In the final analysis, the issue of women is a question of social equity and social development. Only by looking at the problems faced by women from this level can we truly understand the difficulties faced by women and truly promote the progress of all levels of society.
What is the first part? What is the essence of female growth?
? Structural constraints faced by women's growth;
External restriction
1, unpaid work-paid work without monetary reward: such as housewives taking care of the elderly, taking care of children and so on.
2. Materialization of women-nudity of women and abduction of women often appear in advertisements.
3, the plight of working mothers-everyone will discuss the plight of working mothers, but no one will discuss the plight of working fathers. Obviously, everyone thinks that women should pay more for childcare.
Intrinsic limitation
1, can't do it, dare not win support.
2. Well done, waiting for confirmation.
3, dare not be a leader, will not be a leader.
4. Seek "stability" and dare not change.
? The dilemma faced by women
1, parenting dilemma
2. Workplace dilemma
3. Life dilemma
4. Self-dilemma
? The expression of "the pain of not knowing"
1, internalizing external judgment as internal standard.
2. Internalize the external label into the inner self.
You can't see the internal limitations through external difficulties.
"Ignorance" is the biggest limitation and obstacle to the growth of all of us, both men and women.
The second part is how to break through: how do women continue to grow?
Several important beliefs about growth:
1, everyone has the energy and wisdom needed for self-development, just like all springs, if they are connected with underground water sources, they can have gurgling springs.
Six ancestors Huineng-everyone is self-sufficient
However, our connection with "water source" is often blocked by many internal obstacles. These obstacles come from our childhood experience, education and social enlightenment, which makes our external obstacles unconsciously internalized.
3. All the growth paths are the process of seeing these inner lids and constantly breaking them.
How to break down obstacles?
Our greatest growth will always come from difficulties, because only in difficulties can we see some of our blind spots. Difficulties are gifts.
Four principles of leadership
1, do, do, be a mason.
2. Build and lead everyone to build a house.
Coach, be a coach and help everyone grow up.
4. Encourage everyone to achieve their goals.
First, how to overcome the timidity in the workplace and satisfy the ambition dream?
1, new to the workplace: afraid to speak, willing to be a passer-by
Solution: let go of the past and start from scratch; Learn to master the direction and choose the important things. -Clear your mind.
(1) Let go of the past. From now on, I won't go to school.
No matter what age you are and what kind of certificate you bring into a new field, you must learn to let go of the past. Because your past is meaningless except that it will hinder your development.
(2) Learn to be a driver and hold the steering wheel tightly.
(3) Choose something important
Self-talk is a good way of self-cognition and awareness.
In the face of choice, it is very important to form the habit of self-dialogue. It can help us to see the true meaning of this experience through the gain and loss of phenomena or appearances.
2, in the face of promotion: dare not take the initiative, wait for the crown to be crowned.
Three obstacles: waiting for the coronation, shame and the criticism of "doing nothing"
Solution: Take the initiative to get promoted, face up to internal difficulties and break through the limit of "market wisdom"
If you think you are right, you should succeed in your present environment, gain the right to speak, and make the principles you adhere to correct or universal.
3. Being the first leader: Dare not "make"
The essence of leadership: do things well, consider the overall situation and go beyond "doing things"
Solution: exercise a sense of direction/things; Storytelling/organization; When the "bad guys" are grounded/be human.
We believe that being a leader is an ability, but what is more important is a change in mentality. When our bottom mentality changes, your ability will naturally change.
4. Become a high-level person: dare to speak but dare not listen, dare to answer and dare not ask.
Solution: train the coach's ability-learn to listen and ask questions; Make a mirror-project it back.
Questioning is actually the core competence of a coach. You have to ask questions to see each other's real needs. When you understand his needs, you can give more appropriate suggestions accordingly.
5. Entrepreneurship: the fear of "leaving the platform"
Solution: face fear; Don't be afraid of failure; Have free time to be creative.
If we leave the platform, we are nothing and have no sense of security. That is actually a very instrumental or narrow definition of our own life.
A little leisure and a little unrestrained mood are important conditions for creativity.
In the final analysis, life in the world is one, starting with helping others and finally helping themselves. Many things we do seem to be helping others, but in fact we are helping ourselves and re-examining the breadth and depth of our lives.
