1: Wisdom is the first life.
A few days ago, a friend I hadn't seen for years visited. A friend came from afar and made a cup of fragrant tea. It's fun to say goodbye.
During the dinner, my friend suddenly asked, "What is the most expensive thing in the world?" I said, "I once heard a master say that honesty is the first wealth, Buddhism is the first truth, words are the first taste, and wisdom is the first life."
A friend said, why is wisdom the first life? People's health is the pillar of everything. I didn't see the advertisement-friend, if you have 1000000 wealth, the "0" at the back stands for money, beauty, status, reputation, happiness, family and so on, while the "1" at the front stands for health. With this "1", those "0s" behind it are meaningful. Think about it, even if you are rich, rich in family wealth, or rich in senior officials and career, or if you look like a fairy and are versatile, if you are sick and can't live without drugs all day, isn't this life miserable?
I said, "I think health is very important in this world, but without firm beliefs, goals and deep friendship between friends, the quality of life will be poor." People are puzzled and confused about life, not because they have no health, but because they have no wisdom and no understanding of the true meaning of life. Throughout the world, all sages and philosophers have great minds and brilliant thoughts. Even if someone is weak and difficult, he can face life calmly. Who can say that such a life is worthless? "
A person's life is not whether it must be vigorous or not, but whether every day is worth living.
2. Learn to pay before harvesting.
A young man asked his father for advice: "What should I prepare first if I want to open a shop in our street to make money?"
Father said, "If you don't want to make more money, you can rent two storefronts now, put them in containers and bring some goods in to start business. If you want to make more money, you must first prepare to do something for the neighbors in this street. "
The young man asked, "What should I do first?"
Father thought for a moment and said, "There are many things to do, for example, we can sweep the fallen leaves in the street every morning, and many families need some help ..." The young man felt very strange. What does this have to do with my opening a shop? Although he had doubts, he did it anyway. He cleans the street silently every day, helps the postman deliver letters, and carries water and firewood for the elderly. Gradually, people in this street know about this young man.
Half a year later, the young man's shop opened. To his surprise, so many customers came. Many people go to his shop with crutches. They said, "We all know that you are a good man, and we are particularly at ease when we come to your store to buy things."
In just a few years, young people have become entrepreneurs with assets of tens of millions. One day, a reporter interviewed him and asked him why he had gained so much in just a few years. He thought for a moment and said, "Before harvesting, you must learn to pay!" "
3. Death with dignity is the last choice of life.
As the famous writer Shi Tiesheng said, death is something that needs not to be done in a hurry, and it is something that can't be missed no matter how delayed. However, with the progress of medical means, more and more life support systems are put into use, and "to be or not to be" has become a brand-new proposition. According to the statistics of the Ministry of Health, 60%-80% of a person's lifetime investment in health is spent on treatment one month before his death. Then, at the end of life, should we choose "An Sheng" under over-treatment, or choose to die more comfortably? In fact, the right to death and the right to life are both basic human rights. Perhaps, as long as you are loyal to your physical and inner needs, your dying life and death are worthy of respect.
20 1 1 In March, Wang Mingda, who was 58 years old, was diagnosed with lung cancer. When the son Wang Guangliang found the attending doctor with his father's chest X-ray, the attending doctor directly said: "The cancer has reached the advanced stage, and bone metastasis and brain metastasis have occurred, so the treatment is of little significance. If conditions permit, you can also show filial piety and be hospitalized for chemotherapy. "
In fact, it is unnecessary for the attending doctor to say that Wang Guangliang has made up his mind to try his best to save his father anyway. In order to make him live a good life, his father with low education worked hard in the city machinery factory for decades, and finally he got married and had a stable life. Three years ago, in order to relieve his worries, his father learned to cook and cook, and helped him take care of his children after retirement. Therefore, whether from the filial piety of being a son or from the perspective of worrying about relatives and friends, he must do his best.
So Wang Guangliang took out all his savings and rented a house near the hospital to accompany his father. Some people put themselves in his shoes and tried to dissuade him from giving up unnecessary chemotherapy and adopting conservative treatment, so that his father would let a dignified death take its course. But Wang Guangliang resolutely refused, and explained his decision like this: "A person's life is almost gone. What is the significance of these melodramatic words: dignity, freedom and happiness? He just needs to live! "
Wang Guangliang's practice made his father Wang Mingda feel particularly resistant, knowing that any treatment would be of no help. Wang Mingda doesn't want to drag his son down and suffer from chemotherapy. He changed the law to make trouble with his son, combining hard and soft, and finally failed to forget his filial son.
In the struggle between father and son, various instruments and drugs entered Wang Mingda's body bit by bit. At the last moment of his life, Wang Mingda bargained with God only by a one-meter-long tube with a little finger. It passes through Wang Mingda's nose and lungs, and every once in a while it can suck out a tube full of phlegm. Suck out the sputum and Wang Mingda will wake up from the coma. He can wake up for two or three hours at first, and then he can only wake up for a few minutes. During his precious waking hours, he was so miserable that he felt uncomfortable lying on the left or right and sitting. He can only twist his body wildly to divert the pain.
