Can marriage be saved by children? It is not normal to say yes. In the eyes of many divorced parents, children are the witness of the previous marriage and an effective bargaining chip to save their feelings and remarry. But it's a bit shameless to save a marriage with children, fall in price. Some people don't know how to save their marriage after quarreling with their partners. In fact, children are not the only way to save each other. There is no need to treat children as victims. The child is innocent. What do you know at an early age? It is not the contradiction between parents that infects children. But sometimes two people's feelings just want to get back together on the grounds of children, and that's another matter. Children are the crystallization of love, the crystallization of two people's feelings, or the mistakes made by young people, but when they are born, they always have to fulfill their parents' obligations. It is ridiculous and shameless to use children as a bargaining chip to save marriage. Children are not sensible, parents are divorced and reunited, and children are still in a daze and don't understand the twists and turns of adults. The problem is not too big. If the child is older and more sensible, the distorted marriage and love of parents is likely to cause psychological shadow to the child. For children educated by unqualified families, no parents can shirk their responsibilities. Since you have children, please be responsible for your feelings and children. Children are not the foundation of love. In the final analysis, love means that a man and a woman are attracted to each other, love each other, and when conditions permit, their feelings are in place and they have children as witnesses of love. The foundation of love is never children. Love comes first, children come second. Don't always blame the child for disharmony. Parents should look for problems from themselves, don't think about "for the children", and it is best to be reluctant to make another pair. Originally separated just to find a suitable one. If you still love each other, it is no problem to save it with your children. If you don't love them, please part decisively, so as to avoid the psychological shadow of lifelong disharmony after reunion. If you really love children, please respect their wishes. Don't assume that a child must have more than one father or mother. In fact, children without families are sometimes not as happy as children with single parents who love their families. Feelings should follow their own hearts, because any contradiction between husband and wife has different ways to get the optimal solution. It is also the most important premise to find out the ins and outs of the problem marriage first. If you don't love each other, why torture each other? Fraction or fraction? The child is innocent. Don't be a victim of your parents' feelings. A pair of parents who don't love each other raise their children, and their minds are more sensitive and delicate. It is difficult to understand feelings and to love boldly. This is the lack of love. On the other hand, parents, too, have to be together if they don't like it and dislike each other. Don't say anything about childhood. Parents choose correctly, divide or divide, and children will certainly learn when they grow up. Can children save marriage? It is not a good idea to save a marriage through a child, no matter from the current or long-term interests. Some people will wonder why marriage can't be saved through children. In fact, the reason is very simple. The marriage saved by children looks solid on the surface, but in fact, this practice is just laying a Grenade for their marriage. In the face of the breakdown of marriage, the child is regarded as a bargaining chip in exchange for the maintenance of a marriage. Therefore, although this method seems to be effective in the short term, as time goes by, the child will grow up slowly, and when the child reaches adulthood and has the ability to live independently, this marriage will definitely go to ruin. Because children are the only thread to maintain this marriage, when this thread is broken, the marriage is broken. Not a long-term solution. Saving a marriage through children is not a long-term solution. Why? If you choose to save your marriage with children, it means that you have no other chips in your hand as a reason to save your marriage, which also denies the positive role you play in your marriage and everything you have in your marriage. Although the custody of the child belongs to both husband and wife. But children can't be completely regarded as marital property. We should realize that children are also an independent individual. Since he is an independent individual, it means that one day the child will leave this family to develop his own life. If children are used as a reason to save the marriage, then the countdown to divorce will enter at that moment. Children's emotions are very important. When you choose to consider saving your marriage with children, you have completely materialized your children. Maybe you will ask your children's opinions, but no matter what their real thoughts are, you will deliberately guide them to do what you think. Then once you have such an idea and take such an attitude to save your marriage, it will leave a huge impact on your child's heart. In children's minds, they are the crystallization of their parents' mutual love, so once they know that they are props to maintain their parents' marriage and their understanding of their family status has changed in essence, they will easily put all the burdens on themselves, so if the marriage still breaks down in the end, it will easily cause a lifelong psychological shadow to the children. There is no need to insist that when children are used as reasons to save marriage, we should carefully consider whether there are no other reasons to save marriage. To maintain a long-term and stable marriage, it must not be achieved through children. On the contrary, having a happy marriage requires a strong emotional resonance between husband and wife. Marriage is a matter of two people, and there will be children at home. No matter what happens to the marriage, the relationship between husband and wife and children will not change. Then children's participation in marriage means that they are insisting on maintaining marriage. Then, under the traction of such a state and concept, marriage has already deteriorated, and both husband and wife will be inseparable. Can children save marriage? Step 1: Why do you want to save your marriage with your child? 1. The child belongs to the bond between the two couples after marriage. Many couples who have broken their marriage feelings will not divorce easily for the sake of their children, for fear of affecting their children. 2. Children can increase both parties' sense of belonging to the family. As an "accelerant" for the relationship between husband and wife in marriage, a sense of belonging can not only enhance feelings, but also bring laughter to the family, which is conducive to the growth environment of children. In the marriage of two couples, children are sometimes the bridge of communication. Many couples don't say it in person, so this is also a breakthrough to save their marriage. Step 2: How to guide children and help them save their marriage? 1, because at this time, the relationship between the two couples has already broken down. Even if you have a lot to say to the other person, it is hard for you to say it because of the contradiction and embarrassment of face, even if the other person is willing to listen. At this time, you can use your child as a bridge between two people, and convey what you want to say to each other through your child's tone, so that the other party will also let go of their emotions and know what you are thinking now. 2. When telling yourself what you want to give each other, you can also use the topic of children to break the barrier with each other. You can ask each other about your child's study, help your child enroll in any interest classes, and prepare a family trip for your child. Because the child is innocent, no matter what stage of the relationship between the two couples, as long as it is about the child, the other party will have a deep chat with you. Step 3: Matters needing attention when saving a marriage with children 1. When saving a marriage with children, never quarrel and fight in front of the children. Although the children are immature, they are no worse than adults. Therefore, the premise of saving a marriage with children is not to quarrel in front of the children. This is only a temporary way to save the marriage with children. If couples always get along like this, their children will grow up in a worse environment than their peers, and even have a deformed world view. While saving the marriage with children, we should also end the problems in marriage as soon as possible.