In fact, the story is not vivid at all, the story has no suspense, and the story has no twists and turns. But I was attracted and moved by "teachers criticize students, criticize students, and laugh when criticized". There are countless naughty students who abuse their children and punish them. But it is not common for teachers to criticize and ridicule. I think the teacher who laughs when criticizing must be soft-hearted. She can't be serious because she is soft. Because of his softness, he knew that there was only one child standing beside him, a child who needed guidance and even help.
Facing education, I thought of the word "softness".
In the cultural tradition, in our mainstream consciousness, the word "softness" seems unpopular. Most people prefer to be strong, strong-willed, brave, fearless and die in times of crisis. Because, born into the WTO, these words seem to be more in line with the times, more resistant to wind and rain, and more able to achieve great things. Therefore, thousands of years of inheritance, our genes and actions, there are always some hard, tenacious, even manic, violent, stored and strengthened. As soon as it touches the dry wood fuse, it will explode and even be reported. Seemingly strong and heroic, generous and heroic, it is the only way to protect yourself and deal with intrigue.
It is an indisputable fact that children are difficult to educate nowadays. When praise is exhausted, motivation is exhausted, and carrot temptation is still unsuccessful, we seem to stop yelling on the stage, punish ourselves, abandon softness and leniency, and make ourselves "hard"-our students are really uneducated. When our society appreciates "good" children and dislikes naughty students; When a school takes children's sitting in danger, obeying rules, orderly, quiet and serious class style as the standard to evaluate an excellent class; When the common people hate the early rafters, they hate the proliferation of individuality and edges. It seems that we can only passively choose "hard".
Undoubtedly, society needs to be "hard". If the law is not rigid, the people will not stand. Education is not preaching, sometimes, it needs punishment. However, the loss of "soft" criticism and punishment will also make punishment taste bad and criticism out of shape. In the end, criticism turned into a slap in the face and became an octave of cynicism; Punishment has become physical and mental abuse and insult, torture of students' physical and mental injuries, and a never-ending blow. In the end, educators have changed from passive "hard" to active "hard", and indifference and indifference have become the norm or habit of education.
Real education needs softness.
Even if it is punishment and criticism, its color should be green. Although it was a little uncomfortable, the students were convinced. Although punished, it does not hurt self-esteem and personality, and it is just right. Taking "softness" as the core of criticism and punishment is thought-provoking, but it will not sweep the leaves in the autumn wind, which makes people feel anxious and sad. Love and mercy's "hardness" will surely awaken the soul and enlighten the mind. An old fable: In the competition between the sun and the strong wind, who has the greatest skill, takes off the clothes of travelers as the competition item. The wind blew so hard that the traveler's clothes were blown off. Unexpectedly, the traveler's hands are wrapped around his body and his clothes are getting tighter and tighter. The sun just walks gently in the sky. As the temperature rises, travelers consciously take off their clothes without urging or supervision. The same is true of education. What can really change people is the warmth like spring breeze, not the indifferent wind.
Soft and full of love. Love is the foundation of education. Although it has become a cliche, it is burning and unchanging. Educator Xia Gaizun once said: Education without emotion and love is like a pond without water. Without water, there is no pond, without love, there is no education. Only when the heart is soft, the underachievers will not be excluded and disliked, and will be treated equally. After a thousand turns, they still think that obedient people can be taught. If you are soft-hearted, you will treat life as your own, just like your mother or father. When you see a student fighting, you will not immediately reprimand or complain, but calm down and listen, analyze, criticize or punish. Tagore has a famous saying: it is not the percussion of wooden sticks that makes pebbles perfect, but the singing and dancing of water. Soft heart can make education like water, moisten things silently, wake up softness with softness when encountering difficulties, and love with love.
Softness comes from awe. If you fear nature, you won't regard vegetation as dirt, and if you see vegetation green, you will be merciful. Fear life, avoid being violent and domineering, believe in animism and equality of all things. Only by respecting order can we not abuse legal rights and trample on people's interests, and we will be disciplined, filial to our parents and humble to our children. Only by knowing awe can we have the yardstick of conscience and the bottom line of education, and know what we can and cannot do. Awe breeds softness, softness breeds awe, and awe-inspiring teachers will definitely study the textbooks carefully, do a good job in every class, and don't let their conscience owe education. Devotional education will never divide students into three or six classes, but will love all beings, sow knowledge, let go of souls, not let everyone fall behind, and not ignore every fresh and equal life in the classroom.
Teachers must be full of love, gentle and sincere in their language, virtuous and mellow in their behavior when dealing with "softness". Seeing that the students can't answer the questions, they are not in a hurry, just watching, and their eyes are full of love and encouragement. Seeing that students have a headache and brain fever, they will go over and stretch out their warm hands to try the child's forehead. The classroom was in a mess and angry, but there was no complaint in my heart, just a sigh: "Hey, these naughty boys!" " "The test paper is full of red crosses. The child had tears in his eyes when he received the test paper. The language of his criticism reached the tip of his tongue, but he swallowed it back. He just took a paper towel to dry the child's tears. Then, he explained these problems to the children carefully. Softness will make teachers take their time. He will change his mind, treat students as his own children, and think about his childhood-he is so naughty and stumbling to grow up and mature step by step.
Because it is soft, it is compassionate; Kindness because of sympathy-be kind to children's differences, be kind to children's mistakes, tolerate children with love, and forgive children. Softness will make an educator understand that education should be the mutual appreciation of life and life, and the mutual hug and applause between people.
Softness is actually a kind of strength. If goodness is like water, it will benefit all things without contention, and it has the virtue of modesty, so it can be the king of hundreds of valleys; Good is like water, although the water is weak, the attacker cannot win, and the soft can win. Teeth are harder than tongues, but tongues are more durable than teeth. There are wolves and sheep running on the grassland, but they coexist forever on the grassland. The number of weak sheep far exceeds the number of fierce wolves. Softness is bound to summon softness. Everyone has demons and angels in their hearts, and the purpose of education is to awaken the "good roots" in people's souls. There is a long way to go to promote good education, and we can't close the door at night, so that the society can be clear and harmonious.
Meditators practice, focusing on cultivating the heart. Finally, most of them are harmonious, compassionate and soft. It seems that without this, it is difficult to achieve the right path. In fact, isn't education the same? Lin Qingxuan, a writer in Taiwan Province Province, believes that the most important thing in this world is to have a soft heart, because he believes that only its softness can make us sensitive; Only softness can be tolerant; Only soft can be exquisite; Only its softness can surpass itself, and even when we are injured, we can tolerate our wounds. Only in this way can education really penetrate into children's bones, muscles, blood, body and soul, restore the essence of human nature, and make the society, human beings and the world we expect better. ...