This kind of pain makes Wang Mingda, who has always been gentle, lose his temper slowly and often loses his temper with his son Wang Guangliang. At this time, Wang Guangliang tried to avoid his father's "frontal attack" and tried not to care about his father. But once, Wang Guangliang couldn't help it and advised him, "Dad, can't you be stronger?" Wang Mingda's face was twisted with pain. Looking at his son, he sighed with difficulty: "Dad has reached this level. What is the difference between being strong and not being strong? "
But for Wang Guangliang, such "strength" is obviously different. Because of the advanced medical equipment and drugs, my father, whose life is counted in seconds, finally survived the Spring Festival that year. On New Year's Eve, it snowed heavily. His comatose father woke up and said to him, "It's the New Year! I wish you happiness! "
After the Spring Festival, Wang Mingda never woke up in the intensive care unit. After he left, that New Year greeting became Wang Guangliang's best psychological comfort-he couldn't get his father's blessing without rescue. Therefore, although people and money were empty in the end, Wang Guangliang did not regret his original choice.
One third of life is full of flavor.
After being a doctor for more than 30 years, Yu Zhongxue has experienced at least 2,000 deaths and witnessed the curtain call of life. Some people swear to fight the disease, but after all, people and money are empty; Some people seek liberation but are "brought" into ICU, and some people swing from side to side in struggle and compromise, wandering to death in hospital beds; Others gnash their teeth and stamp their feet, leaving life and death to nature. ...
As a professional, Yu Zhongxue, who struggles with cancer every day, knows that more than 30% of diseases are incurable, more than 30% of diseases are incurable, and only 30% are given to drugs and doctors. But once the patient entered the hospital, everything became helpless.
At the last moment of those cancer patients, Yu Zhongxue heard all kinds of complaints. A patient said to him, "I only have a junior high school education, and now I have figured it out." It turns out that the effective rate in this manual is not the cure rate. I sold my house for treatment, and now I still live in the original house, but the owner is not me. I pay rent to others every month, and I am dead. "
Another patient said, "It's just like a TV series. After each episode, the doctor told us not to go away. The next episode is more exciting, but we didn't know until the last episode that although the protagonist wanted to live, he died. "
Instinctive "birth and death" is the direct cause of many people's desperate struggle after they get terminally ill.
Yu Zhongxue's latest illness case is enough to illustrate the problem.
The patient is a 77-year-old male. In the last ten days of his life, the old man can't lie down and breathe, so he can only lie on the table and rely on oxygen. When he was in pain, the old man kept asking his granddaughter who was a graduate student if she could leave this world early without too much treatment. The old man believes in Buddhism. At one time, many monks in Buddhism died in this way to support his thoughts. But when the pain didn't break out, even if he could only take a sip of water, the old man would strongly say to his granddaughter, "Dear, I seem to be better. When I get better, will you leave home and go back to school? "
In addition to the instinct to survive, a few cancer patients who are lucky enough to recover are also the strength of many terminally ill patients. Yu Zhongxue treated a female patient with stage III cancer eight years ago and was unfortunately admitted to ICU after the operation. However, the woman has always believed that she can be good. Lying in the ICU bed, the woman gritted her teeth and took on all the pain. She has been telling herself to insist: "The child is still underage, and I want to live." Later, she really survived. After her rebirth, she said, "We should be wise in the fight against cancer, and even more wise in the face of life and death. After all, a dignified death is the last choice, and we should actively strive for' living' before. "
After all, there are only a few lucky people, so sometimes, Yu Zhongshe directly says to some terminal cancer patients, "Buy a boat ticket to travel around the world." As a result, the patient's family complained that it was not long before the patient sold the house and came to the hospital. Not long after, this hospital bed was put on new sheets and the person died.
Yu Zhongxue expressed his understanding and helplessness to this situation. When a doctor tells his family about the patient's illness, the family will combine various factors to help the patient make a decision. Some patients don't even know their illness until the last moment of their lives. However, subject to the existing medical system, as medical personnel, doctors can only listen to the opinions of their families before deciding what to do next. Sometimes if you are not careful, you may get into trouble.
I have seen many such examples in middle school. Sick old people don't want to be rescued, but children should be rescued; Among the children of the patient, the boss signed the agreement to rescue, and the second child sued the doctor ... Therefore, for self-protection, the doctor can only respect the wishes of the family members far more than the wishes of the patient. Even now, I finally decided to extubate. The doctor told the family how to operate, and then the family solved it themselves.
Death is like a mirror, reflecting a hundred kinds of life. Therefore, Yu Zhongxue often reminds the staff around him that "a smile is better than stability". He asked his colleagues to comb the patient's hair, brush his body and touch the patient by the machine, even if the patient was unconscious.
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