Topic: eagle dad education, intellectuals, educational methods
We should advocate the educational model of Zheng Fang Hu Ma Ying Ma.
When the baby eagle is big enough, the mother eagle will mercilessly drive the baby eagle off the cliff. When the baby eagle falls to the bottom, it will flap its wings desperately, thus mastering the basic skills of flying. Therefore, He Laoshi was called "Eagle Dad" by netizens.
Looking for a theory and an ideal statement, the educational model of tiger mother and eagle father should be very successful. The reason why they didn't succeed was that they didn't find a suitable degree.
Tiger mother's education not only broke the curse that China immigrants are not rich enough for three generations, but also her daughter was admitted to Harvard, which shows that Tiger mother is successful. According to historical estimates, the education problem in China is mainly the doting of parents, whether it is the strict teachers in ancient times or the poor children in modern times who take care of themselves early, which is why the so-called "beat 80s" is also the case.
I'm not saying that the United States is better than China, but it is universally acknowledged that American education has its merits. Aren't we going to college to study the problems in American education? So the advantage of America is strict education.
Self-care and self-reliance are strict
"I don't think children who are not disciplined will be creative." Recently, Amy Chua, who is in new york, USA, said this in an email interview with our reporter. This mother who claims to be "pursuing Excellence and being too strict with others" is not as stubborn as the outside world imagined. After writing this book for a year, she reflected: "Children need to be given more choices according to their different personalities, especially when they grow up."
Amy Chua especially wants to clarify to readers in China that she is not the "tyrant queen". "Many places in the book are written for fun. My daughters and I are very close-we are best friends. "
Tiger mother is not a tyrant but a friend, which means that she is not harsh but strict, just like rules must be followed.
Tiger mother will also have different education for her children in different situations. As he said, she will give her daughter more choices, just as tiger mother will take care of the tiger when it is born, and the tiger will train the tiger to sharpen its minions when it grows up.
Chua Meier, 49, was born in an intellectual family in China. Her father, Cai Shaoshang, is a famous computer professor at the University of California, Berkeley. As mentioned in the book, Chua Mei-er received a strict but gentle family education from China. For example, speak Chinese at home, otherwise parents will hit their hands with chopsticks; Because I only got the second place in the eighth grade history exam, my father shouted "shame". But at the same time, Chua Meier's childhood is full of warmth. She still remembers the happy experience that her father recommended her to eat DQ ice cream and took her skiing and camping.
From this point of view, this book is not so much about the parenting experience of the autocratic queen as a memoir written by an American mother after being hit-Tiger Mother began to reflect on how to cultivate children by adopting a mixed education model in the blending of Chinese and Western cultures.
Why is Judd, the husband of all western education, not as good as Chua Meier who grew up under strict family education? Chua Meier even became a tenured professor at Yale Law School before her husband.
Why don't dogs with high IQ at home understand passwords that even dogs with low IQ can understand?
Why did Chua Mei-er, who rebelled when she was young, achieve today's achievements after rejecting her parents' plans about university, career and even having to marry a China native?
Chua Meier said that she hoped readers in China would not "misread" her. She revealed: "Some scenes in this book were written for fun. Actually, my daughter and I are very close. We are best friends. "
Maybe many people have overlooked it. In the preface to the English version of the book, Chua Meier wrote: "In fact, this book is about some bitter cultural conflicts, a fleeting sense of glory, and how I gave in to a little girl of 13 years old."
"I am not a child-rearing expert." Chua Meier said that she just wrote her own experience. How to let children walk out of a road of their own? Amy Chua is also thinking.
Compared with tiger mother and eagle father, it is much less.
The reporter has read some materials. It says that Duoduo is a seven-month-old premature baby, weighing only 3 kg and 8 kg at birth, accompanied by various complications, and was diagnosed as a child with cerebral palsy by doctors. "The doctor advised us not to hold out too much hope for the child. It is likely to be a disabled child. " Mr. He said, "But I don't agree with this tone. The child was born with a congenital deficiency. I firmly believe that he will be healthy through education and training the day after tomorrow. " According to the data, from the beginning of 6 months, Duoduo studied and trained for up to 8 hours every day. Insist on swimming 1 hour every day, starting from the tenth day when Duoduo was taken out of the incubator in the hospital, regardless of whether it is cold or hot. When Dodo was two years old, he often climbed the Purple Mountain with his father. Take a rest when you are tired, and climb to the top of the mountain without hugging. Mr. He and other family members often work out with Duoduo. Mr. He said that not long ago, authoritative IQ testing institutions in Taiwan Province Province conducted a dermatoglyphic IQ test on Duoduo, and the result was as high as 2 18. Is that Duoduo a "genius"? Mr. He doesn't think so either.