Golden sentence: Motivation is actually a very introverted process. When we find our professional passion, the real value and strength of live high is actually the greatest encouragement to the people around us.
Second, how to balance the family business, both necessary and necessary?
The world is not completely objective, but exists independently of us. Everyone's choices have an impact on the world. Therefore, the child is not a receiver or a victim. She is actually actively interacting with the world.
Golden Sentence: People are self-consistent and happy only if they live out the inner and outer consistency. There is only one way to make children happy, and that is: we must do it ourselves.
? The key to successful parents: keeping spiritual contact with children
1, accept the child: give the child a full sense of security and accept unconditionally.
2, pay attention to the spirit: pay more attention to the child's mental state.
3. Learn to listen: put down the voice in your head and listen to your child.
4. Let the children win: remind yourself to let the children win more.
? The problem of working mothers
1, transformation ability: the communication and project management ability exercised as a mother is a plus item in the workplace.
2, learn to choose: don't cling to balance, life is a choice after all.
3. Care for yourself: Conscious self-care is necessary.
4, acceptance defects: acceptance is not perfect, mother is the most difficult job in the world.
A normal and healthy society should not be an eliminated society, but a perfect society.
Raising children is a self-fulfilling journey, because children make us face an uncertain future and deepest fears. The process of facing is also a self-realization process.
? With awareness, you will understand that there are only two cores in raising children:
First, children's physical and mental health
Second, the intimate and happy relationship between family members.
The common feature of a successful person is not that his childhood family is rich or comfortable, but that his family members will provide him with continuous support and acceptance, so that he can get inner nourishment.
Third, how to open a chicken feather and find the fun of life?
? Five Steps to Face "Worry"-Worry is Bodhi
1, stop and take a deep breath-pay attention to your experience in every little thing.
Our education always tells us to do more and actively join the WTO, but when we encounter something that affects our mood, what we should do is to stop and take a deep breath, not to do more.
2. Let go of the "should"-no one can irritate you without your permission.
Our troubles often come from the fact that the script in reality doesn't match the script in our hearts. We think it's someone else's fault, but it's more likely to be a script in our hearts.
3. Be the master of emotions-your emotions and reactions have the final say.
4, mature by mind-understand that desires and troubles are drawn by yourself.
Everything at this moment has an answer-focus on the present, and neither the past nor the future will hold water at this moment.
The third part is iterative feedback: how do women get the motivation to grow continuously?
? The original intention of time
1, do things-race against time to run hard
2. Being a man-accepting the growth of life and self-rhythm.
3. Unity-Time and consciousness are one.
? Reversing life, four levels of cognition
1, method-efficiency
2, the way of thinking-choice
3, values-meaning
4, self-awareness-happiness
Only by seeing yourself clearly from top to bottom can we see our predicament clearly and get out of it.
The true self can realize our possible judgments and pains, and finally realize our whole existence.
Really understanding, experiencing and living the true self is a lifelong lesson for each of us.
? How to connect with your true self?
1. soliloquize and ask five why.
2, don't think too much, learn to release.
3, the use of art-intuitive expression
? Seven truths about life
1, life is not an objective experience, but a subjective journey.
The law of life is contrary to the law of physics. The more you give, the more you get.
3. If we change our mentality, the outside world we feel will also change.
4. We are not individuals separated from others, and everyone's "true self" is connected-human existence is sacred and transcends matter and function.
The only way to get out of the predicament is to face it.
6. The only way to cure the pain is to feel it.
7. The opposite of loneliness is not the warmth of being with others, but the courage to face yourself. When we can face it squarely, we will know that the essence of life is not "bitterness", but great love and great love.
? The road to light
Our deepest fear is not that we have no energy, but that we have unlimited energy.
Although we have many external constraints, internal constraints.
Life is a journey to find the true self.
How to find your true self? Is to face it
Face it, accept it, deal with it, and let go.
Let's continue to find ourselves.
Let us shine by ourselves.
Darkness itself is not real.
There is no light.
The so-called growth is ultimately connected with its own light source, which not only illuminates itself, but also illuminates the whole world.
Finally live out your true self!