First, we should correctly understand the situation of basic education in China and solve the problem of confidence.
As we all know, American higher education is considered as the best education in the world, but when it comes to American basic education, people have different views. Comparing the basic education in China and the United States, it is generally believed that the basic education in China is to lay a foundation and "learn more and learn less", while the education in the United States is to cultivate creativity and "learn less and learn more". Education in our country pays attention to the accumulation and indoctrination of knowledge, the cultivation of students' respect for knowledge and authority, the mastery and inheritance of knowledge and the construction of knowledge system. In contrast, the United States pays more attention to cultivating students' practical ability to use knowledge, cultivating students' spirit of questioning and criticizing knowledge and authority, and expanding and creating knowledge. Taking mathematics as an example, the educational circles in China have always believed that basic concepts and basic operations are the basis of mathematics, so students are not allowed to use calculators in primary and secondary schools. In the United States, however, basic operations are ignored, and calculators are widely used in primary and secondary schools. Americans think that since calculators are fast and accurate, why bother to calculate? The human brain can completely save itself from things that machines can't do. The "foundation" of education in China means that the brain reserves knowledge as much as possible and extracts knowledge as quickly as possible on the premise of being independent of computers, so the brains of China students have been fully trained in these two aspects. Obviously, education in the United States is superior in utilizing and synthesizing all kinds of external information and expanding brain functions, while education in China is even more effective in utilizing and developing the internal functions of the brain. In view of this, at present, American educational circles have also begun to emphasize the foundation and are learning from eastern countries. On May 38+01February, 2006, the US Congress passed the education bill submitted by the Bush administration, and allocated 26.5 billion US dollars to strengthen the basic education in the United States, such as standardizing the curriculum, strengthening the examination and strict evaluation, etc., many of which drew lessons from the successful experience of basic education in China. As parents of students, we should see that quality education and exam-oriented education, as the main forms of education, have no irreconcilable contradictions, just like the relationship between planned economy and market economy. China's basic education itself has a good tradition and has trained a large number of outstanding scientists. The root of the disadvantages of exam-oriented education in primary and secondary schools is the restriction of China's social and economic development stage and the bondage of the existing education system. Therefore, we should not doubt our long-term achievements in basic education, but look at the present situation of education dialectically.
Second, correctly grasp the connotation of quality education and solve cognitive problems.
When the primary task of education becomes simple knowledge training and accumulation, students' development in psychology, personality, morality and creativity is limited. As the book Quality Education in America says: Although a person's quality is closely related to his knowledge, his quality is by no means equal to his knowledge. In addition to knowledge, a person's quality is more reflected in psychological balance, personality independence, moral integrity and creativity. Although the quality education we advocate has been widely recognized, it is difficult to promote it in practice, and even has little effect. In addition to social and school reasons, parents' complacency and lack of breakthrough in understanding are also important reasons. The root of the problem lies not only in the different educational views, but also in the serious imprisonment of people's understanding, which should cause reflection. To sum up, children are not regarded as equal individuals in life, and their independence and creative cultivation are neglected. According to research, children have a psychological development problem from childhood to adolescence. When children are young, they don't think some questions are very important, and they don't want to learn how to get into college. Children's nature is to play, not to entertain, not to play. 1At the end of the 9th century and the beginning of the 20th century, john dewey, a great American educator, put forward an educational theory called Copernican revolution in the history of education, that is, the center of education changed from teachers, classrooms and books to students, society and experience, which was a great change from traditional education to modern education. However, the traditional culture in China has a paternalistic attitude towards children, treating children as accessories and often attributing the success or failure of children's education to their parents. As the saying goes, "it's the father's fault that children don't teach", and even some parents pin their unfulfilled wishes and ideals on their children, who are greatly suppressed in life. Some families can meet all the requirements of their children as long as they study hard, instead of teaching students in accordance with their aptitude, or developing in an all-round way or having a distinct personality. Therefore, solving the problem of understanding is not empty talk, it requires parents' unremitting efforts.
Third, we should strive to find the right direction for success and solve the problem of goals.
Mankind has entered a challenging 2 1 century. The arrival of knowledge economy era and the development of future society will challenge people in many aspects. How to train today's children into cross-century talents is a common social problem that parents are very concerned about at present. China has a large population, and higher education is still not universal, so there are not many opportunities for one person. As teachers, parents and children, further education is still very important for students, which is determined by the economic situation in China, and it seems understandable. But times are changing and ideas are changing. Every parent should always ask, have you changed yourself? Are the expectations for children reasonable? The new century is also a period of great development of human society. The generation of knowledge and the way children accept knowledge are changing. Family education is bound to change and develop with the changes of society, economy and culture. Parents are no longer the only authority and idols in children's minds. In this case, family education can no longer aim at cultivating children to learn more knowledge. In addition, today's society is open and changing rapidly. Everyone's success depends not only on his intelligence, but also on whether he can win the trust of others well and whether he has indomitable will. Therefore, intelligence level and personality strength constitute the two pillars of today's children's success. But the reality is that many of our children have the opportunity to receive family education, and many of them are very different from today's times. Some families ignore the changes in society and still blindly let their children pursue grades and book knowledge, and excessively protect their children's self-practice. This kind of imperfect family education can't cultivate the talents needed by the times. Therefore, the goal of family education should be diversified, and the choices available to children should also be diversified.
Fourth, rationally allocate energy and financial resources and solve the problem of methods.
At present, a grim fact is that most of our family education is still at a relatively low level: some are too fond of it and let it go; Some autocratic orders, disrespect for children and so on. Many parents are dissatisfied with their relationship with their children. They know that their parenting skills such as "sticks add up to filial piety" and "pampering" are not desirable. However, they have no choice but to master the scientific methods of educating their children. Especially when their children's horizons are broadened and their knowledge is enriched, the relationship with their parents becomes more tense. Many parents deeply feel that family education can't start, and it is not uncommon to emphasize teaching. As far as family education itself is concerned, it needs new concepts, new ideas, new horizons and new methods; For every parent, the first choice is to study, study and study again, and constantly adapt to the changing society and the progress and needs of children. In the direction of efforts, we should constantly raise family education to a new level: first, strengthen the education of love, caring people are the people needed by the motherland and families; Second, we should strengthen responsibility education, so that a responsible person can stand on his own feet in society and treat others sincerely; Third, strengthen patient education, cultivate children's tough character and stand the test of difficulties; Fourth, strengthen wisdom education and master skills that are useful to society.