It is conceivable that Eagle Dad will be born weak and die young if he doesn't do a lot of exercise.
Why does "Eagle Dad" have the heart to let his son exercise naked in the cold weather? Of course, there is a premise: because many people are weak and sick from childhood. Moreover, it is understood that "Eagle Dad" encourages and communicates with children more during the training process, and changes the plan at any time according to the actual situation of his children. It is reported that in neighboring Japan, even in the world of ice and snow, children still receive cold-resistant training naked every day. Parents in Japan believe that children who have been trained in cold tolerance don't like colds, and even if they catch a cold, they can recover quickly. And this "eagle teaching" of "eagle dad" has also been recognized by some domestic experts: as long as the children are trained scientifically and step by step, which has obvious effects on strengthening their physique, they can persist, and there is no harm in properly "freezing".
There are no parents who don't love their children, but overindulgence may ruin their children's future. Ceng Yun, an ancient man, said, "It is the father's fault to raise but not teach". Sometimes according to the objective conditions of children, it is not necessary to give some strict management education. Of course, whether it is stick education or candy education, we must grasp the temperature in the way of education. The main body of education is children, and parents are just an external influencing factor. If we can't follow the law of children's own growth and development, we must cultivate children according to the inherent model of parents, even if it is an alternative method, it will be counterproductive and stifle children's nature. Please remember that "education is the art of the soul, and it is a pity to be unmoved." Eagle dad is strict with his son because he loves him.
My family education is also very strict. Every time I ask my mother, she says, well, let's see what you will do when you become a parent. So I thought about what I should do in various situations, and I understand my parents.
Mode is actually a methodology to solve a certain kind of problems. Summarize the method of solving a certain kind of problem to a theoretical level, that is, the model. Mode is a kind of guidance. Under good guidance, it will help you complete the task, make excellent design schemes and achieve twice the result with half the effort. You will get the best solution to the problem. Advocate (1. Advocacy 2. Promote) Tí chà n ɡ, part of speech: verb. It means to point out the advantages of things and encourage everyone to use or realize them. For example, advocating self-improvement. This word is easily confused with the usage of "advocate". Generally speaking, "advocating" zhǔ zhānɡ means opinions and opinions; It also means holding a certain point of view-for example, mom advocates that Xiaoming study art and dad advocates that Xiaoming study physics. This shows that "proposition" emphasizes holding; And "advocacy" emphasizes hope, which is obviously different from the subjective consciousness of the actor.
Education is the whole process of training a new generation to engage in social life, and it is also the key link to inherit and carry forward the production experience of human society. Mainly refers to the process of cultivating school-age children, teenagers and young people. Broadly speaking, all activities that enhance people's knowledge and skills and affect people's ideology and morality are education. Education in a narrow sense mainly refers to school education, which means that educators exert purposeful, planned and organized influence on the body and mind of the educated according to the requirements of a certain society (or class) and cultivate them into people needed by a certain society (or class). Types include formal education, adult education, technical education, special education and lifelong education.
)。 In short, "teaching" means that teachers give them lessons wholeheartedly, and "teaching" means assimilating minors and barbarians and making them qualified members of China civilized society.
Pay attention to advocacy. Advocacy is to point out the advantages of things and encourage everyone to use or implement them, not to popularize them generally.
Argument: 1 should be advocated, not universally promoted. Do not deny that there are shortcomings, but it is worth promoting.
Tiger mother and eagle father's education is successful, (the other party's playing process, our playing result, delay)
It's not that tiger mother and eagle father don't love children, nor abuse them, but that they are strict with children.
4 if you don't cut jade, you can't cut it.
I guess the opponent will attack the process, such as the harm it will do to children.