude as our parents when educating our children. But today, I met two things that really made me feel terrible and caused me to think, so I wanted to write about beating and scolding education to urge myself to be a slightly better parent.
These two things are as follows: 1. At that time, I was sitting in a chair in the mall with my children, and I heard a boy crying from far to near. I turned to look, only to find that the boy was five or six years old, a young mother. I don't know what makes her very angry. I saw her cursing while walking, while hitting the boy's head with her hand, while the child's father watched silently. 2. A little girl goes to work with her mother. Because of being naughty, her mother kicked her waist with her foot and it turned red. Her mother's colleagues were comforting her, but her mother didn't say a warm word to her. Later, someone asked the little girl, will you tell your father? Will you tell your old father or your present father? Only then did I know that the little girl's parents were divorced.
From these two things, I am really angry at the moment. In such a public place, although the children are young, they also have self-esteem. What can I tell my children? How can you hurt a child's heart like this? Even if a child is wrong and naughty, he is still just a child. Although you may think, son, things will be all right after the past, and you can still say that I love my parents as before, have you ever considered whether there will be a shadow in his heart when he grows up?
In fact, we adults just think that children don't do what we want, children seem to make us lose face, whether children listen or not, and so on Then why don't we kneel down and listen to the children's voices instead of just thinking from our own perspective? We adults are doing things and especially want others to understand us when we speak, so why don't we try to understand our children? Sometimes, it's just that we're in a bad mood and our children are a little skinned, so we vent our emotions on our children and let them go. What about the baby's? Do we really think that the child will be fine if he cries? Of course, occasionally children may feel nothing, but if it happens frequently, children will leave a shadow. Just like a reality show Chen Qiaoen participated in before, she couldn't help looking back to see if her mother was there or heard a word. In fact, this is the shadow left in her heart from childhood, which has become her natural reaction. It is not until our children are far away from us, unfamiliar with us and unwilling to communicate with us that we really realize the disadvantages of our educational methods?
Therefore, I think it is really not advisable to beat and scold at will, or it is more important to have heart-to-heart education with children. The most important thing is seamless education. Don't ask children to do anything, but you should set an example first. The power of an example is the best. Do as you would be done by. Improve yourself and keep quiet.